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  1. On 9/26/2020 at 5:32 AM, mommat said:

    Mom of victim looking for support

    Hello mommat, I am Wanna :flowers:

    I am deeply sorry for your pain and the trauma of someone you love. You made a good decision coming here. You can learn further about healthy coping, healing and receiving support for yourself as well. :aswelcomesu: :notalone:

    All the best and my warmest welcomes

    - Wanna ☀️


  2. 5 minutes ago, LisaButterfly said:

    Thank you Wanna, I really appreciate your lovely reply. I'm not by myself in this am I... it feels comforting to be in a place where so many people understand each other, knowing this group has been a help to you all. 

    Huge amounts of respect to you all. 

    LisaButterfly 

    Respect to you too! You own your story, and I encourage you to keep using your words. 

    No, you are not alone. Neither should you have to be. You deserve to feel safe and acknowledged. 

    Wanna ☀️ 


  3. 16 minutes ago, LisaButterfly said:

    Hi there, 

    A friend of mine who is a social worker recommended finding a group like this, and I'm so pleased I found this one. The name of this site is very apt for my situation. I'm really nervous, but also have hope that this group will be of help. My aim is to accept what happened to me (my rollercoaster is rather tempestuous at the moment) and while I do that I'd like to be a support to you all as much as I can. 

    Thank you for gathering like this. 

    All the warmth in the world,

    LisaButterfly 

     

    Hello LisaButterfly! 

    Nice to meet you, I am Wanna :flowers:

    It is perfectly normal to be nervous about these things. After all, opening up and joining a community is a big step. I am happy you decided to join us!

    This is a place to share and vent within what you feel comfortable with, receive support and create a network with other survivors. We tend to relate to another here, and your support to others is highly welcomed as well. Thanks for offering! 

    What brought you here, I am truly sorry for. Being in a "roller coaster" is something I have heard about before, describing the emotional turns during processing. Please know that After Silence is here for you. 

    My warmest welcomes. Hope to see your around :aswelcomesu: :notalone:

    - Wanna ☀️


  4. Hello @Maryphanalia Welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna :flowers:

    It makes me happy to hear that you seem busy with things you like and in company of a helpful partner and a best friend. You hobbies sound delightful! 

    I am truly and deeply sorry for your trauma. This is a place to do exactly what you just described, to relate and discuss, and to feel a constant source of support. Your friend is of course invited to apply for an account as well! We have a wide diversity of survivors here, and we do not judge. We respect your story as your own and want you to heal at your own pace. For all the ups and downs, After Silence will be here. 

    I am glad that you seem to have done a bit of healing already and that you had support before. This platform wants to meet up survivors at any point of their journey. 

    If you would have any questions or want to vent/chat, us staff always has doors open :aswelcomesu: :notalone:

    Stay safe and hope to see you around

    - Wanna ☀️


  5. 4 hours ago, Elizabeth56 said:

    Hi nice to meet you all.  I'm having trouble sleeping again

      I'm on sleep meds that my psychiatrist ordered.

    If you have insomnia or nightmares, you can post about it if you like, as well about taking sleeping medications. Challenged sleep is very usual for survivors, especially in the beginning of processing. Here if you need to talk, you can PM me any time!

    All best

    - Wanna 


  6. 4 hours ago, Sobieski said:

    I want to say hello to everyone...

    Hello Sobieski! 

    Welcome to After Silence. I Wanna :flowers:

    Feel free to browse this website a bit, have a look around and if you would have any questions, staff has doors open! You can reach out to us staff if you would need to vent or to chat as well. 

    Whatever brings you here, I am sorry for. Good thing, you decided to join in. This platform carries a wide diversity of survivors. :aswelcomesu: :notalone:

    All best and take care

    - Wanna ☀️


  7. 4 hours ago, Elizabeth56 said:

    Hi, I'm Elizabeth.  This is the first group I've ever joined.

    I recently left and divorced my abusive husband.  This time I was in the hospital for two weeks.  I'm safe now.  He's in jail without bail.  But I'm still terrified of him.  I live in an assisted living facility.  I have my own room.  It's pretty nice.

    I don't know if I said to much.  Mostly I'm alone.

    Elizabeth

      

      

      

     

    🐈

    Hello Elizabeth! I am Wanna :flowers:

    You didn't say too much. This is a platform where you are invited to vent and share, receive support and connect with other survivors. 

