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WannaMoveOn

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  1. So I went out today to buy some hair dye (going to dip dye). I took a walk. Finished off a podcast on that walk. I also chatted with my mom and the guy I am seeing over the phone. I am now having cabbage and carrot soup and salad for lunch, with an orange as dessert. Soup usually comforts my stomach too :) 

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    2. mini.finch

      mini.finch

      Sounds like a nice day! What color are you going to dye your hair? :) Ah yes, soup is so good. I've never had cabbage and carrot soup, but it sounds so comforting!

    3. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      @mini.finch yes, it's good. My hair is naturally kind of auburn with blond, and I dip colored light brown into it. I also had black stripes which faded into kind of dark brown, so they go well into the new color :) 

    4. mini.finch

      mini.finch

      Ooh that sounds so pretty! :) 

  2. Hello @AnnieO and welcome to After Silence! You can call me Wanna I am sincerely sorry for what happened to you and your trauma. Please know that none of it was your fault, and we believe you! Family and friends can be a wonderful support by showing sympathy, but I believe a survivor also needs that kind of empathy a community can offer. This is a safe place to share, relate and get support. You can talk about anything you'd like here, including everyday subjects and just plain life. I hope you'll let us know if there is anything we can do for you, us staff always has doors
  3. Hello @Lilo2002 and welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna I am sincerely sorry about your trauma and pain. Please know that you carry no guilt in this. We seldom understand right away what happened to us, and just getting past denial takes a lot of effort. Every healing journey is different, but I believe every survivor should have a community to bounce back on. You describe it so wonderfully yourself, silver lining is that we can connect, relate and support. You've probably noticed that we talk about pretty much anything here. You can share whatever you'd like I am so happy
  4. I've been trying to get rid of certain fixations in life so I can find more peace in chaos and changes. Today's effort: Semi-cleaned my room, left it half done for tomorrow. It is okay to have some dust and crumbles on the floor. Now I had lunch and am probably heading outside soon. 

    1. mini.finch

      mini.finch

      That's good! I have a lot of difficulty with changes. So my room is in need of a big cleaning...it has for a long time. But even "good" changes like cleaning are difficult. So I am proud of you!! ❤️ You did really well!

    2. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      @mini.finch I used to get anxiety attacks by disorganization, now I try to get over that :) 

      You can clean a bit at the time, no worries. Instagram brainwashes us to believe that everyone lives in a tidy, shiny home, but they just swiped the mess behind the camera 😄 

    3. mini.finch

      mini.finch

      That is great you're doing your best to get over it! :) For me, I have trouble touching anything that might make it go "out of place," even if it is already very disorganized as is. So cleaning and organizing is actually difficult for me. It gives me anxiety to move things from where they've been. 

      Hehe, yes! That's what they've done! The instagram world really has affected our thinking. But we need to see what's really behind the camera. 😄 

  5. Today, I'll clean my room and might cook some soup to freeze in. Breakfast: My peanut butter and banana oatmeal with 2 types of corns, apple slices with cinnamon and some honey, and berry tea. It has been one week since my last session, and the next will be the final one, so I am trying to get good at this low key-life style this month. 

