KeLLe Posted March 24, 2019 Hello everyone! I am KeLLe and I am happy to have found this space. I am a survivor and am hoping to work through some things here, as well as to support others. Thank you for accepting me! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MeBeMary Posted March 24, 2019 Hi KeLLe, Welcome to AS. I am very sorry for whatever has brought you here, but you will find much support here. Our members are understanding and kind. It takes courage to reach out, so I acknowledge this in you. Take your time and look around the site. You will see many others share your struggles. When you are comfortable, feel free to jump in. I wish you the very best on this journey of healing. Mary Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chahari2000 Posted March 24, 2019 Welcome to the site. I myself am a new member looking for support. I just want you to know that you are not alone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhoenixRoxanne Posted March 24, 2019 Hi KeLLe! I just joined too and I am already finding this space very supportive and resourceful. So sorry for whatever brought you here, but you also also so brave and strong for wanting to heal! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KeLLe Posted March 25, 2019 Thank you all for making me feel welcome! It's funny because for the longest time I thought I had healed, but I have begun planning my own wedding and it has brought up so many things for me! I was strong enough yesterday to tell my step-mom what had happened to me as a child. She was so upset, I felt bad for upsetting her. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhoenixRoxanne Posted March 25, 2019 23 minutes ago, KeLLe said: was strong enough yesterday to tell my step-mom what had happened to me as a child. She was so upset, I felt bad for upsetting her. That must have taken so much courage. You should be proud of yourself for being open with her and sharing your truth. I know it’s probably hard, but try not too feel to bad for upsetting her, she’s probably upset because she loves so much! Also, congratulations on your wedding! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HiddenHeart Posted March 25, 2019 Hello, @KeLLe, welcome to AS. That was a very strong thing you did. Sometimes people who love in a healthy way get upset when they find out about the things that happened. Try to remember you didn’t do this to her - the person who hurt you did. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sarahoknow Posted March 25, 2019 Hi KeLLe, welcome to AS. I hope you find lots of care and support here. x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capulet Posted March 25, 2019 Hi @KeLLe - welcome to After Silence!!! I am slow to get in my official welcome, but you know what they say - better late than never. I'm so sorry that trauma has led you here, but I am glad you've found a safe place. The folks here are fantastic. I hope that being here brings you peace, comfort and healing - I know that wedding planning can be SO stressful (congratulations to you and your to-be!) and that stressors are famous for bringing up things we don't necessarily want to deal with. But you're definitely not alone here. Looking forward to getting to know you - again - welcome! Best wishes, Capulet Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
M1l0 Posted March 25, 2019 Hi, I am new today too! Also planning a wedding - we are getting married next year and my fiance was the first human I ever told about my abuse. Absolute hero When are you getting married?xxx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Struggling88 Posted March 25, 2019 Hi, KeLLe, and welcome! Welcome to you too, M1I0! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KeLLe Posted March 25, 2019 6 hours ago, M1l0 said: Hi, I am new today too! Also planning a wedding - we are getting married next year and my fiance was the first human I ever told about my abuse. Absolute hero When are you getting married?xxx Welcome @M1l0 ! Hopefully we can both find the supoort and healing that we desperately deserve and seek. We were planning on getting married next year, however, that has now been revised to 2023 so we can save more money, move house, pay off other debt, etc. No rush because neither of us are going anywhere!! I have told many different people about my abuse over the last 15 or so years. I have decided to tell my family this year. I have told one family member when I was 16 but unfortunately I didn't receive the support that I needed. I am no longer going to allow this to stay locked away inside me, I cannot carry this any longer. Best of luck with everything! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hugakeribear Posted March 26, 2019 Hi, KeLLe I just joined today. Congrats on your upcoming wedding, I been married for over 22 years and my husband is my biggest supporter, It took me 21 years to finally tell him all the details and it was the hardest thing I ever done, but when I did I felt so much weight lifted off me. Now I have a person who I feel is 100% on this journey of healing with me. my therapist recommend a book called Allies in Healing, which he read cover to cover and said he wished he had it when we first got married. I hope your soon to be hubby will be a great support for you as well. Good Luck on your journey. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AKB Posted March 27, 2019 Hi and Welcome to AS @KeLLe! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
