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Finchy

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    New here - looking for support

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    Welcome to AS, @Ziggy18. ❤️ I'm glad you found your way here. I'm so sorry for what you've experienced, though. It was cruel and unfair...and not your fault at all. I'm so proud of you for working on healing now. It sounds like you're doing all of the right things. Take your time exploring the site. You're not alone! I wish you all the best on your healing journey. :) 

    -Finchy

    Newbie Introduction!

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    11 hours ago, Claire Marie said:

    Wow, super impressed by your gaming skills! That genre - Lies of P, Bloodborne, Elden Ring, and Dark Souls I feel are some of the most challenging games! I've watched my husband play and seen him toss a few controllers trying to beat them 😂  Cudos! 👏 Yes, it's the newest God of War! I can't wait to see how you like it!

    That definitely makes sense! Have you played all of the Assassin's creed games? I hear the series is huge! Would you recommend starting from the beginning of the series or picking up at a certain one? I'm mid-way through Spider Man 2 now and just love swinging around the city LOL. Ooo definitely need to play Baldur's Gate 3 as well! 

    So glad to finally meet a fellow variety gamer as well! ❤️ 

    Aww, thank you!! :)❤️ Yes, I've played Lies of P, Elden Ring, Bloodborne, and Demon's Souls. I haven't played any of the classic Dark Souls games or Sekiro. But I've played those and some other soulslike games. They're really fun, even though they're super frustrating...huge challenges to overcome! :lol: Thank you again!! Your husband must be really good, too, then, even if he's tossed his controller at times haha.

    Ah yes, I have that then! I love the God of War games. I played the original ones on...I forget which system now. Ps3? PS2? I don't know. But yeah. I've just played too many other games before getting around to Ragnorak. :) 

    I've played MOST of the Assassin's Creed games. I've played all the classic ones...the only ones I haven't played are the newer ones: Valhalla and Odyssey. (And well, Mirage, which I do have.) They changed up how the game worked in Valhalla and Odyssey...made them almost more RPG-like? They didn't appeal to me. Anyhoo, I suggest playing from Brotherhood onwards, in order. The first 2 games are definitely good, but I think starting with Ezio's story works well.

    I love the Spider Man games!!! I haven't played the new one though. I'm waiting for some sort of sale lol. But ah yes, it's so fun to swing around the city haha! 😄 

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    14 hours ago, Claire Marie said:

    Impressive! Those are all great picks! I haven't played Dragon's Dogma II or Lies of P yet. Love that you are a variety gamer as well. I am currently playing Persona 5 Royale (an amazing JRPG) definitely becoming one of my favorites with a very moving story and concept, God of War Ragnarok, and As Dusk Falls (a fun decision story game to couch play with others). Are there any upcoming games you are excited to start?

    So glad to be here ❤️

     

    Lies of P was a HUGE challenge. I just finished it last night. My goodness, that last battle was a pain, but really fun to figure out, too. :) Oh that's awesome. I really enjoyed Persona 5! I didn't play Royale, just the normal version. Persona games are so much fun. Same with God of War. Is that the newest one? If so, I haven't played that yet, but I do have it. 

    I don't tend to look ahead at games coming out, so I'm not sure! But I do have/own some games I'm looking forward to playing soon. Like Atelier Ryza 3 and the newest Assassin's Creed (I forget the name now lol). As you can see, I'm awful with remembering names. :P I was playing Baldur's Gate 3 for a while. Finished it 3 times. But I'm taking a break from it now. 

    It's fun to talk games with someone else here! ❤️ 

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    11 hours ago, Claire Marie said:

    Nice to meet you Finchy! I appreciate your kind words, glad to be here and found AS! Excited to hear you enjoyed the series Life is Strange! It is one of my all time favorites, very moving! Definitely amazing to find a fellow gamer fan :) can't wait to learn more about other games you've enjoyed!

    Life is Strange! Yes!! My mind totally blanked. :lol: Such a good series of games. All of them. What games are you playing right now? I am playing several...Zelda Tears of the Kingdom, Dragon's Dogma II, Yakuza Gaiden, and Lies of P. I play a variety of games...my favorite series though is the Atelier games. (Atelier Rorona, Ryza, Sophie, etc.)

    I wish you all the best here! ❤️ 

    Newbie Introduction!

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    Welcome to AS, Claire! I'm glad you found your way here. :) I'm sorry for what you've experienced, but you're not alone. You'll find a lot of friendly and supportive people here. I wish you all the best on your healing journey!

    Also, I love your pfp and such! I LOVE those games! For some reason, my brain is blanking on the title lol. :P But I played all of them. Really touching series. Always good to find other gamers here! (Sorry again, I don't know WHY my brain is getting foggy right now lol.)

    -Finchy

    New here

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    Welcome to AS! I'm glad you found your way here. I'm sorry for what you've experienced, though. You're not alone. You'll find a lot of friendly and supportive people here...I wish you all the best on your healing journey!

    -Finchy

    Hi :)

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    Hello and welcome to AS, @Nicollette93! I'm glad you found your way here. ❤️ I'm sorry for what you've experienced, but I'm proud of you for taking steps to heal. You'll meet a lot of very friendly and supportive people here. You're not alone. :) Wishing you all the best on your healing journey!

