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Hello, X-Slinger42. Welcome to AS! I'm glad that you found your way here, that your acquaintance told you about us. I'm sorry though for what you experienced. You didn't deserve that at all, and it wasn't your fault. Do you have a therapist? I highly suggest finding one. Having a T really helps work through the trauma. Of course, being a part of a community like this also helps! But a therapist is really helpful. You'll find a lot of friendly and supportive people here...you're not alone. Wishing you all the best on your healing journey. ❤️ Take care! -Finch

Welcome to AS, @11413729ljb! I'm glad you found your way here. I'm sorry for what happened to you, though. Very sorry. So awful...You didn't deserve that, and none of it was your fault. It makes sense that you'd still be struggling. It's only been a year since it happened (and honestly, no matter how long it's been since the trauma, it's ok to still be struggling). Do you have a therapist you can speak to about what happened and help you through healing? You're not alone here. You'll find a lot of very friendly and supportive people in this community. I wish you all the best on this hea

Hello and welcome to AS, @strugglebus! I'm glad you found your way here, though I am terribly sorry for what you went through. You were so young...such a baby. You didn't deserve it. Please know that you were not at fault. You were too young to know anything (anything! Seriously!), so there is NO way that you could know to say "no" or know that what was happening was wrong. So please try to work on not blaming yourself. You were an innocent child. Even though your brother was young as well, he knew more. He shouldn't have done what he did to you. Children can abuse, too. My brother was

Welcome to AS, @tralee98! I'm glad you found your way here. I'm so sorry for what you've experienced, though. So sorry your former partner did that to you. It was an atrocious act and so very undeserved. But I'm proud of you for being proud of yourself for how far you've come so far on your healing journey. That's good you've been seeing a therapist for the past 5 years since the event happened, too. Therapy can be so helpful. I can't say whether it stops replaying in your mind or not. But I will say that with extra support from awesome people here and your therapist, that you will work

Welcome to AS, @Survive1! I'm glad you found your way here, though I'm so terribly sorry for what you've been through. And for you to have been SA'ed even when you were a toddler...that is so sad and sickening. You didn't deserve any of what happened to you throughout the years. None of it was your fault. I'm sorry that you were attacked by a troll on a similar website before. That is awful! We do a good job of keeping people safe here on AS, so I hope that you will feel comfortable here. There's a lot of friendly and supportive people in this community that will listen to you, no doubt about

Welcome to AS, @hummie-bird. I'm glad you found your way here, though I am terribly sorry for what you've experienced that caused you to be a survivor so young. It was undeserved. Healing takes time, and yes, it can take our whole lives! There's no timeline for healing, but I'm proud of you for working on it. And congrats on graduating! Take your time exploring the forums. You'll find a lot of very friendly and supportive people here. ❤️ Best wishes on your healing journey! -Finch

Welcome to AS, Need2heal828! I'm glad you found your way here, though I'm terribly sorry for what you've experienced. You didn't deserve any of what happened to you. You've struggled for so many years with these feelings, and I'm so sorry for that. But you are no longer alone, and you are in a place where you can share what happened to you. You will find a lot of very kind and supportive people here. ❤️ I hope that you are able to form a good bond with your new T and then be able to open up to her, too. But take your time. It took me 2 years to open up to my T, so it's different for ever

Hello, @WhatsInAName! Nice to meet you! I'm glad that you joined AS. I'm sorry, though, for what you've experienced that led you here. You didn't deserve it. You'll find a lot of kind and supportive people in this community that will be happy to help you through the healing process. It'll be great if you're a frequent poster! No problem there! Use AS as you feel is best. Take care! -Finch

Welcome to AS, @Mendingrose. I'm so sorry for what you've experienced. You didn't deserve any of it. It was all so very wrong. I'm sorry that even with years of therapy that you're still struggling. But having a support group like AS might help. You're not alone anymore. You'll meet a lot of very friendly and supportive people here. ❤️ Wishing you all the very best on this healing journey! Sending you lots of support. -Finch

Hello and welcome to AS, @Theimpossibledream! I'm glad you found your way here. AS is a great place to start your healing journey. I'm terribly sorry for what you've experienced...you didn't deserve any of it. You're not alone though. You'll find people here that can relate, and we're all super supportive and kind. ❤️ I'm glad you're taking steps to heal, including getting on a wait list for therapy. I wish you all the very best. Sending you lots of support! -Finch

Welcome to AS, @fiendishflora! I'm glad you found your way here. You definitely haven't done anything wrong. No worries! It's totally normal to be nervous in a new place, though. But have no fear...there's a ton of supportive and kind people here. You're not alone. I'm so sorry for what you've experienced. You didn't deserve any of it, whatever it may have been. I hope that you find AS to be as helpful as I have. I wish you all the best on your healing journey. ❤️ -Finch