  6. @Meganificent welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna I am sincerely sorry for your trauma, and for the extra struggle right now. It is all okay to not be okay at times, the important thing is to reach out for help. That might not come easy all times, why I am glad you decided to give this platform a shot. This is a safe place to share and relate, as well exchange advise and support. You can share whatever you'd like here, and come and go as you please. Aside from talking about our trauma and healing, we talk about every day life and anything that comes to our minds. I hope you'll fi
  7. @AlexandraB Welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna ☀️ Wow, you are being so strong! I am so happy you decided to give this community a shot! My advice is, to start with taking good care of yourself. You are going through a lot right now, so make sure you'd provide yourself with the basics of self care: rest, nutrition, hydration and hygiene. Surround yourself with those you trust and care for. Allow yourself to take things in your pace. Aside from getting a community, I always recommend to consider professional help. You don't have to jump into it right away, but you can look at
  8. Hello @Survivor to Warrior and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna I agree with your therapist, joining a support group is definitely a good idea. Even if you've come far, which I am happy about, sometimes our healing does require a bit of extra attention. Having a platform to express your thoughts and emotions might be a good way to get to know yourself better. You can share whatever you'd like, without being judged. This is a safe place to share and relate, as well exchange advice and support. Our members form a wonderful support system. I am sincerely sorry for your reasons to
  9. @Figs Any time. It was not your fault, and your trauma is not your fault either. It is easy to wonder if one gave mixed signals or could have done anything differently, but no, nothing excuses to take advantage of somebody and hurt them this way. You own your story, and we believe you. You are not alone!
  10. Hi! Welcome! That's alright. Take your time, you decide what to share, how much and when. You are being very brave for opening up, and I am so happy you chose this community! Have a look around, feel free to get to know the site. If you would have any questions, us staff are always available. My deepest sympathies regarding your trauma, and wishing you all the best of luck with healing. - Wanna ☀️
  11. Hello and welcome back It is important that you decide when you feel ready to start processing. I believe it needs to get done at some point, but when and in what pace is completely individual. Great to have you back! If you start over here but then need a break, it is completely fine to be away for an undefined amount of time. You come and go as you please. How are you feeling now? I am sincerely sorry about your trauma, I wish for you to have a better time coping this time around. - Wanna ☀️
  12. Hello @Figs, I am Wanna I am sincerely sorry about your trauma, and that you'd struggled finding occasions to talk about this. I believe every survivor should have a safe place to let it out, once they feel ready and up to it. Here on After Silence, we do talk about different types of violence, but also mental health and recovery methods. Meaning, you are welcome to share about your experiences, trauma and your potential diagnoses as much as you'd like. Aside from that, we really chat about anything here. Good stuff, bad stuff, whatever you'd like to get out of your system or process.
  13. Hello @Minty and welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna You are being strong for finally finding your voice and breaking away from a destructive relationship. I admire that you would stand up for yourself, but I also understand that this must be a very hard realization. You are doing the best you can, and I wish the very best for you and your children in this. This is a safe place where you can connect with other survivors, get advice, vent, chat and share whatever you'd like. You own your story, and we believe you. I always encourage survivors to also consider professional guidance.
  14. Hello @Dee12 and welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna This is a safe place to share whatever you'd like. We fully believe you, and only you own your story. I understand that you have been through a lot, and I am sincerely sorry for all that trauma and pain. You are being very strong for reaching out, that is very important to do. I was relieved to read that you've gotten into professional help, which I advice every survivor to do. However, if you feel like that a certain method or counselor doesn't fulfill your needs, it is perfectly fine to share that with them. If you still feel
  15. So I didn't get the job I got an interview for, but now my family and I have decided that they will support me financially while I take a break until the fall. I am figuring stuff out. Also I made oat meal with sunflower and pumpkin corns, raisins, banana and peanut butter. 

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    2. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      Thank you @BrightSide, I am not ashamed. I mean, I did what I had to. I made sure uni would hold my spot and I got professional help. I don't want this forever, but sure is nice now. I've learned during a very short time that I suffer dissociation, an anxiety disorder and possible complex trauma. 

      I am so grateful for people like you in this world. 

    3. mini.finch

      mini.finch

      Aww. I'm sorry about the job not going through, but you did your best. ❤️ I'm so glad that your family is being extra supportive! That's fantastic. You deserve to be supported. You deserve this break. 

      And that sounds so yummy!

    4. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      Thank you @mini.finch, I did need to hear that I deserve this. I guess this is a gap year :) Wishing you a best day!

