[Hello]

Hello @Six_times_seven and welcome on board! I am Wanna

I am glad you found us. It sounds like you had severe trauma just buckled up over the years, and now could use a community. After Silence welcomes any survivor wherever they may be in their healing journey. Our members are kind and offer a warm support system. 

This is a place where you can talk about anything, from trauma and coping to just daily life. 

I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and how it affects you. Please know you are not alone and that we believe you. Check your inbox for my extended welcoming. 

Wishing you a lovely weekend, and hope to see you around 

Wanna ☀️

[New to Aftersilence]

19 hours ago, Harlow said:

Hello everyone. I am a newbie here. I'm a little nervous about being here but at this point I'm willing to try anything to be in a better place. I'm not sure what else to say.

Hopping in to wish you welcome as well  I am Wanna. 

I am sorry for your reasons to be here, your trauma and ongoing pain. Please know we believe you, and that whatever happened was not your fault.

Having a support system is crucial when healing, and this place is full of kind members with the best intentions. It is okay to be nervous. Take things your pace and have a look around. If you would have any questions or just need a chat, you can DM me or any staff by choice. 

I am happy you decided to join in, hope to see you around! 

Wanna

[Hi everyone]

@TickerTape welcome on board! I am Wanna

First off, my sincere sympathies. Please know we believe you. Whatever happened, it was undeserved and not your fault. This is a safe place. 

After Silence is a great place to seek comfort and processing your trauma. We have kind members who form a wonderful support system, and you can participate in the way that suits your needs the best. You can share at your own pace, take part in other's stories and exchange advice. If you had a chance to gaze our forums, you'd probably noticed that we talk about everything here. It can be trauma-related, but just as about plain life really. 

Let us staff know if we can assist you in any way. Please check your inbox for an extended welcoming.

I hope to see you around and wish you the very best, 

Wanna ☀️

[Hi I'm new]

3 hours ago, Jonie said:

Hi I’m new to this group ! Having a really tough time as well . Just had my therapy which always is so so hard ! My story is a very long and hard to get over ! Something happened to me a long time ago and have now tried to get closure has resulted in losing my mum dad sister etc ! I’m lonely and feel very sad ! Anxiety and depression is bad ! All I want is justice ! Sorry to be a pain 

Hello! 

Welcome to this forum! Same goes for you, you are invited to check out our forums and hopefully find something that might help you. 

I will send you an extending welcome with some information, so check out your DM-box. 

You are not alone, and you do not have to share until you are ready and want to. You are not alone. I am sincerely sorry about your family dilemma. Many here struggle with families and some have found "new" families. 

After Silence is a safe place to connect with other survivors, share experiences and feel less lonely.  

All best, 

Wanna ☀️

[Hi I'm new]

48 minutes ago, GiantsFan said:

Hi everyone. Sorry if I get all this wrong, I'm autistic, sleep deprived and having a really bad time right now. I know I'm not meant to share my whole story here, I think it will take me a while to write anyway because it's pretty long and complicated. It also happened a long time ago but has never been resolved. Now I just want to stop thinking about it every single day and get on with my life, but not sure how to start.

 

Anyway, thanks for having me here, I'm not brilliant at knowing what to say to support other people but I hope I'll be able to contribute a bit. 

Hello and welcome on board! I am Wanna

You are doing right by posting here, this is where you make an introduction so we can greet you. 

I hope you are doing okay today, it seems like you are going through a lot. After Silence is a safe place to connect with other survivors. Our members are kind and have a lot of great advice to share. You can also come here to just vent or offer others support. Whatever you need, in your own pace. 

I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and what comes with. Please know we believe you and whatever happened, it was not your fault. 

You can DM me or any staff with questions or asking for support. We are here for you, please do not hesitate to drop a message.

Hope to see you around here, 

all best, Wanna ☀️

[I want to be the Light in the Dark]

On 1/31/2022 at 12:45 AM, LightintheDark said:

Hello everyone I'm new here, I just posted my first open discussion on the Aftermath section of this forum. I'm mainly her to find some common ground and support. I had a panic attack late one night and I just felt like I needed to share. I don't want to just survive any more, I want to take this darkness and thrive in a sense, I want to light up the room again, not like before but in a new way a healthier way. I want to build again, and I'm ready.

