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  1. I think I'm a but of all three I honestly hate it when my T tells me back to me what I am feeling cause I just get this "no sh*t" feeling inside of me, and I appreciate any advice that is given to me that is sound and respectful, I don't normally want or ask for hugs but I try to give them freely if others need them. So I usually try to empathize first then give the person some sound advice on getting out of the whole while encouraging them that they can do it, then hug them when they are out to give them the emotional support they need, but it really depends on each individual story I come ab
  2. The reality of rape is not what people always perceive it to be if you were coerced threatened or made to feel threatened in any way so that he could coerce sex from you then this is considered rape. Many victims don't scream no because they are to scared, many are raped by spouses friend family or boyfriends many victims are scared of the trauma they have endured but do not feel it was rape because they did not say no. But I assure you his use of emotional abuse and manipulation is sexual abuse if not rape and you are in the right place for support. Welcome to AS, Audio
  3. well here on this site is a good place to start your journey. There are others here like you who understand and can support you in things people without that past may not be able to relate to even if they want to. Then I would suggest getting a counselor who specializes in sexual assualt. I went to a lot of therapists in my life and I don't really feel I was helped until I went to someone who specialized in the root of my problems which was rape and sexual abuse. I also often denied that what happened to me was rape to make things easier on myself and I understand what you mean about relations
  4. welcome, it's pretty normal to go years and years before you have flashbacks the same happened to me. Audionectar
  5. well we all need a day off sometimes I decided to stay home today and stay on as cause Im having a rough day so it happens
  6. I don't know if this response makes me feel better or worse " I'm so sorry" then silence or subject change I just feel like saying "well thanks for the apology but I don't need you to feel sorry for me I need you to let me speak and for you to give me a meaningful response to what I'm saying"
  7. "I don't think you should be sharing this" "I don't want to know anything about it" "The fact that you were unconscious doesn't make it rape, you were doing drugs" "I think we should break up I don't think I can support you through this" A conversation in reference to a sexual position "Why can you do it it like that"......"god fine forget it" First words from a new male therapist "so I heard you were raped" I could go on but I think thats enough
  8. I felt that way for a long time and I think many other survivors do also. I think thats a large part of the reason I didn't step forward and get help a long time ago. I have always been a very strong and independent person and I have always landed on my feet. But then one day I had something trigger me so badly that I did have a breakdown, I couldn't work or leave my house and after a year of this I finally went and got help after many years. Sometimes I do feel like a fraud but I think its the battle between who I know I am and who my assailants made me feel I am sometimes I feel as though op
  9. hi Lacy, I'm sorry to hear about your experience but so glad your able to share don't be afraid everyone here is very open and supportive.
  10. I can not for the life of me figure out how to personalize my account like put Ip pics and stuff. If somone could give me some pointers it would be much appreciated. My lack of computer ability is also why "may the sun will shine posted twice" so sorry :duh:
  11. Hi I'm new to the forum but I'm so happy to find it. It's been six years this September since my experience but I recently had a big trigger and I've been very depressed and isolated since. I never Knew that there where places like this on the internet, and I'm so happy to find it. It's so wonderful to know I'm not alone.
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