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14 hours ago, sarah44 said:
Im Sarah, 56 years old. I seeked this group out as a last ditch attempt to try and heal myself.
Im sick of feeling stuck in survivor mode constantly.
I'm hoping to be able to support others whilst getting support for myself.
Hello Sarah, I am Wanna
I hope you've had a restful weekend. I am glad you chose this forum, this is a safe place for us survivors to connect. You can discuss anything here really, would it be specifics of your trauma, coping strategies or just plain life. You decide what to share, of course. No pressure!
We all carry a unique story, but survivors tend to relate to each other. You deserve to feel better and experience a functional life. We believe you
I am just one private message away if you'd need some company or support. Us staff are here for you!
Take gentle care / W ☀️
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On 3/31/2023 at 12:19 AM, Broken Zero said:
Hi. 59 yr old male saying "hi" to everyone here. I'm here to learn, understand and heal. I thought maybe I try something new. Nothing else seems to work.
Hello Broken Zero, I am Wanna
I am sorry nothing else has worked.
Finding the right treatment and coping strategies is a journey on its own, I hope you'll find a suitable option one day. Anyhow, a support system is an important key ingredient in healing. After Silence is a safe space for you to connect with fellow survivors. You can share your trauma, exchange advice, and just chat about life in general. Everyone has their own journey, but we tend to relate to each other here.
You decide what you'd like to share and when, no pressure! We believe you, and I am sincerely sorry about your trauma and everything that comes with.
I am just one PM away if you'd have questions or need some venting/chatting
All best,
W ☀️
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2 hours ago, Omgbrit said:
Hi everyone I’m glad I finally found a support group
Hello Omgbrit! I am Wanna
Yes you did, and we are so happy to have you! After Silence provides a safe space for all survivors to connect, share and relate. You can post about your trauma, exchange advice, and just chat about life in general. You decide how much you'd like to tell, no pressure whatsoever. You pick the pace.
Sometimes, it takes a survivor to understand a survivor. Healing is a rocky road, with ups and downs, but you are not alone. We believe you.
Let me know if you'd have any questions or just need a chat. I am one PM away
Take gentle care,
W ☀️
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9 hours ago, ZaaZaa said:
Thank You @WannaMoveOn
Any time ZaaZaa
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On 3/25/2023 at 5:38 AM, ZaaZaa said:
Hi all, I'm new here.
Welcome to AfterSilence ZaaZaa! I am Wanna
I hope you will find the support system you crave, this is a place for you to connect with fellow survivors at your terms. We can all pitch in with advice based upon our experiences, and we tend to relate to each other here. You decide at what pace you share and participate here. You are not alone
All best, W ☀️
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2 hours ago, ZiggyStardust said:
Hello,
I am new to the forum and I am particularly moved to have found a place for discussion and support.
I am writing to you from the other side of the world, because in my country, the issue of sexual abuse and violence is not considered a public health problem.
I have experienced these types of violence both in my early childhood and as an adult, and I am currently in the process of healing.
Please excuse me if my English is not perfect, as I am using a translation software.
Thank you for accepting me on this forum.
ZiggyStardust
Hello ZigggyStardust, I am Wanna
Welcome on board!
I understand you perfectly, and don't worry, we have many here with a different first language, including myself. Don't feel embarrassed to ask us explaining something in another way so you understand everything.
I am sincerely sorry about your trauma and everything that comes with, please know that we believe you. You are not alone, this site provides a support system by survivors for survivors. Reaching out for help is not always easy, but it will feel better in the long run. You decide how much you'd like to share and when, no pressure.
You can discuss your trauma, mental health, thoughts and much more here. You can share about plain life here too. You can contact me or any staff member of choice through the Personal Messenger, would it be for questions, some support or company.
Take care. ☀️
/W
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11 minutes ago, ViviMoon23 said:
Hi everyone. I’m new to this fourm. My name is Vivi, and its nice to meet you. Although, I wish it were under better circumstances.
I was reluctant to join an online group, waiting to hear more from my social worker. But I realized that I can’t wait. I needed to talk to others about what I’ve been through recently.
