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Hi everyone. I'm Cae (not my legal name so I don't mind sharing it), I'm afab nonbinary (they/them). I had a different account once but I forgot my login and had to make a new one. I'm a survivor of CSA, SA, and as of last month R***. I'm still trying to wrap my head around that last one. It was at the hands of my bf who I thought could never do such a thing and I've been really struggling lately and I've had no one I could talk to about it. I think I never truly believed it would happen to me until it did.
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Hello, I'm RedSunflower I found this forum while searching for a place to share without having my face and my name attached to it. I'm very glad I found it, hopefully i catch on to the way everything here works quickly. I can't wait to get to know everyone better on our journey to healing!
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Well hello there! I'm Yeenodon, agender person assigned female at birth (you can refer to me as she, I don't mind at all!). After struggling with consequences of terrible events I went through I decided to seek help and talk. Eventually I found this forum that was still active! I hope to be able to find closure and finally moving on with life without memories living rent-free in my head. If I can also give back support, I would happily do so! A few words about myself, I'm a young adult living in Europe. I'm a lover of natural history, particularly anything regardin
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Hi everyone, I'm from Bolton in England but now live in Leeds England. I'm 41 years young. I'm here for support and hopefully to help support fellow survivors.
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Hi everyone! I’m new here hopefully this helps me get the support I need!
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Hi there, A friend of mine who is a social worker recommended finding a group like this, and I'm so pleased I found this one. The name of this site is very apt for my situation. I'm really nervous, but also have hope that this group will be of help. My aim is to accept what happened to me (my rollercoaster is rather tempestuous at the moment) and while I do that I'd like to be a support to you all as much as I can. Thank you for gathering like this. All the warmth in the world, LisaButterfly
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Hi, I’m happy to be here. I am just accepting that what had happened to me at 15 years old was not my fault. I’m 33 now, and I haven’t talked about this much because I didn’t quite understand what had really happened. I was 15. The young woman was 21 and her older brother was 24. It started with warm embraces. Signs of love. I’ve been grappling with this for years. I was in denial for many years. I never wanted to be a victim/survivor. As I got older, I felt extremely confused about what had happened. I felt something wasn’t right, but I continued to blame myself. ‘I allowed them to do i
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Hello, my therapist recommended this website to me. I just registered today so I'm still trying to figure out how to work everything. I'm sorry that we all have a reason to be on this. It makes me relieved that I'm not alone. I'm only 7 months into treatment and still on the first stage of treating the trauma so I have a long road of recovery ahead of me, but I'm hopeful to have people to relate to while going through the process. I've only told my boyfriend of four years(I finally opened up about it when we were together for 2 years), two very close friends, and my therapist about what happen
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Hi everyone, I'm new and looking forward to spending some time here. I am almost 21 years old and I have been with my lovely husband for a year this March. This January was the third year anniversary of my assault and I have only recently been deep diving into my experience with my therapist. There have been many instances that I have been taken advantage of and it's been a lot to deal with mentally. I found AS after doing more research into online support groups (the first group my therapist recommended wasn't very active). My hope for being part of this is being able to help mysel
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Hey guys, I'm new to this community and so thankful that there is a forum for mutual survivors. I was going through intense therapy while I was in college with someone who had specialized in helping those who had been victims and it was going well. However, with this new virus becoming an issue, my therapy has ceased. She isn't doing any online work, I suppose due to the sensitivity of material and we were at a very crucial point and I was recounting my story and really telling it in detail for the first time. It's really been weighing on me and effecting my moods and my connectivity in curren
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Hello, I’m Abbie. This site was recommended to me by a friend. I’m not all too sure if I’m ready to tell my full story as of yet but I’m sure that in time I will. I’ve got a lot going on right now and I think I need to be part of a supportive community like this where we can all relate to each others struggles. I guess I’m just here to say hi to anyone that might see this and that I hope you’re doing well - things may be tough for you at the moment but we can get through this one step at a time. Take care everyone x
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Hello everyone, It's always been hard for me to reach out for help but a recent event has left me feeling trapped in my own head and unable to confide in anyone close to me. Just so we're not strangers: I'm 23 years old, identify as a ciswoman & pansexual, and love to create art whether it's a drawing or jewelry or a pair of mittens or a song on my ukulele. I live in my feelings. When I'm not doing social work (I'm much better at dealing with the emotional pain of others) I'm usually reading in my hammock soaking up the Texas heat or playing frisbee/soccer/etc or spending time being
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Hi everyone, I just wanted to introduce myself quickly here as I’m brand new to this forum and although I’m a fairly anxious person by nature, I’m looking forward to coming out of my shell a bit and working through my stuff. A close friend of mine recommended this forum and by looking through quickly I can see how supportive and positive this space is! I’m a survivor of multiple assaults dating back ten years and have always put healing on the back burner until now. I look forward to the next steps in my journey and getting to connect with fellow survivors!