Hello and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna

Such a beautiful way to describe healing, lighting up a room. You know, when you start growing and recovering people can notice it. You can indeed be the one spreading hope and awareness. 

This forum is a great place for getting advice, finding fellow survivors and communicate your thoughts. Maybe you want to discuss, maybe you want to vent. This message board carries a wide range of topics. 

I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and what comes with. Please know, it was not your fault and please know, we believe you. 

Make sure to reach out if you would need anything at all.

All best, Wanna ☀️

[5 Words To Your Perpetrator]

8 minutes ago, Raven0116 said:

It was your lucky day

We crossed paths at night

Me with low self esteem

Looking for fun and love

Easy prey for your manipulation

I found an endless nightmare

It was your best day

It was my worst day

This could really be the day I met my stupid ex. Man, when you can relate. 

I am sincerely sorry they had the fortune to meet you. You were way to good for them, and they used your wish to think the best of them against you. It was not your fault, that takes some serious manipulation skills. 

Even in tough times, you live a better life than them, because you choose to honor you dignity and accept support, being true to yourself. Those are important factors for a full recovery. And you will shine by doing that. 

[Ah, Melochany is a Sweet Treat]

Hello @Helianthus and welcome to After Silence  You can call me Wanna. 

I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and what you have to battle with on a daily basis. Please know that we believe you and want to support you.

This is a platform for anyone who seeks ways to cope, heal, looking for advice or just needs to vent. After Silence is a safe place for the bumpy road of recovery. Taking that step into healing is a big milestone, and having a community can be crucial. Here, you have a chance to connect with survivors of similar experiences, who can relate first hand. 

I am sorry you feel that you are lacking anyone to speak with right now. People might mean well, but if they treat you like a permanent fragile being or put pressure on you to be something you are not, that is not constructive either way. If you had a chance to look around here, you might have noticed we talk about most things. I hope you find yourself post about those things you currently find unable to discuss IRL. 

If you would have any questions, concerns or just need some support, us staff are always here. Feel free to DM!

Hope to see you around here, good thing you found us!

- W ☀️

[Hello everyone]

Hello WolfMoon! 

Welcome welcome to After Silence! We already met, but I was so happy you decided to post here, I wanted to greet you again

 

[*Lotus Trying to Bloom*]

40 minutes ago, BlessedWithaVoice said:

I have decided that 22 years....is ENOUGH.

Hope the day finds you well as your eyes have meandered onto my 'introduction of self.' 😬 Thank you to any/all who feel led in contributing your time, hope, experiences, and/or possible advice to aide in my Surviving & Thriving! 🥰

I am a survivor of mental, verbal, physical, & sexual abuse; including rape and a relationship with a covert narcissist that stripped me of everything I had left of myself. However, I did not begin verbalizing and trying to seek intensive trauma therapy until very recently. I had began to use drugs to help me not sleep, bc I was terrified of night terrors I have suffered from for years. Terrible thing to use to cope, but I have since completed rehabilitation on my own and living proudly in sobriety!

 I am just starting my journey of healing from these traumatic events in my life. They began when I was a child all the way through to about 3 years ago. I'm scared, depressed, vulnerable, & broken among hundreds of other descriptive terminology.  

So, here I am. Thanks for having me!

~BlessedWithaVoice

Hello and welcome on board! I am Wanna

I really like your profile name. Yes, you are blessed with a voice and you have broken your silence. 

22 years is enough indeed. I am sincerely sorry you had to go through any of that. Please know, none of it was your fault. It seems like you have realized a lot about your past already. That will indeed help your journey towards recovery. 

 I hope you will feel access to support every day from now on. After Silence is a safe place with kind members, who form a wonderful support system. This is a good platform to get advice, relate and connect with other survivors. We are here for every scenario, every day. 

If you had a chance to explore the site a bit, you may have noticed that we talk about everything here. You are invited to share in your own amount and pace. 

Please let me know if you would have any questions or need some company. You can DM me or any staff member of choice  You will find an extended welcoming in your DM box. 

Hope to see you around here! 

