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  1. I read a lot of sexual assault materials and news reports in order to be able to help academics as a source of valid information. I have some interesting tags on the sub Reddit that I do moderate. One of them is, “you had one goddamn job do your job and stop complaining.” LOUISIANA PROUD This week I actually saw swift justice to a post where there was a woman who signaled to a constable and also law enforcement officer that there was a rape in progress. The woman reporting was ignored but today that officer was removed at least temporarily anything that quickly is actually a huge win
  2. Here is a guide on processing trauma including the experts Here’s What ‘Processing’ Trauma Really Means—And How It Helps You Heal I have dedicated personal time to a Reddit sub that collects case info on perpetrators as well as trauma-informed aftermath resources to assist survivors. Occasionally someone will post a follow up and more recently people are less fearful to do so which makes me a ‘proud mod momma’ knowing that a large percentage of people are coming out of the haze of suffering.
  3. And the advent of quick tweets and bots on the radar we dismiss people instantly over a single word or three when that individual may not communicate like everybody else. I posted that I knew in the back of my mind there were linguistic and machine learning entities in the gray area/black ops and trying to pick up this language so that we could actually determine if these things were global national threats. For starters I am not going to apologize for my absence because I have been fighting since the time I signed up here on cybersecurity international global issues in the early 19
  4. I have a gorgeous bonus daughter who recently texted me that she signed a reproductive rights petition. I myself am a ✡️ Jewess. I raised her with her mother’s consent through that terrifying first menstrual cycle. She came to me quietly that she was bleeding from her female parts. I did my best to let her know that I always experienced excruciating pain and that we would get the sanitary hygiene items she needed and ibuprofen or anything to alleviate her pain. In addition to this I welcomed her into the Jewish tradition of womanhood and told her the ins and outs of making sure th
  5. It has indeed been 4275 days since I have stepped foot inside an office attached to a payroll. It was triumphant.
  6. I haven’t been on the site in a long time because I have been working very hard to repair a lot of things that I didn’t do. The good news is after all that hard work and great support, things are moving in the proper direction. The DOJ announced the FBI made serious errors handling the Nasser case from 2015. No surprises there. Maybe they will create a branch of female or non-binary LGTBQ+ investigators. We’d be able to get shit done and put people behind bars, no matter how powerful they are in the hierarchy. Drop me a line if you are new here. I am happy 😊 to support you
  7. While in between chaos, moves and chronic illness management, I managed a few positive things. She is a rescue. Oh the irony.
  8. Hi @DiiO Those feelings are absolutely real. I'd like to lend you a bit of hope and support! My little "Sis" struggles with what we chose to call despair. I asked her if she would be interested in tracking her overall day-to-day emotions with either a grading system of 1-3 or app. "1" being an overall crud day with "3" being the top end... after gathering data over time were able to find a trend. This alleviated a ton of pressure to the point she is having more "2" days than not. Middle ground is simply okay. Would something like this help you see progress? It's pretty easy.
  9. @CosmicDaze333 I'm available to chat or through messaging here should you like to reach out. ::Safe Hugs:: "Keep going! I'll cheer you on!"
  10. Welcome @DiiO to AS and I'd like to acknowledge what you went through to find us. Feel free to PM/DM if you have any questions or if you'd just like to chat. As Mary wrote, "You CAN Heal" and there is a lot of support! 2Siamese
  11. @Running Welcome Thanks for being here. I'd like to acknowledge what you went through that brought you here is never easy. It is scary at first! Agreed. Once you have experienced rejection everywhere else like most of us have even in medical facilities being mishandled... then you find AS genuinely safe and welcoming... it gets much easier indeed. You're accepted as well as always welcome. Thank you for braving that first big step. :: Safe Hugs :: 2Siamese "Keep going! I'll cheer you on!"
  12. Hi @CosmicDaze333 and welcome to AS. You'll find resources and support with safety in mind and as others have reiterated... kindness and dignity. Your trauma is being validated and let any of us know if you need assistance.
  13. Welcome @Arabellachristie I am a survivor of CSA and there were never the level of supportive persons until I found AS. Most were interested in research but never the end-to-end individualized listening to YOUR story. If and when you come to a point of telling your story of trauma, you will have loads of genuine support. It is difficult to open up and what you are doing is very brave indeed. Should you need a chat partner, I see lots of offers here reaching out when you are ready! WELCOME
  14. @Capulet BRAVE! I worked with D/HoH community and have been given insightful education as well as assistive technologies that help with challenges. Too often the 'ableist' crowd gets the headlines/credibility. The real champions do not get the spotlight and well... you just added a floodlight to how persons with disabilities (I call it different-abled) might be slighted, further debased and highly overlooked in communities involving SA investigations.
