Am I Overreacting

[maybenot]

I am on here to clarify if what happened to me is considered date rape. I don't went to minimize what others have been through by comparing what happened to me to their experience. But I am having issues dealing with what happened. My friend that I told says that what happened was. I'd like your opinion and suggestions on how to deal.

I flew to a friend of mines house. We had dated before and had sex before. However, for weeks before I came we discussed that we were not having sex. I'm uncomfortable with it and had issues in the past. I got there and we began to fool around. I told him that it was going in. He didn't stop he just went faster. I kept saying but I couldn't move. He was bigger. I kept wiggling and finally got from underneath and he had stopped. I feel... Please help.

[sjudmajo]

HI

It is rape when you say no and he does not stop. Also age of the male can be a factor. The fact that you have "issues" that you are dealing with as a result-that affect how you see yourself as well as how you feel about your body etc is a sign of rape. etc.

Regardless it helps to talk about the pain fo whatever it is and get help so you can function and have relationships.

Judith

[angelic]

Hello Maybenot,,

Welcome to After Silence, I'm Paula, one of the newbie support team here. I think Judith said it perfectly, everything she just said to you is what I would have said too. Please know that you have a place here and you can share as much as you like.

If you need any help getting around the board, please contact me.

take care

Paula

[HereToHealNow]

you are absolutely in your right to feel violated and emotionally confused at this situations! please don't allow anyone, and especially not yourself, to minimize the truth of what you are feeling. any moment that feels like an unfair taking away of your physical/sexual power and right to decide what happens to your body physically/sexually is without need for justification. it is your birthright to feel your feelings about this! i celebrate your bravery in being here

[~FOUND~]

Hi there.

Welcome to AS.

I hope you find this site to be helpful.

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