- Wanna ☀️

 

[Light at the end of the tunnel]

26 minutes ago, DwindlingFlame said:

Hello everyone! I am so happy I found this group. I am from the North East region of the US and have been struggling for about 10 years with what happened to me and after hitting a tipping point a few weeks ago I am finally at a point in life where I want to try to move on and forgive/forget as people like to say. I don't think I can ever forgive but I'm hoping to meet others who have gone through similar experiences and learn some healthy ways to cope and go about life. 😊

Hello and welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna

My sincere sympathies on your trauma. Please know we believe you, and that it was not your fault. This is a safe place, you share whatever you want at your own pace. 

10 years is a long time to carry such a burden. I hope you find what you are searching for here. This site offers a wonderful support system by our kind members, where we can share everything related to healing to just simple things in life. 

And yes, learning healthy ways to cope is a big part of it, I really like your attitude about being here  

Every story is unique, but we tend to relate to each other here. You can receive support, exchange advice and take part in other survivor´s experiences. 

If you would need anything at all, do not hesitate to DM me or another staff member of choice. Please check your DM for an extended welcoming. 

Hope to see you around, 

- Wanna ☀️ 

[5 Words To Your Perpetrator]

42 minutes ago, Maya20 said:

I wish I had the courage to report you when you were alive. 

You broke the chains while he still walked this earth, maybe you would have reported him if he was still alive, but the most important thing in all of this is you, Maya, and you are still around. 

[5 Words To Your Perpetrator]

I forgive, others might not. 

[5 Words To Your Perpetrator]

1 minute ago, Raven0116 said:

Happy, in spite of you.

 

Slay! We should make T-shirts of this! 

[New and nervous]

8 minutes ago, mini.finch said:

Hehe yup, it's almost my AS-anniversary! I can't believe it! I know it feels like I've been here longer...a ton of my posts are from the game section, though, hehe. Thank you for being the first person to welcome me to the community, Wanna. ❤️ I will always appreciate you for that. You are awesome! So happy to see you back on the NST!! 😄 

I am also happy to be back at the NST. I feel like a rock star who´s been on a break and now gets to work with the band again. 😎

[Hello everyone]

Hello @Moe and welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna

This is a safe place, you are free to share as much or as little as you´d like. Nothing is too small or too big. Sharing your story is a great way to cope, and others may find reading it helpful. We are all here to support each other, our members form a warm support system. 

I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and pain. Please know, we believe you. After Silence is here for you

If you have browsed our site already, you might have noticed that we speak about pretty much anything here. If your would have any questions, need some company or anything at all, please feel free to DM us staff. 

With that said, hope to see you around! Check your DM for more information. 

All best, 

Wanna ☀️

[New and nervous]

You have been with us merely a year Fincy, but with the energy and care you´ve contributed to this community, I feel like it´s been much, much longer. I thought posting here would be a fun thing to give my early congrats 😄 

I am so happy we get to be AS-buddies. You have posted more this year than I have ever since I joined 3 years ago. 

[Hi there 😅]

On 1/2/2022 at 4:50 AM, Faithish said:

I am horrible at introducing myself but here we go, 

1. I’m awkward 

2. I have a boyfriend in the army 

3. It is difficult for me to open up when I don’t know who I’m talking to, but I’m giving it a try! 

Hello and welcome on board! I am Wanna

Take your time to get settled here. Opening up to a new community can feel hard for sure, but there is no stress. You take everything at your own pace. We are happy to have you.

Good thing you found us! Nobody should battle trauma alone. I am sincerely sorry for what you´ve been through. Please know, we believe you. Our members form a warm support system, and you can talk about whatever is going on in your life here. If you would have any questions, you can ask me or any other staff member. Feel free to DM questions or if you´d need a vent/chat. Hope to see you around  

- Wanna ☀️

 

[New here]

7 hours ago, Notacreativeusername said:

Hello there, I'm new, nice to meet you all!

It's also still new for me to open up about this part of my childhood life openly, never in a million years did I think that I would be here where I am. Healing and acceptance is still new to me, even though I went to therapy for a long time. 

I decided to sign up here when I realized how lonely and isolated I truly am, to try to meet and connect to new people who went through similar experiences that can have a better understanding of things I went through and going through and can relate to that.

Welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna, nice to meet you

First off all, I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and pain. Please know that you carry no guilt in this, and that we believe you.

