Can a new pain fix the old in My Journey Through The Darkness A blog by Dakota101916 Posted January 10 Talk to your friend. Maybe the sexual advances triggered you in some way. Don't give in, I know it can be hard and in that dark place you can't see past the pain. Hurting yourself will only guilt you after the fact. I just hurt myself a few days ago and I feel so bad about it. The pain went away for a few seconds but after I recovered from the flashbacks and residing emotional pain guilt came in. Hang on, the physical pain will disappear as you heal the wounds but talking about what happened can heal that horrible emotional pain. You are safe now, remember that.