  15. Hi All It got terribly busy with advertising-related annual deadlines. This was my first time 'solo' taking flight with the previous Ad Queen who supported me through our annual directory rush. WHEW! It's over thankfully. We are a small demographic in this large metro area and most of our support related directly to community is done by volunteers. It's a labor of love and hardly work when the impacts over time help improve the lives of others. Most recently we were notified that area-wide we'd be collecting good 'wearables' in all sizes for refugee/immigrants. My background a
  16. Hi @happykats and welcome to AS. I am sorry for what you went through and it is traumatic indeed when the feelings resurface. You have taken a courageous first step to a wonderful welcoming and supportive community. Please reach out via PM if you need help or just have questions navigating! Again welcome
  17. @cal Hopefully after you have read welcomes from others you will have a lessening sense of feeling alone or isolated. It is very brave of you to post an intro and I am truly sorry for what has brought you here. Perhaps a non-judgmental sense of community is what you require as you explore you own journey. There are so many wonderful people here who aren't dismissive, denigrating or otherwise judgmental. I hope you find a healing community with a commitment to getting you where you need to go. Thanks for being brave with that first post. It's hard. Keep going -- I'll cheer you on!
  18. @Hope49 Hi there! As a communications pro, this can obviously be intimidating but you're in an awesome space surrounded by like-minded individuals. You are also free to speak your mind about what happened to you. Truly sorry for what brought you here but I think you'll find a spectacularly humanizing community where you can relate and heal. Keep going! I'll cheer you on and look forward to your next posts when you feel comfortable doing so. WELCOME!
  19. Hi @Unl0v3d just want to acknowledge your posts and understandably we realize "life has no undo button". You should be free of repercussions or retaliative behavior here and wanted to introduce you to a safe and accommodating space! It's all good. We get up back again and lift others up. WELCOME! Keep going 'cause I'll cheer you on.
  20. @Leda It is never easy reaching out... until you meet this awesome crew of people that are not only welcoming, but healthy in every aspects. I am sorry for what brought you here but am happy that you feel confident to reach out! It's never okay to be assaulted anywhere or even your workplace. May you find solace and support within our healthy community to bring you a bit of peace. Tell your story in your own terms. We'll hold your hand while you do. In love + light... "2 Siamese"
  21. I had a crazy busy and I mean... difficult challenge looming for a few months. Thankfully, the honesty I met is that I was certainly never alone. We were "studying a foreign ancient language" and needed to be able to do this as women in front of a crowd. Never intimidating. (*coughs*) Congratulations to every one of the six that went through class and made it. OMG it was a nerve-wracking orientation over two days but I am so proud of every single one of us! We might be older than thirteen, but we are certainly more stubborn and I appreciate the opportunity. Love you all! Ke
  22. "Hey... can you help out this girl?" "Sure." I glance at the time and realize it is the DV "witching hour" as well as good training for the security guard who has a bit of trust I will do what is correct. "Hand the phone over to her, please." "Okay." "I am really sorry that we are speaking and if you're not comfortable talking about what is going on right now I understand that as well. Just know you have someone in your corner who you can call and will indeed follow up." She sounded VERY young. I wanted to collapse but could not. I had to be strong. Called
  23. Hi there @feralcat While your screen name caught my eye and garnered a smile, I want to extend one back to you as well with a warm welcome. It's never easy being new and for the reasons you were guided here. For that I am deeply sorry and trauma... just saying it can be a bit of relief. Brave on your part! You'll find a tremendous group of members and moderators to help you investigate your healing journey.
  24. Over the weekend, I took the opportunity to leverage my own voice on behalf of however many thousands if not millions were impacted by the horrifying behavior of Wells Fargo. I related and articulated on those regulatory-mandated recorded lines my own personal story (paraphrased) and how the financial sector itself perpetuates interpersonal violence. My point was... we are in a zero-trust arena in the field of cybersecurity. Two of their former retired employees exerted obnoxious and highly unprofessional behavior here at the local level, while maintaining their OWN retirement as well a
  25. Warning: This contains language designed to at least elicit a bit of laughter. Please put beverages down while reading. My rock, my constant source of laughter and total joy... was gone. At that time, I was also under complete financial duress at the point of coming to grips with being too ill to work and the further slide down of the housing crisis. I had no money for a plane ticket and nobody was offering from the 'family'. Her death came as no great surprise as I knew from the previous year that my visit with her would be the last. She was indeed completely miserable in the hospi
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