This community is a great place for reaching out, relate and bond with other survivors. Every story is unique, but we tend to relate to each other here. You share whatever you feel comfortable with, in the pace that suits you. Nothing is too big or too little to be posted here. Our members form a wonderful support system. 

Please let me know if you would have any questions or need a chat/vent. Have a look around, I hope you find what you seek.

All best,

Wanna ☀️

[5 Words To Your Perpetrator]

I am beyond your league. 

Your secrets eat you alive. 

Keep fake smiling, you bastard. 

 

[I Can't Right Now but Maybe Someday]

Hello there, @Mission and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna

Reading your post, I want to share my sincere sympathies. I am sorry about your trauma and ongoing pain.

We believe you, and we want to support you. The idea of a community is to feel included and lessen the edge of difficult topics. You are encouraged to take your time, and how much you'll share is entirely your choice. Sometimes, it's just nice to know you're not alone. Your will to encourage others is being highly appreciated! 

This platform offers the opportunity to connect with fellow survivors. You can take part in other's experiences, get a chance to relate and create your own content. We talk about basically anything here, but we keep certain guidelines for sensitive topics. Please see your personal DM for that. 

I am glad you've decided to give After Silence a shot

If there would be anything at all, please contact us staff. Our doors are open for any questions or thoughts. 

Wishing you the very best

- W ☀️

[Happy to have found you....]

@Trauma_Unknown Hello and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna  

It's never too late. This community offers support and comfort any time. You don't have to suffer in the dark anymore. Please know that we believe you, and that none of this is your fault. 

When I read that you've went silent for 20 long years, I feel sorrow and sincere sympathy. However, that you'd finally raise your voice is so inspiring! Now I am in awe  It's okay not to tell friends and family right away. We need to take things at our pace. You're right, we're fighters, we're warriors. We all come with our own battles, but we can fight them together. 

So good to have you here. Come as often as you'd like. 

All best

- W ☀️

[hello :>]

@irisbun Hello and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna

I am happy you decided to give this forum a shot. Also, keep engaging at your own pace. This is a place to share, vent and relate. Our members form a wonderful support system. Summer can indeed be hard. We might experience "summertime sadness" for different reasons, but getting together and talk is a good initiative.

Generally, when we talk about our triggers and issues, it takes the edge off the topic a bit. 

I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and pain. Please know that it was not your fault, and that we believe you. After Silence is here for you!

Remember that us staff always has doors open for any questions and thoughts. Please let us know if you'd need something. 

Wishing you the very best oupn your healing journey

- W ☀️

[Hey!]

@TeaganMT Welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna

First off, I am sincerely sorry about your trauma and pain. Please know, that this is not on you. We believe you, and you have nothing to be ashamed about. 

Whatever your relations are, he had no excuse to force you into something you didn't want to. It's okay if the timeline is a bit blurry, that is completely normal. When something traumatic happens to us, we need to be allowed to process. We need to be able to share our voice, so that we can start our healing journey.

You did right by coming here. I am proud of you for reaching out. It's sad that your mother won't listen, but that does not imply that you should lock your story away. 

After Silence is a safe place, where our kind members form a wonderful support system. This platform is a great source of support and a chance to connect with fellow survivors. 

I wish you the very best upon your healing. Feel free to contact us staff with any questions. 

All best

- W ☀️

[Conflicted feelings about potentially predatory experiences]

@Maksim Hello and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna

You did the right thing by coming here.  As I understand your example of realizing something was off years later, I want to stress that you were a minor. Minors cannot give consent. Even if a minor is convinced they're approving, they just can't. What I want to say, is that adults have a completely other responsibility when it comes to adult-minor rather than adult-adult.

Children might not understand what's happening either. Perpetrators tend  to manipulate a situation too, so it will appear as something different. Even if your country would allow certain relationships legally, it's fore and most about how you feel and not what the law says. 

I am sincerely sorry about your trauma. You have nothing to be ashamed about. Please know, that we believe you. We are here for you. Also, please keep staying around even if you feel uncertain. It is easy to believe one exaggerated in the beginning, but survivors tend to understand their situation better after speaking to others. 

This platform offers a safe place to share, relate and receive support. Our kind members form a wonderful support system. Feel free to contact us staff if you'd have any questions whatsoever. 

Wishing you the very best

- W ☀️