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WannaMoveOn

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  1. 15 hours ago, aemcee said:

    Hello everyone. I'm new here. I've been really struggling recently with abuse that occurred nearly 20 years ago. Without going into too much details, I have had quite a few people tell me that what occurred didn't constitute as abuse for a variety of reasons. The only person who knows most of the details (other than my last T) is another survivor and she's never belittled what happened. Since I have been struggling again I decided to see if I could find support online from other survivors and that's what brought me here. Thank you for having me.

    Welcome! 

    I've been here since January 1st and found this site providing much support. I hope you'll feel the same. 

    Here on After Silence, we give away safe hugs, if ok? :hug:


  2. 1 hour ago, toheal said:

    Hi everyone,

     

    as you can tell from the title I’m also new here. I just found this place today and I hope this bring some good to my life and maybe help me.

    Looking forward to meeting you all!

    Hello and welcome! I have been here since January, and I have experienced good advice, dialogs, and support here. Feel free to write me any time. Here on AS, we offer another safe hugs :hug:Want one?


  3. On 2019-07-04 at 5:36 AM, Sabrina757 said:

    Hi, I found this forum today and am hoping it can help me a bit. I’m 34 years old and was raped by my best friends husband about nine months ago. It wasn’t the first time this kind of thing has happened to me, but it’s been a long time. I thought I was “okay” with everything, but have been housesitting in a new state and on my own for a week and have been replaying it in my head over and over. Usually I keep myself busy, but maybe it’s good that I’m not now and can hopefully deal with this. A few of my friends know about the assault but it’s hard to bring up and honestly, sometimes it’s easier to talk to strangers. Anyways, hope I’m not oversharing, but the sheriff I talked to basically made it sound like I didn’t have a case (we were drinking), and just his doubt makes me wonder if people really even believe me or think it’s my fault for not being more careful. Was just hoping to find some people to talk to, basically, so thanks for the add

    First of all, welcome to AS!

    I am deeply sorry for what happened to you, and those comments about you not having a case because of the influence of alcohol is just rubbish. Assault is assault and you have the right to your body despite any excuses or circumstances. I was also afraid no one would take me seriously. My boyfriend caused my SA, and I wondered for months if it really was a case of rape. I also had some struggle being taken seriously, as the SA happened in a complex situation. But also, I have been blessed with a lot of support. 

    I agree, sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger. 

    I am sitting with you, and please don't worry. Only you decide when you are oversharing. 

    Safe hug if ok? :hug: 


  4. 7 hours ago, Riinee said:

    I would love one. It is nice to know you are not alone. I mean I know there are tons of people who have been affected by SA, but it isn't talked about so you feel so alone. I hate that everyone here has experienced something, but I am glad to have found  a community 

    Yes, the reason why we all are here is sad, but we got each other's backs! 


  5. On 2019-05-18 at 6:45 AM, Riinee said:

    Hey everyone. I found this site purely by chance (if you believe in chance lol).  I have been trying to live as if nothing ever happened, but that only works so long. Recently I have been in a good place mentally and my T started helping me work through everything. I was not prepared for the emotions that have been with me since my last appointment. I decided to see if there was anywhere, in person or online, where people understood...and I found AS. I am so happy to not be alone. 

    I am a mother of 4 amazing kids and live in the USA

    Welcome to the site! 

    Good thing you've decided to join us, here you'll find support for any topic you could think about related to SA, relationships, feeling better, process trauma and much more!

    I found AS by chance as well, just a few months ago, when I was super low. This site provides some really useful and mind changing content. 

    I wish you a nice experience. 

     

    Here on AS we give away safe hugs. It's a thing. Want one? :hug:


  6. On 2019-02-05 at 5:59 PM, PurpleBee said:

    Well I had typed out this whole thing but then my computer crashed and I don't feel like re-typing all of it so here's the short and sweet version

    I havent talked about whats happened to me or how I feel about it. I'm new to this. 

    I go by PurpleBee, or Bee. I am 22, college student, and female. 

    I just want to say how I feel and be listened to in a safe and understanding environment.

    Thank you.

     

     

    Hi PurpleBee! 

     

    I have been here for about a month and can confirm this place offering a lot of support, company and new perspectives. Have a nice one! 

     

    :hug:safe hug if it's ok. 


  7. 12 hours ago, Quill said:

    Hello everyone. I go by Quill and I'm another new member here. I've kept a lot of things really buried for a long time and I came here because I don't want to be silent anymore. I'm really glad this forum exists and I hope I can give some comfort to others too. I hope for recovery and healing for everyone and I am so relieved to find a place where I can recover and heal too, if only anonymously.

    @Quill Welcome, I just joined as well. I'm so proud of you taking the big step and asking others for support. You are not alone, you are a survivor. Good luck with your recovery :luck:


  8. 8 hours ago, MeBeMary said:

    Hi WannaMoveOn,

    Welcome to AS. I am sorry for the trauma you endured, but you will find tons of support here. Pressure, blackmail, manipulation...these can be considered all tactics of an abuse. I am sorry he did not respect your rights, your thoughts, or your feelings. It is a big step to reach out to others who understand. I wish you many more forward steps on this journey of healing.

    Mary

    :youcanheal: 

    @MeBeMary, thanks for bringing up pressure and manipulation as abuse. It's exactly those kinds of bullying from my previous partner I'm trying to heal from. I appreciate your support. :luck:


  9. I'm 18 and recovering from sexual assault. Briefly, my story is that my first boyfriend ever took my virginity and then didn't took no for an answer. As I tried to tell him I wanted to get off sex, he gave me an ultimatum to leave or stay and give him what he wanted. I first didn't consider it as sexual assault, but according to the law in my country threats for getting sex and disrespect to reject is a kind of rape. I'm confused and struggling with moving on. I'm having nightmares about my ex and am experiencing extreme mood swings. All support and advice are welcome, and I would like to get in touch with some survivors to exchange experience with.  

    So, feel free to write me a message. 


  10. Hi!

    I'm 18 and new as well. Feel free to send me a message any time or reply to any of my topics. Maybe we can exchange some experience and give each other tips to handle the struggle. 

     

    Take Care :luck:

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