Hi! I am new here also. I had 2 phone therapy sessions that really didn't work well for me. Maybe it was just that therapist, but I wanted insight into how I can manage future relationships, not being told to charge my abuser (who is probably deceased) and join a rape support group. I believe that you will not be judged here and wish you healing. We are all here to heal, some with larger scars than others, but scars nonetheless. Where better to talk with others who understand what you are going through? I am fortunate that my best friend has a similar past to mine and we have discussed our pasts. "Never be a prisoner of your past. It was a lesson, not a life sentence. " That is how I am dealing with my guilt and shame for my actions which I believe resulted from my childhood abuse.