I was sexually abused by my older brother when I was young. Around the same time, my younger brother and I would kiss while we were playing.
When my younger brother tried to take advantage of me (sexually) as an adult, I told the people I love about everything that happened...as children and adults.
Some of their responses were unintentionally insensitive.
From my sister"You're not the only victim here." "I feel very manipulated."
From my boyfriend "This has broken me." "This happened to us." "You don't understand; he grabbed you!"