Hi, I'm new and need some support

[WannaMoveOn]

I'm 18 and recovering from sexual assault. Briefly, my story is that my first boyfriend ever took my virginity and then didn't took no for an answer. As I tried to tell him I wanted to get off sex, he gave me an ultimatum to leave or stay and give him what he wanted. I first didn't consider it as sexual assault, but according to the law in my country threats for getting sex and disrespect to reject is a kind of rape. I'm confused and struggling with moving on. I'm having nightmares about my ex and am experiencing extreme mood swings. All support and advice are welcome, and I would like to get in touch with some survivors to exchange experience with.  

So, feel free to write me a message. 

[MeBeMary]

Hi WannaMoveOn,

Welcome to AS. I am sorry for the trauma you endured, but you will find tons of support here. Pressure, blackmail, manipulation...these can be considered all tactics of an abuse. I am sorry he did not respect your rights, your thoughts, or your feelings. It is a big step to reach out to others who understand. I wish you many more forward steps on this journey of healing.

Mary

 

[AKB]

Hi and Welcome @WannaMoveOn. I am sorry for what has brought you here. You have found an understanding and supportive community that will be with you as you work to heal. You are not alone.

[WannaMoveOn]

8 hours ago, MeBeMary said:

Hi WannaMoveOn,

Welcome to AS. I am sorry for the trauma you endured, but you will find tons of support here. Pressure, blackmail, manipulation...these can be considered all tactics of an abuse. I am sorry he did not respect your rights, your thoughts, or your feelings. It is a big step to reach out to others who understand. I wish you many more forward steps on this journey of healing.

Mary

 

@MeBeMary, thanks for bringing up pressure and manipulation as abuse. It's exactly those kinds of bullying from my previous partner I'm trying to heal from. I appreciate your support. 

[WannaMoveOn]

8 hours ago, AKB said:

Hi and Welcome @WannaMoveOn. I am sorry for what has brought you here. You have found an understanding and supportive community that will be with you as you work to heal. You are not alone.

Hi, @AKBI am grateful for the opportunity to co-work on healing with others on this site.  

[Struggling88]

Hi, WannaMoveOn, and welcome! 

[WannaMoveOn]

1 hour ago, Struggling88 said:

Hi, WannaMoveOn, and welcome! 

@Struggling88 thank you! 

[Kmkz]

Hi @WannaMoveOn, welcome to AS. It's very brave of you to join and reach out. I hope you find what you're looking for to help you heal and wish you all the best on your healing journey.

[WannaMoveOn]

@Kmkz thank you, that's sweet of you!

[SippingTea]

Hello!

I'm new to AS as well and this is the first thread that I read. Unfortunately, I had a similar situation happen to me. I understand your confusion and the feelings of self-blame. But, it's important to remember that you aren't alone and that you are no longer going through this by yourself. Hopefully by sharing and connecting with others on here, you can heal and sleep soundly. Thanks for having the courage to share.

[goldraindrops]

Dear @SippingTea and @WannaMoveOn

I'm sorry for the traumas you both experienced and for what brought you here.  I can assure you both that there are many, many people here who can relate to your experiences and understand what you've been through.  

I encourage you both to take a look around, read the posts of others and post as you are comfortable.  

You have found a safe and supportive community.  

Wishing healing to you both.

Gold Raindrops

[SippingTea]

8 minutes ago, goldraindrops said:

 

 

Thanks @goldraindrops

[WannaMoveOn]

@goldraindrops @SippingTea Thanks, you guys! I am making progress right now and I have to say, this site has helped me in multiple ways.