Jill

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About Jill

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    I am me!
  • Birthday 09/26/1968

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    Florida
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    spending time with my family & friends, playing the piano, riding horses, dancing, shooting pool, hot bubble baths, a great glass of red wine, my toothbrush, and most of all...a good night's sleep!!!
  1. Hi PinkyJo, Welcome to AS. I've found the support here to be gentle and safe. Hope you find the same. Post at your own pace. We're glad you found us! Hugs, Jill
  2. Hi Sonic, Just wanted to send you a warm welcome to After Silence. Glad you found this site! I'm fairly new here too...and I've been so impressed with how loving, supportive and insightful everyone here is. I hope you find the same! Welcome again! Warmly, Jill
  3. Hello Dopey! Just wanted to send you a warm welcome! I just joined a month ago and I hope that you find the people here to be as kind and insightful as I have. Welcome to After Silence! ~Jill
  4. Dear Survivin13, Welcome to AS! OMG....I can so feel what you are going through right now. My trial ended 3 weeks ago yesterday. I am only lucky that my a**acker is not a US citizen and is dealing with immigration right now. I am so very proud of you. I know how difficult and unfair the judicial process is. I wasn't allowed to be in the courtroom either. That week was almost as hard for me as the week following my a**ack. You are so brave! And you did an awesome thing!!! I'm glad to hear that at least one of your a**ackers will be serving time and is registered as an offender. Hopefully their experience over this past year will be enough to make them both think about what they've done. My a**acker got a misdemeanor domestic battery conviction and time served of 364 days! For what he did, he should have gotton 34 years. Just remember...You did the right thing...and I hope that can give you some comfort!!! It took great strength and courage and I honor you for that! I'm also glad you found this site. The people here are very loving, supportive and inspiring. Welcome on board! ~Jill
  5. Hi Fox! Welcome to AS! I felt weird joining too. I joined about a month ago. And I can tell you that the people here are very loving and supportive. I am sorry that your family hurt you so much. And remember that it wasn't your fault. I honor you for your courage! You are a survivor!!!! I hope you keep posting too!! ~Jill
  6. Hi Michelle! Welcome to The Family! I'm fairly new here too. Know that you are safe and that we're all here for you! I had my first anniversary on October 22nd. I spent the day at trial for my case. How ironic huh? Not sure what the Oct 22nd's of my future will look like, but I know that I have a safe place here and much support. I will be thinking of you this Thursday and sending love your way! Glad you're here! Love, Jill
  7. I'm 36 ...happier and more alive than I've ever felt in my life! Old enough to get excited when I get carded!!! (Got carded this weekend...maybe that's part of the reason I'm in such a good mood lately!)
  8. I just found this site this week too. Everyone here is wonderful. I'm glad you found it too! Welcome to AS!!!! Love, Jill
  9. Hello Everyone! Well, this piece of my life has finally come to a close. I cannot express the relief I feel!!! The jury found him guilty of only one charge, the domestic battery. All other charges were found to be not guilty. His sentence was for a mere 364 days, and he served exactly that. He is not a US citizen, so there is an immigration hold on him and because of that, he was not released last night. He was held in custody and now has to deal INS. There is a possibility that they will deport him. The prosecutor is going to help me so I can stay abreast of that situation. I know that he definitely got his monies worth out of his defense attorney's and that they were merely doing their job. I feel that my attorney did an incredible job as well. I am grateful for her and for my advocate!!!!! It is sad to me how our judicial system operates. And I have learned more this week than I ever wanted to know. Before sentencing I was provided an opportunity to speak and I must say that I am so glad I did. It was the most liberating moment of my life!!!!!! I spoke to him face to face, eye to eye! And told him that what he received tonight was the "deal of a lifetime" and that I hoped he was grateful! I told him that the only two people in the courtroom this week that knew the absolute truth were he and I. And that I spoke the truth!!!! And that if he believed that he did as well, then he is more sick than I knew. And that it really didn't matter. That he has robbed me of the last year of my life and that he would never take anything from me ever again!!! I told him that...one day he will have his day with his higher power and that is what matters. I also thanked him for teaching me invaluable lessons about myself and what I deserve and what I will never, ever allow anyone to do to me again! I also thanked him for teaching me part of my purpose on this earth.....to protect myself and others from him (and people like him) and that I will continue my journey and support other victims so they can find the strength to protect themselves by finding the courage to do what I did here this week! So, now I may close this chapter and embrace all the greatness that life has in store for me. Thank you, all of you...for your prayers, love, friendship and support. I could not have made it through this week without each of you! With love and many many thanks!!! Warmly, Jill
  10. Hello again my new friends! Well, I endured my first day of the trial. Being on that witness stand was by far the one of the most difficult things I've ever had to do. I think the only thing that tops it is the night of my attack. I was told by the District Attorney that everything should be wrapped up by tomorrow and I cannot wait to have this piece behind me. It is so very difficult to relax, knowing that the outcome of this is so beyond my control. I am sickened by the "story" that the defense has created! I pray that the jurors will have the wisdom strength to shuffle through all the ridiculous lies and crap in order to bring this unhealthy man to justice. Regardless of the outcome, at least I can put my head down on my pillow each night knowing that I was strong, courageous, did my best up there, and told the truth!!!! Thank you all for the prayers, words of wisdom, love and support. I could feel your presense there today. It truly was knowing that I was not alone....all the love, support and prayers from family and friends that helped me find the strength to get through my testimony. Love, Jill The light at the end of this tunnel is shining brighter by the minute. And I'm eager to embrace it!!!
  11. You all are just blowing me away!! I'm just overwhelmed by emotion....guess I've supressed alot of it. I think I'm feeling joy and sadness at the same time right now and I'm trying to filter through it. It is just so comforting to receive such a warm welcome. I cannot wait to tell my support group about this site and all the wonderful people in it!!!! With thanks! Jill
  12. Thank you ALL for such a warm welcome and your words of encouragement!!!! I'm so glad I stumbled on this site
  13. Hello everyone! My name is Jill. I'm new to this site as well. It's nice to see there are so many members and so much activity on this site. I'm glad that I stumbled upon it! Still learning how to navigate through here, so please bear with me?! I am a survivor of physical battery and rape. My attack took place a year ago, by someone I was dating at the time. I am scheduled to go to trial this week. It has been postponed so many times I've lost count. Now that it is finally really here, I'm feeling anxious and very vulnerable. It feels like being victimized all over again...and the process has hardly begun. I can almost see the finish line and yet the thought of having to relive the details makes me ill. I'm praying for some closure this week, the ability to stay calm and clear throughout the trial, justice, and that my case be one that is added to the list of positive statistics. Thanks for giving me a safe place to vent! ~Jill
  14. Hello everyone! I'm new to this site as well. It's nice to see there are so many members and so much activity on this site. I'm glad that I stumbled upon it! I am a survivor of physical battery and rape. My attack took place a year ago, by someone I was dating at the time. I am scheduled to go to trial this week. It has been postponed so many times I've lost count. Now that it is finally really here, I'm feeling anxious and very vulnerable. It feels like being victimized all over again...and the process has hardly begun. I can almost see the finish line and yet the thought of having to relive the details makes me ill. I'm praying for some closure this week, the ability to stay calm and clear throughout the trial, and that my case might be one that is added to the list of positive statistics. Thanks for giving me a safe place to vent! ~Jill