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Hello AS community, I'm Bambs an even shorter nickname off of Bambi, which my friends call me. I'm a 25 year old woman and I enjoy working out, pole dancing, gaming and watching DnD streams while cuddling my dog. I am joining this community a few days before I begin therapy to try and help me break out a little and get used to talking about difficult things which I do not enjoy. I would love to chat with women around my age or older into the same things as me or who have had similar experiences which I'll post about in the appropriate thread. Much love Xx
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Hi, I have no idea how to start this or what I'm doing. I suppose why I'm here should come first.... I have endured CSA, DV, and a recent, about 9 months after getting out of DV marriage, R***. I hope got the abbreviations right. I'm here because, after my recent R*** , I find that I am not able to cope or manage in the same way I could before. Those that I have turned to, well I have a few that have been as great as they can be, others not so much and relationships have been lost. I spend a lot of time online researching my feelings and reading Survivor stories. I find they help me
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Hello everyone, After five years, I am finding the courage to break my silence. After five years of therapy sessions and learning about self-love, I am inching my way to confidence. A cloud of guilt that was looming overhead has finally started to lift. A transformation is coming, I can now tell bits and pieces of my story without the guilt lingering and the tears running endlessly. There is some sense of hope lingering to take the guilt's place. I hope that by joining this community, I might be able to nurture this newfound self-love and let it bloom. I look forward to learning from you
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Hello everyone, I recently signed up to this after deciding it was finally time to confront the reality of what happened to me in the hope that I may be able to gain new insight on how to live a happier, healthier life through connecting with others. This is my first time posting on any kind of forum or really talking about my past at all, so this is very, very new to me. I am generally an extremely private and closed person so it feels a little overwhelming and I'm unsure of where to start...! Anyway, I look forward to settling in and becoming a part of the community.
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Hello everyone! I am KeLLe and I am happy to have found this space. I am a survivor and am hoping to work through some things here, as well as to support others. Thank you for accepting me!
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Well I had typed out this whole thing but then my computer crashed and I don't feel like re-typing all of it so here's the short and sweet version I havent talked about whats happened to me or how I feel about it. I'm new to this. I go by PurpleBee, or Bee. I am 22, college student, and female. I just want to say how I feel and be listened to in a safe and understanding environment. Thank you.
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Hello I’m a single mum. I’m a work in progress. I don’t know what to put here I’m still finding it hard to process the events of the last 2 years. My friends are so kind but say things like ‘Why can’t you see how far you have come?’ And ‘why didn’t you leave sooner?’ And some ‘it cannot be true or the police would have arrested him’ I’ve lost my job, my dignity, my sense of self, my financial security, my children’s sense of safety (tho mine greater) my church, my close friends, my extended in law family. It’s been like multiple bereavements. I have big holes in my memory and what I can only c
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Hi y'all! I'm a new member as of a few days ago and here I am to make my introductions! I am 20 and I use they/them/theirs pronouns. I'm a csa and sexual assault survivor struggling with anxiety and severe depression. I'm looking forward to finding support in this awesome-seeming community!
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I am 32 and my incident happened in November of 2011. I recently watched '13 Reasons Why' on Netflix and the special where they talk to the cast and crew. They stated how important it is to talk about your experience, saying that the more you tell your story the less power it has over you. When I reflected on that, I realized I hadn't really talked much about it. I started looking for a way to talk about it and found AS, which was so perfect because I felt like I had just shut up or shut down. I didn't want to burden my family/friends with my experience more than I already had. Thank you
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Hello, I have just found this website. Im still confused about what happend just looking for support from people that have been through the same experience.
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Hey there everyone, my name is Nathan, and i'm a survivor, (so far) of sexual abuse by a male family friend. I have tried many times to do something about this, but i always get scared and run away to drugs and alcohol. Getting some counselling in a few weeks, so hopefully i can nip this in the bud. If anyone wants to chat or hear more of my story or whatever, i guess i'd be happy to oblige, although, i don;t talk about it very much. Just reaching out i guess, don't leave me hanging, or do, whatever. Peace and Love to you all. <3
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Hello everyone....I'm not really sure what to say or where to start. You can call me Lucky. During my childhood I experienced all different types of abuse. I'm finally learning how to deal with it. I joined this website to connect with other people who understand. I hope to meet some new friends and connect with people.