    -Finchy

    Saying Hi

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    Hello and welcome to AS @Maura! :) I'm glad you found your way here. I'm sorry for what you've experienced, though, and that you go through flashbacks and have CPTSD. You'll meet a lot of very friendly and supportive people here...you're not alone. Take your time exploring and post when you need some help. ❤️ Wishing you all the best on your healing journey!

    -Finchy

    Misery loves company

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    Welcome to AS, juju. ❤️ I'm glad you found your way here, though I'm sorry for what you've experienced. No one should go through what you've gone through. I'm so sorry that you struggle with PTSD. I hope that EMDR therapy will continue to help you. It's really difficult to heal, but you can do it. We're all here for you. You're not alone! Best wishes to you on your healing journey. ❤️ 

    -Finchy

    New to AS

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    Welcome to AS @D. C.! I'm glad you found your way here. I am sorry for what you've experienced, though. It was cruel and undeserved...and having an anniversary coming up is always super difficult. You're not alone in this. We're all here to help you. Awi gave good suggestions for the traumaversary. Definitely reach out here. ❤️ Treat yourself with a ton of kindness and self-love, ok? 

    Wishing you the best on your healing journey. ❤️ 

    -Finchy

    Hello

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    Welcome to AS @Tahnya! I'm glad you found your way here, though I'm terribly sorry for what you've gone through. It was cruel and undeserved. A parent is supposed to love and protect you, not harm you in the way your father did. I'm so sorry. You're not alone, though. You'll find a lot of friendly and supportive people in this community, many who can relate. Sending you lots of well wishes and support on your healing journey. ❤️ 

    -Finchy

    The Inner Child Thread

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    17 hours ago, Whydidthishappen said:

    @Finchy thank you for the link.  I have seen the DID forum, but I do not have DID.  I don't have dissociative amnesia.  I have parts and have done some IFS work in therapy but I think what I am dealing with is having inner children more than anything.

    Ah ok. Thank you for clarifying! :) I'm sorry for assuming. I'm glad you found this thread then!

    The Inner Child Thread

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    3 hours ago, Whydidthishappen said:

    Glad I found this thread.  I could use support and advice and just community around my inner children.  Does anyone ever experience, when filling out assessments for therapists or even just on your own, that it is difficult because you don't know who is filling out the questions?  I have taken different assessments, personality tests, things like that, multiple times and they're always different.  It's like the answers are coming from whoever is present in my body at the time of the assessment.  I feel all over the place, all the time, like I don't even know myself because on any given day I am a different person.  Does anyone else ever experience any of this?

    I'm sorry I can't relate, but I wanted to point you in the direction of our DID support forum. :) http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.php?/forum/129-did-support-questioning-forum/

    It might be helpful to post there as well. ❤️ Sitting with you.

    Hello

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    Welcome to AS, K. I'm glad you found your way here, though I'm sorry for what you've been through. You're not alone and will find lots of friendly and supportive people here. Wishing you all the best on your healing journey. ❤️ 

    -Finchy

    Hi

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    Hello and welcome to AS, @theonlyme! I'm glad you found your way here, though I'm terribly sorry that you have reason to join. Repressed memories are very difficult to handle...you're definitely not crazy, and I know in a way that seems like an worse of the two evils. Crazy or actually was abused. Both are terrible...I'm sorry again. You aren't alone, though. You'll find a lot of very friendly and supportive people here that can relate to you. 

    I wish you all the best on your healing journey!!

    -Finchy

    Good Morning/Evening

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    Welcome to AS, Gracie. I'm so glad you found your way here. :) I'm sorry for what you've experienced, but you aren't alone. It sounds like you're working on healing, which is great. I think being here will boost your healing even more...you'll find a lot of very friendly and supportive people in this community. Take care, and best wishes on your healing journey!

    -Finchy

    Hello everyone

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    Welcome to After Silence, Healing trauma. ❤️ I'm glad you found your way here, though I'm terribly sorry you have reason to be here in the first place. What you experienced was cruel and undeserved...absolutely not your fault at all. I understand it can be tough to discuss your trauma, but you're doing really great just joining AS. That is a huge first step towards healing! I wish you all the best. (And Mary did great explaining how it works here!0

    -Finchy

    Hello everyone!

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    Welcome to After Silence. ❤️ I'm glad you found your way here. I'm sorry for what you've experienced, but you are not at fault. What happened to you was cruel and undeserved!! As for your English, no worries. You sounded perfectly fine here in your intro. :) We have people from all over the world here. You're not alone! 

    Best wishes on your healing journey.

    -Finchy

    How to carry on

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    Welcome to AS, thutch. I'm glad you found your way here. I'm sorry for what you've gone through. It was cruel and unfair, and also, not your fault. You were a child. As a child, you didn't have control over the situation. The fault is all on the perpetrator, not you. I'm sorry again for your experience, but you aren't alone. You'll meet lots of friendly and supportive people here. Best wishes on your healing journey! ❤️ We're here for you!

    -Finchy

    My story

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    Welcome to AS @juanmata. I'm glad you found your way here. I'm so sorry for what you experienced. It was not your fault, and you did nothing wrong. I'm glad you are in therapy now and seeking help. :) I wish you all the best on your healing journey.

    -Finchy

    Hello

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    Welcome to AS @P.Treehugger! I'm glad you found your way here. I'm sorry for what you've experienced, but please know that you aren't alone. You will find lots of supportive and kind people here. It's a safe place to get out what you need to get out. Expressing your emotions and talking about your story here can help a lot. ❤️ We're here for you! Best wishes on your healing journey.

    -Finchy

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