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  1. Hello camphore, I am Wanna. It is crucial that you take care of yourself now. I understand that this must feel surreal. Make sure to take care of yourself with the basics of self care - rest, hydration and nutrition. After Silence is here for you. You deserve to be heard, and we believe you. None of what happened to you in the past or recently is your fault. You have nothing to feel guilty or shame about. I wish you my warmest welcomes, and hope you'll reach out whenever you feel like it. Stay safe - Wanna ☀️
  2. Hello Survivor2021, I am Wanna. I wanted to wish you my warmest welcomes to this platform. You have my respect and sympathies. Taking that first step out of denial and reaching out has so much work behind it. It is such an effort, I want you to know that. In that first critical stage, our emotions, reactions and memories tend to take a toll on us, to say the least. Everything takes more energy, focusing is hard, relationships may turn difficult. Emotional outbursts, such as crying and range, as well addiction are common too. You are not alone, and you are doing the right thing by t
  3. Hello! I am Wanna Being nervous is very normal, especially when joining a community for the first time. We are glad to have you as well, hoping to offer the comfort and support you need. I am sincerely sorry this happened to you. Please know that it was not your fault and that you are doing right by reaching out. Hope to see you around! - Wanna ☀️
  4. Hello! I am Wanna My warmest welcomes to After Silence. Yes, we are all here for a reason, and every survivor and secondary survivor is invited to join in. I am sincerely sorry for your trauma. Good thing you joined us, I really hope you'll find what you need here. This platform is a place to share, vent, exchange support and advice, among many other things. Please know that none of what happened to you is your fault. Yes, we won't judge and we believe you. If you would have questions, need to chat/vent or anything at all, us staff is there for you All best, and once again,
  5. Hello Timothy, I am Wanna I am a bit late, but I wanted to wish you my warmest welcomes anyways. I hope this site will be a safe spot for you to process your trauma and find some positive contacts. This platform welcomes all kinds of survivors, and we will believe you. I am sincerely sorry this happened to you. Please know that you are entitled to your emotions and that you own your story. All best, hope to see you around - Wanna ☀️
  6. Hello Little Bo-Peep, I am Wanna Welcome to After Silence. Words can't describe how sincerely sorry I am for your trauma, and how the situation has affected your relationship with your father. It is important that you know, that none of this is your fault. Coping is not easy, and before we find a healthy way, it might sadly take toll on our close relationships. There are ways for survivors and their near ones to get through, I hope you'll eventually experience that. I hope you will find this site to become your safe place to share whatever you'd like, and to receive some advi
  7. Hello Muse1416! I am Wanna First off, my warmest welcomes to this platform. After Silence welcomes all kinds of survivors, and our members form a wonderful community. This is a place to vent, chat, receive support and feel safe. I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and how it has affected you. Please know that we will believe you, and of course, don't judge. Joining a community, especially for the first time, can make you unsure how to start. But don't worry, you take it at your own pace. You decide what you'd like to share and when. We are here for you when you feel ready. However
  8. My psychologist checked me for PTSD and depression today. Since I can sense joyfulness and am not having severe flashbacks, he wrote those possibilities off. He wants to see me again next week, so hopefully we'll find a conclusion to what I can do. I am just a bit scared, that I would be considered too well, because I am not sure how I will manage on my own.  

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      @BrightSide I am being as honest as possible, but apparently (according to the psychologist) you  feel sad about everything when depressed. I might not agree, but that is what was required for a clinical diagnosis according to him. 

      We'll see, thanks for encouraging me!

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    Hello simply, I am Wanna What happened to you is not your fault. I can say that right away without details. It is never your fault. If you are unsure about whether you gave consent or not, that is not right. You should always be sure you was safe and respected. If somebody has done something to you, resulting to the point of you considering it as SA/R/harassment, that is a big deal. Nobody should have to go through with this. It doesn't matter how "normal" this would be, that doesn't make it any less serious. I am sincerely sorry for your reasons to be here, but hopefully Aft
  10. Hello kemosabe, I am Wanna Welcome to After Silence! It can take a while before one feels ready to share. Retelling traumatic experiences and being vulnerable does not come easy to most survivors, but every survivor deserves a safe place to do so. I am happy to hear that you acknowledge our members to be kind, and that you feel less alone. This platform is a place to share, vent, exchange experiences and support. All within what you feel comfortable with. You might have noticed that we also discuss mental health among other things, like PTSD. You can talk about that as well if you'
  11. Hello BBAnn, I am Wanna Welcome to After Silence! First off, I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and all that comes with it. I am so happy you found us, that you've gotten professional help and that your partner is understanding. Having a community sort of completes the system, I believe. I recommend every survivor to find one. With this platform, you can find other survivors to exchange experiences, support and advice. You choose what to share and how much. You can talk about anything here actually. Being nervous in the beginning is totally fine, this is after all a crucial step.
  12. I called the clinic again, and they offered me to come in tomorrow at 9. I am so grateful right now. 

    1. MeBeMary


      Hope it goes well. Sitting with you, if you like. :hug: 

    2. WannaMoveOn


      @MeBeMary Thank you, I just had it. We'll meet again next week. 

