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Posts posted by Reyzl

  1. @Pie1028, welcome to AS, glad you felt able to post at last and I hope you find this place supportive :flowers:

    So sorry about what brings you here though. Yes, I totally relate to the ups and downs and I think it's really normal. I have not found my healing to be especially linear! There is usually a good reason for the 'downs' I find, like an anniversary or else I'm just ready to contact the trauma at a deeper level.

    Take care,


  2. @Invisible1, hello to you too friend :throb: Sorry I've disappeared again. Hard to keep all the plates spinning. Hope you are okay and coping with all the bizarre changes to our lives. I'm okay, bit lonely in solitary confinement and not loving working over zoom but could be worse. Might post soon if I stop ignoring my young parts (which are massively triggered but behaving themselves!) at some point soon!

    Reyzl :hug: 

  3. @Capulet, thank you! Lol I now can't decide if I want the signature I was thinking of so I will contact you when I make my mind up! You could try just seeing if it will let you try something small, like adding or taking away a full stop because it won't let me do anything at all to it.

    Hope you are surviving these strange times,

    Reyzl xx

  4. Thanks @MeBeMary and @Free2Fly, yeah maybe it's a bug thing, will try adding a message to the Help Desk. I put it here in case any general members were particularly techy and has some ideas. I did have the mods on the case last time and gave them my desired signature to add in themselves but even they couldn't get it to do it. Doesn't seem to cooperate, even if I just write one word for a signature in normal black font it still claims I'm using an image or have used too many lines 🙄. Very weird!

  5. Hi,

    has anyone else had trouble editing their signature? Every time I try to change mine I get a message telling me I haven't followed the guidelines. Sometimes it's saying it needs to be on fewer lines, and other times should to be without images, but I'm not adding images and even when I condense it into two lines it's not happy. I've tried on different browsers.

    I've had this problem for years, hence why my signature never changes! I'd hoped it would have gone away by now but it's still the same. The mods back then worked on it but in the end it defeated everyone! 

    Any techno wizards here who can work out what's going wrong? :pray:




  6. Hi Rose,

    Thanks for replying. That's really odd that you can't see it. I posted it last Thursday. It looks like it has been read more times than just my own reads so hopefully someone can see it! Do you think I should repost?

    Thanks :flowers: 




  7. Hi :)

    I posted a request in the Help Desk section a week ago and no one has replied yet. I had quite prompt replies in the past so I am wondering if the help desk it is still being used/staffed? Should I direct my request to a particular mod instead?



  8. Hi Neither,

    I never thought of that, you're right, its really unfortunate there aren't more gender options. What you could do, as well as what Winterwishes suggested, is change your gender in your settings to female because it is only male that shows as 'M. Member'. Female does not show on your profile, so all that people would see would be your name then 'member' then the caption you choose to write underneath.



  9. Hi Danni and others!

    I also noticed that the AS way of uploading pics has not been working. I tend to do it via an external website - i prefer it as the pics come out a better size. I just pm'd some instructions for uploading pics to someone, so i will paste here what i wrote ....

    I use this website: www.postimage.org I'm as sure as i can be that the pics are private within your account and not accessible to anyone else. I think the pics stay there as long as you leave them there, no time limit on them.

    In Postimage:
    1. Register on the site
    2. Click 'browse' and choose the file you want to share.
    3. There's a box inviting you to resize your file. I think the 'websites & emails' and the 'message boards' sizes are both fine for this.
    4. Under that there's a box asking you to name your gallery. If you don't it's fine, it just gets named 'unnamed'
    5. Click 'upload it'. (if it won't upload you may need to shrink the size of your file)
    6. New screen will show your file being uploaded. Once it's finished, further down you will see a table of links.
    7. Choose the link 'direct link' and copy it.
    8. Go back to AS to your post or PM.
    9. Along the top of the box where you write you will see a row of icons, where the bold, itallics, underline, etc is. Choose the green icon that is a like picture frame with a tree in it (if you hover over it you'll see it's called 'image'. Click on that.
    10. A URL box appears. Paste your direct link into this box and click OK.
    11. Your pic will appear in your post!

    Good luck!


  10. Hi,

    I was wondering if anyone, mod or just techy member, can advise. Something weird is happening to my pms. All of the pms people send me very quickly get labelled 'deleted'. They are still there and I can still read them but there's no way to reply. I made space in my inbox but it's still happening.

    Any ideas??

    Thanks :)


  11. Hey Ann,

    I think that's because you can only post pics on certain boards. This one doesn't have the facility so you won't find a 'browse' button on it.

    Go to another board ~ probably the Healing through Creativity one if you're posting pics. Open a new topic. Scroll down and you should see at the bottom left under the text box the browse button. Then follow the instructions from there that Silentnomore gave you.

    Good luck!