I hope we all get along well. Thank you for having me!
Hello Vivi!
I am Wanna, welcome on board
You made a very good choice coming here. Having an online community can make a whole lot of difference, knowing that you're not alone.
This site provides various forums for you to vent, share and connect with fellow survivors. You decide the pace, we are here for you.
Please know that whatever happened was not your fault and that we believe you.
You deserve to heal.
Please check your inbox for some information. You can contact me or any staff member of choice through direct message for some support, chatting or venting.
All best, W ☀️
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On 2/24/2023 at 7:06 AM, bunnie said:
Hey all, I've toyed with this intro for the past few weeks of lurking but I know that without active participation I cant begin the healing I need.
I dont really know how to introduce myself beyond the fact that like many of you I've suffered my share of sexual abuse. For me it was mostly as a younger teen and its something I still have a hard time admitting to myself let alone saying directly what happened (i.e. avoiding the r word). I hope to find the courage to admit those things to myself and others. I also hope to be of some help to others. I write a lot of poetry about it and the trauma associated with it, and the other abuse I suffered at the hands of my (heavy quotations) "parents", so perhaps I will post them at some point if such a thing is allowed here.
Thanks for listening to my rambling, a closing note is that if Im ever anxious, nervous etc I promise its never a reflection on you all or this community but rather a reflection on the experiences that have shaped me.
Much love to all who need it ❤️
~ BunnieHello Bunnie, I am Wanna
It seems like you have a lot of luggage. I am sincerely sorry for all your suffering. This is a place by survivors, for survivors. We all contribute in our own way, creating a safe space for venting, reflection and bonding. You decide what you'd like to share and when. No pressure, pick your own pace.
As you may have noticed, we have lots of forums here, covering different aspects of healing.
I think you would like out the "Healing Through Creativity"-forum, where you are invited to share your poems or take part of other's work.
You can discuss any aspect of your trauma, would it we related to sa/r or other types of dilemmas.
I hope you'll feel less alone, and wishing you a good day/night.
Us staff are always here, just one reply or one PM away.
All best, W ☀️
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8 hours ago, Mikki58 said:
Hello everyone 👋,
My name is Mikki. I'm giving this another shot since I made an account years ago and I got cold feet, unfortunately. Yet, here I am again with a willingness to heal. I look forward to this new beginning.
Hey Mikki, I am Wanna
I hope you are feeling better about joining this time around, and no worries. You pick the pace, we are here for you.
I am happy you came back here, our community is open for all survivors wherever they may be in their healing journey. You share what you feel comfortable to, and you come here when you feel like it.
Welcome back!
Us staff are always there if you'd need some support or company, do not hesitate to reach out.
All best, W ☀️
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7 hours ago, diyifnbdyelsedoes said:
Hi I am new to this forum as a survivor (m). Hope to find some opportunity for exchange and support. I am on my way to work through all I’ve been through during childhood…
Stay as safe as you can
Hello you and welcome on board! I am Wanna
I am glad you decided to sign up here, I believe every survivor can use a community. When we first start out processing, we might feel isolated with our trauma. However, a community can help you feel less alone and find healthy coping strategies. You are being strong for reaching out, you are not alone! You take your time, okay? No pressure, you pick the pace.
I am just one PM away if you'd need some support or some company.
Yes, I'll try to remain safe. Take gentle care,
W ☀️
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On 2/11/2023 at 1:39 AM, Nikki3.0 said:
I am new to this but would like to know if it helps. For most of my life I’ve been treated for epilepsy. Recently my seizures became more violent and more frequent. For the second time in my life I was admitted to a long term epilepsy video/EEG HOSPITAL ward. At the end of 6 days I was told by the attending neurologist that I was experiencing psychogenic nonepileptic events. He told me 99% of patients who have these uncontrolled muscle movements have been victims of violent sexual attacks. At any given time 50% of the patients in this particular ward are not epileptic. They are patients just like me. They have suffered trauma, suppressed it and it emerges as a physical problem. Anyone else out there ever heard of this?
