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[totoro5]

Hi, I will explain more in a different thread about my situation. I have been doing some searching and finally found a forum that seems to include male victims. I hope I am welcome here as I don't want to intrude on any safe spaces women may have. I generally just need a little chat and to get things off my chest and to feel I guess less alone - hopefully. 

[Struggling88]

Hi @totoro5 and welcome to AS! You are absolutely welcome here, AS is for all survivors of sexual assault/abuse. I’m sorry for what you have been through, but glad you have found our site. There are other male members that are active on the site, and there is a forum for males only, if you would feel more comfortable posting in there. You have to make 10 posts first and message one of the section moderators for the password. Some of the more active male members that come to the top of my head right now are @Free2Fly and @rileyk86, although I have found that everyone here has been supportive and helpful. You are not alone. Someone here will be able to relate to your situation, whether they are male or female. Take your time looking around and if you have any questions, you can message me any time! 

[marcyabadeer]

Welcome! This is a safe place to share anything you feel you want to get off your chest. I hope you find some comfort here. Sending comforting hugs if ok

[8888]

Welcome @totoro5 to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  As @Struggling88 said there is a males only forum here.  I see @Free2Fly around here quite often and there are other male survivors here too.  I hope you will find the support you are looking for here.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

[little_boy_lost]

I am a male survivor and have found a lot of support here and on another website called "malesurvivor" is think is ".org". I've been working a lot so I haven't been posting a lot. But feel free to message me if you want to chat. 

[MeBeMary]

Hi totoro5,

Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the traumas you have endured, but you will find this a very supportive site...no matter your gender. Altho we do have more female than male, you are very welcome to our community. We do not discriminate and you will find understanding and kindness here. Take your time to look around and when you feel comfortable, feel free to interact. You are not alone. 

I wish you the very best as you walk this path of healing.

Mary

[goldraindrops]

Dear @totoro5,

I'm sorry for the suffering that has brought you here.  This is a kind and supportive community that welcomes both genders.  We all know the pain of sexual abuse.  

We have many threads that you might find interesting.  Feel free to read and post as you feel comfortable.

Blessings,

Gold Raindrops

[missfrier]

Dear totoro5

I am sorry for all that you have been through.   You have been so brave in reaching out to us, please know that this is never easy!   We are all here for you and we want to support you.  You're not alone in your healing journey and are always welcome to lean on us for extra support.  You can post as much or as little as you like.  We are here to support you in the way you need.  I have found this community to be very helpful.  Everyone is so understanding and non-judgmental and I am hoping you feel the same way once you've gotten to know us a little.   

All my best,
missfrier

[Poppy_]

Hi, @totoro5 - 

Welcome to After Silence! As everyone else here has stated, you are absolutely welcome here! I'm hoping that you will find comfort in knowing that you are not the only male survivor here and there will be others that can understand. 

Feel free to post whenever you feel ready  If you need help deciding where to post something, feel free to shoot me a message and I'll do my best to help you out! If you have any other questions or concerns, I'm here for that too! 

Wishing you the best,
Poppy

[totoro5]

Hi everyone!! Thank you so much for the warm welcomes! I did disappear after posting that first post as I got a little nervous to post my situation and what has happened to me. I do wish I saw these posts though as I think I wouls have been less scared as you were all welcoming and so kind - thank you. I am going to look around a bit as I am unsure whether I can post some things. One of the things I was hoping to get out is happening to me currently but isn't as such connected to my sexual assault but does involve abuse.

Thanks again and I wull try not to vanish this time!!

[totoro5]

I have had a little look around - would I be able to post in the 'Gathering Place' about my experience from before my sexual assault, to the sexual assault and then after it to now where I am trying to end my current relationship which has involved my partner being abusive? If not, where should I post? I don't want to post in the wrong place but want to share my story and really need some support on what I am going through. Thank you. 

Edit: I missed 'Share your story here' so i guess that's where I will post 🙈 🤣

Edited May 9, 2020 by totoro5