Welcome to AS, Coben. I'm glad you found your way here. I'm really sorry for what you've been through, though. You didn't deserve it. You're not alone now...you'll find a lot of very friendly and supportive people here. And it's ok to be nervous at first! Take your time exploring the site. We're here for you if you need any help. Best wishes to you! -Finch

Hello, @Fadingflower12 and welcome (back) to AS! I'm sorry that you have reason to be back here. But please do not feel too frustrated...it's ok to go backwards a little. You'll bounce back. We're always glad to be here for you, no matter how many times you need to return. Forestmistheather made some really great points. You're not alone, and there's nothing wrong with using AS as a tool to help yourself get back to where you were. You were here before, so does that mean you had an account already? If so, and you would like to merge your previous one with this current one (so you have a

Welcome to After Silence, @song_of_sky! I'm glad you found your way here. I'm sorry for what you went through, though. It was undeserved. Being coerced into doing anything you don't want to do is wrong. I'm glad you recently learned that, and will now work on healing. ❤️ You're not alone. And there's no comparing here of what's "worse" or not...so no worries. You belong. You will find a lot of kind and supportive people here. I wish you all the best! -Finch

Hello, @Liv2021! Welcome to AS. I'm glad you found your way here. I'm so sorry for what you've been through, especially since it was so recent. There is no comparing here about what is "worse" or "not as bad," ok? What you went through was disturbing and traumatizing, and it was undeserved. I'm sorry he did those things to you. You must've been so uncomfortable and helpless feeling, especially since you didn't feel like you could tell anyone. I hope that being here on AS will help you. You'll find a lot of friendly and supportive people. You're not alone!! ❤️ -Finch

Welcome to AS, @Mimi M.. I'm glad you found your way here, though I'm terribly sorry for what you've experienced. No child should go through what you went through. And you're not alone...I've read several posts from parents that suffered CSA feeling triggered by their children because they remind them of themselves at that age...and what they suffered from. It makes sense. I'm sorry, though, that you feel like you have to create some distance between you and your daughter. Do you have a therapist? Does the program help provide one for you? It's good you have that program to help, but it seems

Welcome to After Silence, @withtime. ❤️ I'm glad you found your way here. You're not alone...I'm sorry that you've been struggling a lot lately. It is very hard to go day by day after suffering past abuse. And telling your story is super difficult...but it can help. There's no rush in telling your story here though. Just take your time. Explore the site, read posts, reply to some threads if you're comfortable. You will find a lot of kind and supportive people here. You've definitely found your place! Sending you support and comfort. ❤️ -Finch

Welcome to AS, ClassicalSinger. I'm so sorry for what you've gone through...and it happened not too long ago. Your feelings are valid. It's good that you joined here in the hopes of healing and gaining support. You're definitely not alone. ❤️ Sending you lots of support and well wishes! -Finch

Welcome to AS, @despentes! Howdy to you! I'm so glad you found your way here and decided to join, but I'm very sorry for what you've experienced. It was undeserved, and none of it was your fault. You absolutely deserve to get support as well, so it's wonderful you're taking this step. It's interesting you're working on a performance piece! Very cool. I wish you the best with that. I wonder if it helps you to heal in a way, by working on this piece...you work through some of the emotions dealing with your SA since it focuses heavily on SA as well. Take your time exploring the site and fee

Welcome to After Silence, @SweetJade! I'm glad you found your way here. You will find a lot of very kind and supportive people in this community. You're not alone. I'm sorry for what you've experienced...it was undeserved, but you are on the path to healing now. It can be very hard to tell your story, but you're in a safe place now. ❤️ Sending you lots of support and comfort! -Finch

Sending you lots support, huggles, and comfort on this very distinct trauamaversary. It's quite the milestone...and it's so horrible that after all these years, there's still so much pain. I wish that there wasn't. I wish you didn't feel the pain still when fall arrives. I hope that one October 4th you WILL be able to wake up with a smile on your face, and you WILL be able to look around at the changing foliage and absorb the beauty...but until then, you have our support. It's ok to lean on your loved ones if you need the company. We're all here for you, Cap. ❤️

Welcome to AS @My Fish Jim!! You have a very interesting username. Do you have a fish named Jim, by chance? Anyhoo, I'm very glad that you found your way here. It's ok that you haven't been on a forum/chat in that long...for some people, this is their first time on a forum. And it's a really great place to have that experience. You'll find a lot of very kind and supportive people here. I'm sorry, though, for what you've been through. It was undeserved. I'm proud of you for going to T and even doing EMDR! (or having the goal to anyway!) I've never done EMDR, but I've heard it's very diffi

Welcome to After Silence, @wanderingandlost97! And also, welcome to your first ever forum! I'm glad you found your way here, though I'm terribly sorry for the reasons behind needing us. You're not alone. There are a lot of very kind and supportive people here. I'm sorry you're struggling so much, but please know that you can reach out to us any time you need to. I will be sending you a PM (private message) soon with some helpful links. I wish you all the best. Again, you are not alone anymore...we're all here for you. -Finch