  12. Thanks for that Vera :up::hug: !

    River, I appreciate you raising this as many of us feel frustrated not being allowed to let rip when we need to without *'s making us look coy about it!! There's a hilarious thread somewhere way back in the venting section about just this topic if you do a search for it.

    Lol, if you think *'s are bad, you should have been on a forum I used to use ~ that one was programmed to replace swear words with nonsense phrases, so for eg. the word "b*tch" would appear in your post as "Pregnant dog" (wtf?? That isn't even the definition of the word, lol!!), any rude word for male body parts came out as "thingy" and female parts = "girl thingy", cocker spaniel = "thingy er spaniel" (!!!), sh*t = "nuts", wh*re = "sleeper".

    Imagine the embarassment, not to mention concern for your own sanity, when you re-read your own post a day or two later and found for some inexplicable reason you seemed to have written "I was pregant dog ing about my boss the other day and ...." LOL :duh: !!


    p.s Just to reassure you, I added the *'s myself this time, it's not that the new adaptations are malfunctioning!!

  13. Thanks for your response Becky. I'm glad it's being looked into.

    I didn't really mean to suggest anyone here is actually abusing me. Just that it FEELS that way. This situation replicates so much stuff around the abuse (not just for me, I shouldn't think) ~ being silenced, having no control, people with 'power' making decisions for you ... it's just hugely triggering I guess.

    Thanks for your kind words though :hug:


  14. Sorry to start a new thread, I just don't want to have any part of this discussion 'behind closed doors' in pm's to moderators. This whole situation already feels immensely triggering to me, like I've been silenced. If on top of that I have to have all of this, what feels like, abusive situation go on in 'secret', well, you can imagine how that might feel. I wasn't even alerted that this would happen to my story.

    I appreciate your response Dodo and that it is being looked into. I just want to say I hope this rule will be reconsidered. New members getting a good hearing has been taken care of by the fact that replies don't bump up the threads. What difference could it make to new members if I or others have a scattering of old posts in various pages way back?

    I'm already aware of a few people who are very upset about this situation themselves.

    I have never caused trouble here, never got involved in the bickering that breaks out from time to time ~ I don't go into chat for that very reason. I think I'm quite supportive of others. So I don't start 'dramas' lightly. This place has felt like a lifeline for me at times. Especially now that my dad has just been diagnosed with cancer and I've no idea how I will cope. But I honestly feel like if this stays the way it is, I don't feel safe to post here anymore.

    I never expected to feel so abused here.

    Reyzl :tear:

  15. Wow, I'm trying to stay calm here. Yes, I can find my new post at the bottom of all the Reyzl flotsum and jetsam that has been swept up into one post. But I don't want to find it there! I want to find it where I posted it.

    PLEASE unmerge it. I can't bear this. This is new. It's not just more of "Reyzl's crap" ~ it's my actual story, it's progress. It's how I can finally tell my story, not in bits and pieces but a whole narrative. I've never done that before.

    I'm horrified. I'm feeling like I never want to come back here. I don't want my brand new post be to hidden in years worth of posts back, like it's something shameful. No one will see it. Not even me.

    Well, I said I'd stay calm but looks like I haven't quite. I'm shaking.

    And while I was in that huge long amalgamated thread in your link Dodo, I see that even my completely separate story about an assault by a GP is in there ~ actually it is the lead story, followed by random order posts about my dad. I wouldn't mind betting my mini story about an abusive girlfriend is in there too, but I couldn't bear to look at that hideous monster thread any more. It's not all even in the order I posted it. I go back every now and again and re-look at what I posted over the years and last time I looked this hadn't happened. Please make it not be like this.

    Why does it not occur to anyone that I may be too triggered by my old posts to even be able to go back to that huge thread? I don't want the old stuff I posted in my face just to check on new responses (that is if I got any responses, but now given that it's on page 300 or something that is seriously unlikely!)

    I feel so insulted and violated by this I can't even begin to say :(


  16. Lol, hun, I think you're just having a 'senior moment' :P !! I do that all the time with sites like this ~ just suddenly forget how to do something I'd been doing for ages.

    The pics thing is still the same. It's underneath the white box where you type (but it seems that not all the boards on AS have this feature). There's a little box on the bottom right of the screen that says 'browse' which lets you select something from your documents, then you hit 'upload'. Your attachments will appear in a box in the same place and if you go into that box and click on the green symbol (possibly a tick, I forget) you can arrange your pics where you want in your post. That's all probably clear as mud, lol :lol: !

    As for the 'too many emoticons' thing ~ no change there either, has always been thus! There is just a max number you can use ~ I occasionally meet with the 'error' message too but I never counted so not sure how prolific you have to be to get there. I shouldn't think it's a rule as such, just a limitation of the website.

    Hope that helps :flowers:


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