    I am truly sorry for your trauma, please know that we believe you and that you own your story. Good thing you found us and decided to join. Hope to see you around here! :youcanheal:

    - Wanna ☀️


  8. Hello @TheatreKidJayde

    I am Wanna, welcome to After Silence! :flowers:

    Sometimes, our mind decides to "store" certain emotions and reactions until it acknowledges a safe place to start or proceed the processing. A community can help you to find such a place, you are most welcomed to vent here and receive support. 

    I am deeply and truly sorry for your trauma. You own your story, and I encourage you to keep using your words. We have a forum on this site for teenagers and young adults if you'd like to check it out.

    Hope to see you around! You are being brave for sharing. :notalone:  :youcanheal:

    All best

    - Wanna ☀️


  9. Hello @Butterfly2166 , I am Wanna. I want to offer you my warmest welcoming to this platform :flowers:

    You are being very brave for opening up. Having a community can be a great relief and resource during critical times. This is a place to vent and share within the limits of what you feel comfortable with. You can receive support here and discuss with other members. If you had a chance to browse around the site a bit, you might have noticed that we have plenty of forums here. This platform carries a wide diversity of survivors. 

    I am truly sorry for your pain. You are not alone. Feeling like healing is unachievable is a place many survivors experience. Some experience it once, others several times, but it is important that you talk about it every time you go into that head space. Your words are a valuable tool, and you own your story. I am here to tell you, that by opening up today, you have made an important step. Not letting fear taking control is strong and crucial. After Silence is here for the bad days, good days and anything in between. 

    We want to have your back, and if you would have questions, need to chat/vent or anything at all, us staff has doors open!

    Good luck and once again, welcome :supportu: :youcanheal:

    All best

    - Wanna ☀️


  10. 10 hours ago, Gerty said:

    Hi All,

    I’m new here. This is my first time on a forum like this. I always knew bits and pieces of what happened to me but over the past year or so memories started to come back and it has turned my world upside down.  It’s taken a lot of therapy but I have finally stopped denying it really happened and I’m ready to start talking about it.  I don’t want to say much here since its public but I feel like the last 30 years have been stolen from me in a way.  I’m 41 years old and suddenly I feel like I don’t even know who I am anymore.  Looking forward to having people to share with who understand.

    Hello Gerty! My warmest welcomes :flowers:

    I am truly sorry about your trauma. This is a place to get support and to get acquainted with other survivors and secondary survivors. We will be here for you and I am happy you decided to join. 

    It is never too late to start processing and healing. Feeling confused about yourself, maybe even having an identity crisis, is not unusual among survivors. I hope that you know that you are not alone in this. Good work on starting getting past denying, I encourage you to keep using your words!

    All best and take care :aswelcomesu: :youcanheal:

    - Wanna ☀️


  11. 1 hour ago, Zoe--Anastasia said:

    Hi everyone,

    I am here because I had a moment of desperation. I found myself talking to my roommate, explaining that I feel it is really hard to find someone to talk to and share in the experiences I have had as a survivor because I often don't meet people to talk to about these things. I can't consistently burden my roommate or mother, especially when they are not survivors of sexual assault. So, I am here so that I don't feel so alone. I also started a blog, if anyone wants to read. I didn't come here expecting to come across that feature. Anyway, thank you to whoever reads. ❤️ 

    Hello Zoe--Anastasia and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna :flowers:

    You shouldn't worry about "burdening people", no matter if they are survivors or not. There is support to get for secondary survivors too, we actually have that right here on this platform. I however encourage you to widen your support system and finding a community.  :) 

    We have a wide diversity of survivors here and we invite you to share within what you feel comfortable with. You own your story and we believe it. I am deeply sorry for your trauma, I wish you best of luck on your healing journey. 

    I will check out your blog! I am so happy you decided to join in :notalone: :youcanheal:

    All best and stay safe, 

    - Wanna ☀️


  12. 27 minutes ago, jellybean1982 said:

    this is my first time in a group like these i'm kind off new at these please be patient i am a 38 yrold woman with a intellectual disability. i have a full time job that i love to hate lol my boyfriend is a truck driver and we are doing the long distance thing for now. we will be living together in december. im also enrolled in evening college classes to be a veterinary tech. im here to meet friends hopefully and to gather support for what happened to me earlier this year. idk how to go forward having this in my mind all the time. im trying to forget that and move on with my life and this is my first step. if anyone could help me navigate the site and give me a little help id appreciate it. thanks in advance you guys!

