confusedandsad

Thank you so much for all of your responses. I am amazed at the validation, support and wisdom that has come from this group. Thank you.

Hi Caitlin, I have only been a member of this site for a few hours and I am amazed at how encouraged, validated and supported I feel. I am sorry for the terrible things you had to go through and I hope you find comfort here.

A year after my husband did what he did to me I finally had the nerve to ask him if he knew how hurt I was by what he did and he said, "yeah, i knew you were crying, see how pathetic our marriage was. If I had loved you I never would have been able to do that to you." 3 Years later it came up again and he said, "shut up about that already, YOU LET ME DO IT". He's a real gem!

Towards the end of my marriage my typically, polite and friendly husband became mean and began to say terrible things to me. I desperately wanted to make my marriage work so I, although a normally strong and confident person, tolerated his actions and began to believe his words. Throughout our marriage he wanted me to have anal intercourse, but I had always refused. One day he came into the room, lied down on the bed and literally began to have sex with my body (by this I mean, he did not have any intention of intimacy nor did he pretend to), I was so eager to please him I let him. Eventua