I haven't heard about this specific epilepsy alike seizures, but surely about seizures and other physical symptoms related to this specific trauma. I am sorry this is happening to you.
I am Wanna by the way, welcome to After Silence!
You made a good decision by coming here, many survivors benefit from having a community. This is a safe spot to connect with fellow survivors, share your experiences and exchange support and advice. You decide how much you'd like to share, no pressure at all! You can talk about trauma related topics as well just plain life.
Wherever you may be at in your healing journey, we'll support you. You are not alone
Please reach out to me or any staff member of choice if you'd need some support, would have questions or need some company.
Take good care, W ☀️
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12 hours ago, misha said:
Hi everyone,
I'm new here. Looking forward to getting to know you all!
x Misha
Hello and welcome on board Misha! I am Wanna
This is a safe place for all survivors to feel less alone. You decide how much you come here and what you'd like to share. Sometimes it takes a survivor to understand a survivor. We all believe you. What happened was not your fault, and you deserve to feel better.
Please check your inbox for more information. Us staff are always available if you'd need some support or company.
All best, W ☀️
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15 hours ago, Alighierie said:
Hi everybody. I joined here hoping to find some support in my healing process. Most of my friends call me by some variant of an older username, Grim, but you're welcome to call me whatever's comfortable for you. I'm well past my teen years - 28, but I'm a survivor of CSA in various forms from various sources that I never really started processing and trying to heal from until this recent November. Since then I've mostly been working on my own with my therapist helping me, but I thought finding a support group would really help me in not feeling so isolated about this stuff. I figure any step forward is better than none at this point. It's still a weird sensation finding out that what I've felt all this time isn't just me being crazy and that it's incredibly natural for people to dissociate. I'd always felt like my trauma was 'lesser' because I felt like I was an outside observer to what went on. I won't get too into it here, but a few positive things about myself now:
I really enjoy reading about history. I plan on going back to school to get a degree in the topic. I used to be something of a hobbyist musician but I quit that some time ago; I just wasn't really enjoying it much anymore. And lastly, I write fiction, specifically short stories; I'm trying to finish an anthology of sorts so I can finally achieve a long-held dream of publishing some of my own work. I'm a very proud dad to two lovely cats, one (very) senior girl and a four-year-old male. They're wonderful and have helped me through a lot over the years. It's nice to meet you all.
Hello and welcome here, I am Wanna
I am sincerely sorry about what happened to you. We do not compare trauma here, we relate and support each other. So please know your emotions are validated. I hope you will find the piece of support you are missing by joining this community. This is a place for you to share, exchange advice and connect with fellow survivors. All at the pace you feel comfortable to.
I am a fan of history too! I am in fact studying history full time. You can definitely use your passion for writing here, sometimes typing your emotions out can be really relieving. We have a forum called Healing Through Creativity where you can post pieces of your writing, if you'd like.
Please let me know if I can be at any help. Me and the other staff are here for you, would it be questions or for some company.
Take gentle care, W ☀️
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9 minutes ago, Victoriamarie said:
Thank you so much, I am just trying to figure my way around the site. But that is lovely to know you are there if I need help xx
I have sent you some information, take your time and no worries
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10 minutes ago, Victoriamarie said:
Hi I am new here, I have joined to support others and also gain some support from others who can relate to me.
Hello Victoriamarie and welcome on board! I am Wanna, nice to meet you
First off, I am sincerely sorry about your trauma and how it has affected your life. We don't always understand the effect right away, but as painful as the realization is, there is hope for you too. After Silence is a safe place for all survivors to unload and feel less alone. You can share your own experiences, exchange support with fellow survivors, relate to other's experiences and much more. You decide how much you'd like to share. No expectations, just invitation
If you would have any questions, need some company or have any thoughts regarding this site, us staff are happy to help. You can always PM anyone of us!
Take gentle care,
W ☀️
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15 hours ago, broken_but_trying said:
This is my first post. As much as I appreciate my friends being available, they don't truly understand.