    😝😝😝😝😝😆😆

    Hello jellybean1982 and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna. :flowers:

    I am truly sorry for your trauma. After Silence is here for you and we invite all kinds of survivors. Our platform has a wide diversity and we discuss plenty here. Mental health, trauma, coping, progressing and everyday life are just a few examples of what you can chat about here. If you scroll up to the top of the side, you'll find "Browse" and "Activity". If you click on them, you can help yourself to your preferred option. Under "Froums", you'll find the different rooms for different topics. Have a look! If you would have questions, you can come back to me or any staff member of choice. We are marked out on our profile and you can easily find more of us on the Public Welcome and Public Rules and Guidelines forum. 

    You can use the search bar to find specific posts. I encourage you to share what you feel comfortable to. Please add a trigger warning if the content contains details that might appear disturbing for some readers. All to take care of another here :) 

    I hope that you will find this to be a safe place and come back here. We are all anonymous, but I myself have made a wonderful network here. 

    I am happy that you are busy with school, job and a happy relationship. :youcanheal: :notalone:

    Stay safe, we got your back! 

    - Wanna ☀️


  13. 3 hours ago, abhaya said:

    Hi everyone,

    I just joined this forum and figured I'd post a short introduction. I am a survivor of CSA, DV, and spiritual abuse (not all in the same setting/relationship), and as part of trying to understand what happened I went on and got a graduate degree in counseling... but I have never felt comfortable really speaking openly about my story or even identifying as a survivor except with very close friends. I have worked with therapists one on one over the years, but I have recently started to see that there is something stopping me from moving forward in my own healing journey and I think it has to do with continuing to keep the secrets of my abuse, so I'm hoping that a peer support connection will be a good option to continue my healing.  I am lucky to have a kind and supportive partner, and am generally doing ok day-to-day, my abuse history is thankfully well in my rear view mirror now, but I still struggle with trauma symptoms and anxiety.  I have hesitated to seek support in a peer group setting in my local area because as a therapist myself I don't want to be in a group setting that prevents one of my clients from themselves seeking support due to dual relationship ethics, so I'm here solely as a fellow survivor, doing my best. Thanks for creating these forums.

     

     

     

     

    Hello abhaya and welcome to After Silence. I am Wanna :flowers:

    I am truly sorry for your suffering and trauma. You made the right choice coming here, having a stable community can support you in several ways. We invite all kinds of survivors and discuss different kinds of trauma, coping methods, daily moods and mental health here just to mention a few examples. We do have a lot of fun here too. :) 

    I am happy that you have a supportive partner. I hope that you will be able to lighten your burden on this platform by feeling safe to open up. We believe you. If you would need anything at all, us staff is here. Whether you have questions, need advice or someone to sit with you, we have doors open!  

    Stay safe and once again, welcome! :notalone: :youcanheal:

    - Wanna ☀️


  14. 18 minutes ago, briamarie said:

    Hi, 

    I think I've been trying to *heal* for about a year and a half, maybe 2 and I feel worse than when I did when I finally understood what happened to me. After being on different message boards for a few days just looking around, I'm starting to realize that I may have experienced way more abuse than I originally thought and I just didnt know what to call it or never realized it was abuse until now? So ... I am very confused and looking to feel less alone and afraid of healing. 

    Hello briamarie and welcome to After Silence! 🌻 I am Wanna. You are not too late, I can assure :) 

    I am truly sorry for your trauma and what you have to cope with. As you get more informed and remember, the more you might realize how bad your situation was. It sure takes time to process.

    I understand that you feel confused now, our brains can only take so much at the time. Talking about it and exchange experiences is a way to both breaking the silence and to comprehend your previous situation better. 

    I am happy you decided to join and hope that After Silence will be a safe place for you. Take care and if you would have questions, need to chat/vent or anything at all, staff has doors open for you! :notalone: :youcanheal:

    Take care and stay safe, 

    - Wanna ☀️ 


  15. Hello @copper_lips I am Wanna :flowers: Welcome to After Silence!

     I am deeply sorry for your reasons to be here. This forum invites all kind of survivors. I hope that you will feel this platform being the support system you need. I am happy that you decided to  join our community, we are here to help you cope. Sharing is an important step, I encourage you to use your words and wish you best of luck on your healing journey :notalone: :youcanheal:

    All best and stay safe

    - Wanna 🌻


  16. Hello @kenken and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna :flowers:

    I am truly and deeply sorry for your trauma and how it affects your life. How it makes you scared of sex and giving you issues with physical interactions. Please know that we believe you, and that none of what happened is your fault.