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    Hello Tara! Welcome to our community, I am Wanna Good thing you found us. Having a community can be helpful in many ways, and we invite all kinds for survivors. Feel free to browse this website a bit. Whenever you feel ready, you can create a topic or participate in other members threads. You can share withing what you feel comfortable with, we talk about anything here. This is a place to get support, exchange advice, vent and much more. I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and the struggle that follows. Please know that you carry no guilt in this. After Silence is here for you!
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    Hello @Wolfly, and welcome to After Silence I am Wanna. This community will be there for you. You can choose whichever topic you like, but also, being the "fly on the wall" is okay as well. You can participate or just follow content, we are happy to have you. This is a place to receive support, relate, exchange advice, vent and much more. All kinds of survivors are invited. I am sincerely sorry for your reasons to be here. Figure skating is a lovely sport. I am from Sweden myself, where hokey and skating is a thing. I love cats 🐈 If you would need anything at all, have
  15. My psychologist decided to move our appointment two weeks earlier since he considered my condition being critical enough. Although I have exams that day, but we could meed about one week earlier. At least he takes me seriously then. I am hanging in there, just wondering how to manage this concept we call "life". It's a tricky business. 

    TW: Anxiety 

    Tried to study, but my brain released adrenaline which affected my vision. I however am planning on some studying after dinner. :) 


    1. WannaMoveOn


      @Enigma87 Of course, I'd like that :) Things just tend to be nothing or everything to me, it seems. Sometimes I am cheerful and feel like life is just out there to be explored, other days I am just meh. But at least I have a professional for that soon. ❤️ 

    2. MeBeMary


      Sorry you are struggling. Sitting with you. :hug:

    3. WannaMoveOn


      @MeBeMary Thank you. My brain just kind of decides "it's all or nothing", so either I am fine or I kind of fall a bit. Will try to make this day productive. I wish you a wonderful Friday. 

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  16. Hello Bee! Welocme to After Silence I know Discord, but never thought of the idea to find a group for survivors through that platform. If there is something that is comparable, it's probably that you can be fully anonymous here just as in Discord. You decide what to share and what you'd like to talk about. This is a place to get empathy, relate, exchange advice and much more! I am 20 myself, studying to become an agronomist. You can PM me any time. Best wishes, and stay safe - Wanna ☀️
  17. So I did at least a couple of calculation assignments today. I did not attend full classes because of anxiety attacks, and a nurse at my clinic advice me to go to the ER if I consider my situation unbearable. My session has been moved to 2 weeks earlier, at the same day as my exam, but I have asked my supervising teacher if I could do it another time. 

  18. I am not sure if I did well today or not. 

    I didn't attend many classes. I tried one this morning, but ended up with an anxiety attack and laid down to do some breathing exercises. Then I had lunch, another class, but got interrupted because the clinic called, so I could get an appointment ASAP with an psychologist. Then I went on a walk, came back, sat a full class.

    Then, I had dinner, exercised, cleaned the bathroom and talked to a friend for almost an hour. Now I sit here with some homework again at 11 pm. I think I wasn't much of a student today... but at least I tried... 

    1. snmls


      You did what you could for today and that's all that matters. Some days are like this. 

    2. WannaMoveOn


      @snmlsYes, I guess accepting comes before coping, right? 


  19. Hello Salem! I am Wanna, nice to meet you Very, very good thing that you decided to try out a community. If you want to browse for different advice and receive support, I'd say this place is ideal. We have a wide variety of forums and discuss anything here. Mental health, coping mechanism, recovery and relationships are just a few examples of frequent topics. I am happy to hear that you feel grateful for your partner. Combining an unprocessed trauma with a relationship can be very difficult and feel complicated. By opening up here though, it might become easier to discuss your stru
  20. Hello, welcome to our community! You are most welcome to do another post, update this one or select another one of our forums. Just browsing too, of you'd like. We are here for you whenever you feel ready
  21. Hello poet-survivor, I am Wanna I wanted to offer my warmest welcomes, glad you found your way back here! Only you can decide when it's time to share. With a community and the right help, you can get a chance to have a dialog about your experiences. It is also a valuable opportunity to receive valuable information and exchange advice. Something to fall back on during your recovery. If you have gotten the chance to browse the web a bit, you'll probably noticed that we talk about anything here. You are invited to share whatever you want when you feel comfortable to. I am happy to he
  22. Hello there Mary814, I am Wanna I am so happy you decided to join. After Silence is meant to be there for you. Joining a community, especially for the first time, might leave you uncertain of what will happen next. You are being courageous for taking this step. We will believe you. You own your story and we will respect you. You are right, it is time to be kinder to yourself, and listen to your own needs. This platform carries a wide diversity of survivors, with our members forming a wonderful support system. Have a look around, feel free to browse the website a bit. Onc
  23. @h-o-p-e Having people question your credibility when it comes to such traumatic issues is jarring. I am sad to hear that nobody believes you. That will change with this community, you deserve that!
  24. Hello h-o-p-e (nice choice of a name!), welcome to After Silence I am Wanna. I want to start out with sharing my sympathies, I am truly sorry for your trauma and pain. Please know that we will believe you. It's alright to be nervous, this is after all a big step. You are being brave and I hope this platform will match your wishes. After Silence is a place to do just what you described. To have some extra support, to connect and share with other survivors, to have a safe place whatever turn life might take. Also, the members are doing a wonderful job supporting another. Giving
  25. @LeslieD Hello and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna We invite all kinds of survivors here, in whatever place in life they might be. Even if we consider ourselves recovered, or mostly recovered, I believe every survivor should have a safe platform for networking. Especially in these times, trauma and old thoughts might catch upon us, and our needs might change. I am happy to hear that you feel support from people close to you. That you have experienced helpful support and got the chance to heal. You can ask any questions you want here and come as often as you like. Browse,
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