I was raped by a friend when I was 17. I apparently blocked it out completely until I saw him a couple years ago. It all came back to me. It hit me like it had just happened. In the end, I was diagnosed with PTSD.
Since then I was in therapy. It went well and I was able to end it. I foolishly thought I wouldn't need it again.
I had a bad trigger a week or so ago and it made me realize I have to start therapy again.
I'm feeling like this is something that will never go away. And I'll have to periodically get treatment for the rest of my life.
I'll never be rid of him.
Hello and welcome to this platform, I am Wanna
I totally feel you. I have been in and out from therapy myself for years, but with the support of my friends, family and this place, I am finally gaining back balance. I am certain you will too. The moment of just realizing and unleashing memories is the most critical time for many survivors. It's overwhelming to say at the least. However, one step at the time, you've already reached a big milestone by coming here. Reaching out for help is so brave, and I am happy you're in therapy.
You are not alone, we are all here to relate, exchange support and find healthy coping techniques.
You share at the pace you feel comfortable to.
Please let me know if you'd need some assistance with the site or some company. I am just one PM away.
Take gentle care, W ☀️
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52 minutes ago, missi said:
hi . i am new to this group . I usually try and handle my thoughts and feelings on my own, but lately I have put myself into treatment with a therapist and looking for a support system. I have found this group to be very helpful. If any one has any suggestions for me please let me know.. thank you
Hello missi and welcome here, I am Wanna
Please let us staff know if you need any help, you can contact me or any staff member through the Personal Messenger.
I would suggest to keep going to your sessions, do what brings you joy and cut yourself some slack. Take your time to get to know this site, and no pressure on posting! You share what you feel comfortable to. This is a safe place for you to connect with fellow survivors, exchange support and to relate. I am sincerely sorry about what happened to you, please know we believe you!
All best, W ☀️
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5 hours ago, TowardsHealing said:
Hello AS team !! This is TH ... I would like to introduce myself to everyone.. Since I'm new to this community, plz forgive me if i'm not posting in the correct community in the right way ! I came through this website after searching in browser . Because, as you all knew, not everyone can understand our hard path and support us in the right way.. First of all I would like to appreciate each and everyone here who is taking steps towards the path of healing instead of going in wrong path ... I hope this is a courageous 1st step we can take despite our grief .. Well , I have come across some other support grp as well but i didn't feel ok and i was becoming more negative after joining that grp. But this AS is making me feel better ..especially the different forums and trigger warning given ..so that we can choose to either read it or ignore since it's not easy for a victim like me to accept few realities at times... I personally feel like AS is something that's really gonna make me feel much better in upcoming years atleast to enable me to lead a normal life with my loved one.. I hope AS will help me to become mentally strong and regain the happy me once again
Hello TH! I am Wanna, welcome here
Yes, this is a very organized place regarding the forums. This site provides very specific rules regarding trigger warnings, and our lovely moderators are keeping this place safe. I am happy to hear you've gotten a good impression here, as oppose to your previous communities. It is important that you can choose your triggers, so your day won't be spoiled by an unpleasant surprise.
After Silence is a place for all kinds of survivors, to feel supported and understood. Sometimes it takes a survivor to get a survivor, as we tend to relate to each other in one way or another. This place is to vent, exchange advice, finding healthy coping mechanisms and just overall have a safe place to go. You can talk about trauma-related topics as just plane life.
Please know we believe you, and please know whatever happened was not your fault.
Take your time to get to know the place, and don't worry about struggling to find the right forums. Most important thing is to know what forums are public or not, so you can protect your anonymity. If you would have any questions or need some company, you are invited to contact me or any staff member of choice. We are here for you!
Take gentle care,
W ☀️
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On 1/10/2023 at 3:16 AM, Hurting18 said:
Hello,
I am new to this site and am glad I found it. I see a lot of similarities in trauma when I read everyone’s stories. I am so sorry you have all experienced this abuse as well. I am hoping to get some strength and courage from you as right now I couldn’t feel weaker and more worthless. Thank you for reading this.