    After Silence has a wide diversity of survivors, and we invite you to share as much as you feel comfortable with. If you had a chance to browse the platform, you might have noticed that we talk a bit about everything here. You can share about your past, present life, issues, progress and about anything you like. 

    Reaching out for help can be tough. I am happy you decided to join our community, and to hear that you have a supportive partner. We want you to know that After Silence is here for every step of your healing journey. 

    Feel free to look around here and if you would have questions, need advice or to vent/chat, do not hesitate to reach out to us staff. We always have doors open for you! 

    :youcanheal: :notalone:

    We are so happy to have you! Hope to see you around and stay safe

    - Wanna 


  17. 6 hours ago, D£stiny said:

    Hi i’m new here, and i dunno where to start. But i just want to tell that i feel sad and alone sometimes.. btw i’m a victim of childhood abuse. Im not pretty sure if i can call myself survivor because what happens in the past still haunt me at night 🥺

     

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    Hello and welcome to After Silence! 

    I am Wanna and wanted to wish you my warmest welcome to this platform. 

    This is a place to share, vent and receive support. You can share within what you feel comfortable with, no topic is too small or too big to be posted here. 

    This platform carries a wide diversity of survivors and our members form a wonderful support system. I am truly sorry for what you have experienced and the trauma that affects you to this day. Please know  that nothing of what happened is your fault and that we believe you. Being in doubt is not unusual, plenty of us have been there too. 

    I am so happy that you decided to join. Feel free to browse the website and if you would have any questions, need to vent/chat or advice, please know us staff always has doors open for you. 

    All best and hope to see you around :notalone: :youcanheal:

    - Wanna ☀️


  18. Hello @Jeanie234 and welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna. 🌻

    I am deeply sorry for your trauma. You are most welcomed to join in here to have After Silence supporting you through this. I have no experience with the pills, but I understand that taking them is a triggering experience on top of everything else you have to put up with right now. It is good that you start to reach out early, you are brave for doing that. 

    Self blame is normal among survivors, as the situations often are complex leaving it easier to put the guilt on yourself. Having someone close letting you down like that does not make it easier, I am sorry someone you considered close would hurt you so bad. 

     Please know that none of this is your fault and that you have nothing to be ashamed of. This community offers you to share within what you feel comfortable with, and we discuss plenty of topics here. Nothing is too small or too big to be posted here. 

    I hope you will find yourself a safe place here. If you would have any questions, need advice or to vent/chat, staff always has doors open. :notalone:

    Hope to see your around and take care of yourself 

    - Wanna ☀️


  19. 2 hours ago, pinkypie said:

    Thank you so much @WannaMoveOn  I see there are a lot of threads and subjects, lots of reading and hopefully support. Like your username, that's what I want for myself.

    Make yourself at home here. I hope you find this community to be the additional support you need to start processing. You can post about anything here :)


  20. Hello @pinkypie and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna 🌻

    I am deeply sorry for your trauma and what you have been struggling with. Please know that we believe you. 

    Whatever you carry with you here, you are most invited to share. No topic is too small or too big here, and if you had a chance to look over this forum a bit, you might have noticed that we discuss plenty of topics here. We discuss mental health and different types of violence among other things, with forums where you can vent and receive support. 

    Feeling alone, isolated, paranoid and as if you are about to lose it is something many survivors can relate to, and you are doing the right thing by reaching out. After Silence is here for you. 

    This platform carries a wide diversity of survivors and our members form a wonderful support system. 

    I am so happy you decided to join in!

    I wish you the best of luck on your recovery. Feel free to browse the site and if you would have any questions, need advice or want to vent/chat, us staff always has doors open. 

    Stay safe and hope to see you around :aswelcomesu::notalone:

    - Wanna ☀️

     


  21. 1 hour ago, Ellowyn said:

    Hi. I'm new to the site. I am a survivor of child sexual abuse and have recently been sexually assaulted as well. I am so glad to have found this site as I feel quite alone. It's early days but I'm determined to survive again. Thank you for accepting me to the site.

    Hello Ellowyn! My warmest welcomes to After Silence. :flowers: I am Wanna. 

    I am deeply sorry for your trauma, please know that we believe you. This platform carries a wide diversity of survivors and we discuss plenty of topics here, and you are welcome to share about yourself as much as you feel comfortable with. 

    Feel free to browse this website and if you would have questions, need advice or to chat/vent, us staff always has doors open. Do not hesitate to reach out. 

    I am so glad you found us and decided to join! :youcanheal: :notalone:

    Stay safe and hope to see you around

    - Wanna 🌻

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