  16. Hello there @write track, and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna I have been reading your answers on this thread, and I am happy that you've settled in here and already share a positive experience about our community. I understand your sadness in it as well; It saddens me too to learn about other's pain with this kind of trauma. It can be a lot, but I'd like to think, that we are all in this together. We own our stories and got another's back It is never too late to start healing, and the process kicks in different times for everyone. Important thing is, that you've come pass den
  17. Hello @siona and welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna Congratulations on becoming a parent! We do have parents and parents-soon-to-be on this platform. Do not hesitate to ask any questions regarding parenting advice or how to heal whilst taking care of a baby. I am sincerely and deeply sorry for your pain, and that you'd have to deal with this at a time, when you should be able to relax and prepare for birth. You are not alone in this, and I am so happy you've decided to reach out. You have nothing to be embarrassed or feel guilt about. This community has kind members who make a wo
  18. Today I tried peanut butter and jelly oat meal. I have my oat meal with sunflower corns and pumpkin corns, mixed with raisins. Today, I added a spoon of peanut butter and some jelly since I don't fancy bread right now. It was good! 

    1. abhaya

      abhaya

      That's awesome!  I love Oatmeal! I lived for a few months at a Buddhist monastery (in the USA) and we used to have oatmeal every morning, and my favorite combo: adding crunchy peanut butter warmed berries (from frozen) or plum sauce (basically applesauce but made with plums), a healthy scoop of plain yogurt, a little brown sugar and... a dash of soy sauce!  The soy sauce is just to add salt and it distributes well into the oatmeal rather than salt granules, but it's literally a "dash" so you don't taste it.  It's also great because if you cook the oats with the salt in it makes them gluey, so if you reserve the salt until after it's cooked the texture is way better.  Ok, end of silly unsolicited oatmeal rant, your oatmeal choices sound delicious!

       

    2. snmls

      snmls

      Yummy. I always add peanut butter into my oatmeal. 

    3. mini.finch

      mini.finch

      Peanut butter gives me heartburn, so I don't have it very often...but what you made sounds really good! I'm craving oatmeal now! 😄

  19. Hello @sunflowers88 and welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna First off, I am sincerely sorry for what you have been through and your reasons to be here. We welcome all kinds of survivors with all kinds of backgrounds, and we do not judge but believe you. You own your story, please know that none of this was your fault. Just coming out from a lifetime of abuse and trauma must be very relieving and overwhelming at the same time. You have gained the freedom you so rightfully deserve, but also have a journey of healing ahead. You are not alone. I am happy to hear that you've found a th
  20. I made apple salad with sunflower corns, raisins and cinnamon. I had that with pancakes and honey. Worth a try, folks! 

    1. mini.finch

      mini.finch

      Oh wow, that sounds so good!!! :throb:

    2. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      @mini.finch another tip, mix down peanut butter in your oatmeal. Even better, with bananas as well. It gets like a dessert, but it's very nutritious. :) 

  21. I just cured my headache with ginger bread and berry tea. Hope you'll have a nice day/night :) 

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    2. mini.finch

      mini.finch

      I have a migraine right now...too bad I don't have either of those! I'm glad that your headache went away! ❤️ :) 

    3. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      @snmls Thank you! 🍵

    4. WannaMoveOn

      WannaMoveOn

      @mini.finch I come from a family with a trend of headaches. I was on my way all day, so I probably had low blood sugar. Are you stressed? A shower could do. I direct the shower yet on my neck to reduce tension. Black tea is also something, and I don't know why, but licorice weirdly helps me. 

      Hope you're better!

  22. Hello Lost-Lamb and welcome to After Silence! I am Wanna I am sincerely sorry about your trauma. Please know that none of it was your fault. After Silence invites all kinds of survivors, and our members form a warm and kind support system. Maybe it was too soon for you last time, or you needed some other type of therapy. There are plenty for methods, hopefully you'll find what covers your needs the best. Yes, covid puts breaks and can also trigger in many ways. Therefore, I am happy you decided to join here. This community offers some company and support any time. I believe a commun
  23. Hello @Heretoheal and welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna Nice choice of name, I like it! As you can see, mine is also inspired of my survivor goal. Yes, break the silence! Nobody has the right to tell you to keep it secret. Being valuable and sharing is brave, you did right by coming here. I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and pain. AS invites all kinds of survivors, and I am certain you'll find survivors with similar a background story or who can relate in other ways. Our members form a warm support system. I am happy you finally found a therapist that fits your needs,
  24. Same, hope you're settling in here!
  25. Any time. Make sure to reach out if you would need advice, support or just a chat!
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