This is Your Life... in Now That I'm Grown A blog by Alice24601 in General Posted April 15, 2020 2 hours ago, SpaceCadet said: It's always good to strive to be a better person. But it's also toxic to be ashamed of who you are, in the now. Be careful not to fall into that trap. Just to be clear, my life is not everything I dreamed that it would be. Not at all. I am coming to terms with that, and I'm still pretty young (early twenties) so I am hopeful for the future. This post wasn't so much about shame of myself, but sadness for the life I lost when I was abused. So hopefully I'm avoiding the shame trap : ) Thank you for taking the time to reply, I appreciate it.