Hello and welcome here, I am Wanna
I am glad you've found this site, I believe every survivor could use an anonymous support system. This community is here for you, to feel less alone and get a chance to connect with fellow survivors. You decide how much you share and when, no pressure!
You are not worthless, and you are strong for signing up here. It means you want something. I have noticed that many survivors feel like they will never catch up with others, but truth is everybody is carrying around on something. It's how we choose to cope that matters.
Please let me know if I can help you in any way, I am here to assist you and to listen. ☀️
Have a nice day, take gentle care
/ W ☀️
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6 minutes ago, Lost mum said:
Hi
I'm new to this site and chose the wrong option from the drop down menu, I chose secondary survivor because I have experienced sexual abuse myself but I am also supporting someone who is a survivor. I haven't heard the term secondary survivor before so assumed that would be the correct account access that I needed.
Is it possible for this or be changed so that I can access to the forums for survivors if I could please?
Thank you for your help
Hello Lost mum, our moderators can help you with that. Please visit the Help Desk and repost your question there. See link!
http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.php?/forum/122-help-desk/
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23 minutes ago, crazyplantlady said:
Hi I'm hoping this is the right place for my first post. I'm a newbie here and have been lurking for a minute just trying to gather the courage to post.
There's not much for me to tell right now so I'll just say hi and I hope I can find my voice here in due time.
Hello crazyplantlady (like your name a lot by the way)! I am Wanna
This is the ideal place to post an introduction. I am proud of you for reaching out and finding a community.That is a huge milestone and I am happy you decided to come here. After Silence offers a safe way to connect with fellow survivors and a wide range of forums. You can discuss trauma-related topics or just plain life here. You decide how much you want to share and when, take your time.
I am sorry about your trauma and what comes with, please know we believe you and have your back
You can contact me and any staff directly or type your questions here. Us staff are here for you, whether you need some company or assistance for this site.
Take gentle care,
W ☀️
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Hello @JoJoy
You can share in the amount and pace you feel comfortable with. Please know that none of this is your fault, you didn't choose this and it sounds like you are trying to be the best mum you can under given circumstances. We also have many parents here, so hopefully that can help you some.
Please stay safe, us staff are always available if you'd need some company or assistance. I am just one PM away
All best, W ☀️
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8 hours ago, corpsegirl333 said:
hi, i’m new here!! i finally decided to continue my process in joining today as i believe it will help me, especially in my current condition. i will go by corpsegirl here or you can call me bunny!! :3 thank you for welcoming me..
Hello and welcome here, I am Wanna
Good thing you decided to join, I believe every survivor could use a safe place to unload. Here, you can connect with fellow survivors, find healthy coping techniques and share what you feel comfortable to. You can discuss day-to-day life as trauma related topics. No expectations, just an invite to sign in when you feel like it.
I hope you will find our community boosting your healing and encounter many rewarding conversations. Please let me or any staff member of choice know if you need any help or some company!
All best, W ☀️
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1 hour ago, queennanosparkle said:
Hi everyone. I came across this forum while looking for a community of support but it took me a while to actually decide to participate. I am hoping to gain additional support surrounding coping with past events and triggers, which are often difficult for others to understand. I appreciate the existence of such a community and thank you in advance for interactions moving forward.
Hello and welcome on board! I am Wanna by the way
I am glad your stumbled upon this community. This is a safe place for all survivors looking for support. You may have noticed our wide options of forums, addressing different topics. You can basically talk about anything here, trauma-related as well as just plain life.
You decide how often you want to come here, and what for. No pressure whatsoever. I am sincerely sorry about your trauma, and everything that comes with. The aftermath can feel complex and survivors tend to feel lonely, hence connecting with fellow survivors can help your healing significantly.
Have a look around, take your time to get to know our community. If you would have any questions or need some venting/chatting, us staff are always available. You can contact me or any staff member of choice through Personal Message. We are happy to assist you and company you.
With that said, I wish you the very best and a lovely day!
Take gentle care, W ☀️
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