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  1. @Pie1028, welcome to AS, glad you felt able to post at last and I hope you find this place supportive So sorry about what brings you here though. Yes, I totally relate to the ups and downs and I think it's really normal. I have not found my healing to be especially linear! There is usually a good reason for the 'downs' I find, like an anniversary or else I'm just ready to contact the trauma at a deeper level. Take care, Reyzl
  2. @Invisible1, hello to you too friend Sorry I've disappeared again. Hard to keep all the plates spinning. Hope you are okay and coping with all the bizarre changes to our lives. I'm okay, bit lonely in solitary confinement and not loving working over zoom but could be worse. Might post soon if I stop ignoring my young parts (which are massively triggered but behaving themselves!) at some point soon! Reyzl
  3. @Capulet, thank you! Lol I now can't decide if I want the signature I was thinking of so I will contact you when I make my mind up! You could try just seeing if it will let you try something small, like adding or taking away a full stop because it won't let me do anything at all to it. Hope you are surviving these strange times, Reyzl xx
  4. Thanks @MeBeMary and @Free2Fly, yeah maybe it's a bug thing, will try adding a message to the Help Desk. I put it here in case any general members were particularly techy and has some ideas. I did have the mods on the case last time and gave them my desired signature to add in themselves but even they couldn't get it to do it. Doesn't seem to cooperate, even if I just write one word for a signature in normal black font it still claims I'm using an image or have used too many lines 🙄. Very weird!
  5. Hi, has anyone else had trouble editing their signature? Every time I try to change mine I get a message telling me I haven't followed the guidelines. Sometimes it's saying it needs to be on fewer lines, and other times should to be without images, but I'm not adding images and even when I condense it into two lines it's not happy. I've tried on different browsers. I've had this problem for years, hence why my signature never changes! I'd hoped it would have gone away by now but it's still the same. The mods back then worked on it but in the end it defeated everyone! Any techno
  6. Hi Rose, Thanks for replying. That's really odd that you can't see it. I posted it last Thursday. It looks like it has been read more times than just my own reads so hopefully someone can see it! Do you think I should repost? Thanks Reyzl
  7. Hi I posted a request in the Help Desk section a week ago and no one has replied yet. I had quite prompt replies in the past so I am wondering if the help desk it is still being used/staffed? Should I direct my request to a particular mod instead? Thanks Reyzl
  8. Hi Neither, I never thought of that, you're right, its really unfortunate there aren't more gender options. What you could do, as well as what Winterwishes suggested, is change your gender in your settings to female because it is only male that shows as 'M. Member'. Female does not show on your profile, so all that people would see would be your name then 'member' then the caption you choose to write underneath. Reyzl
  9. Hi With the new version of AS, is it no longer possible to preview a post before you submit it? Perhaps I'm just being dumb but I can't find that facility anymore. Guess maybe you just have to edit afterwards instead?? Reyzl
  10. I tried to change my signature and it won't allow me to. I get the message 'Too many Images and Signature spans too many lines' no matter what I put in there, even if I get rid of all of it . Help what do I do!! Thanks, Reyzl
  11. Just to add - it's been brought to my attention that the link won't paste. I think in order to paste anything at all into AS you need to use a browser like Google Chrome or Mozilla Firefox. It won't work for me on ordinary Internet Explorer.
  12. Hi Danni and others! I also noticed that the AS way of uploading pics has not been working. I tend to do it via an external website - i prefer it as the pics come out a better size. I just pm'd some instructions for uploading pics to someone, so i will paste here what i wrote .... I use this website: www.postimage.org I'm as sure as i can be that the pics are private within your account and not accessible to anyone else. I think the pics stay there as long as you leave them there, no time limit on them. In Postimage: 1. Register on the site 2. Click 'browse' and choose the file you want to
  13. Great idea - but I think maybe it takes a mod to set that up (I could be wrong) and all our mods have been 'missing' a while!
  14. Hi, I was wondering if anyone, mod or just techy member, can advise. Something weird is happening to my pms. All of the pms people send me very quickly get labelled 'deleted'. They are still there and I can still read them but there's no way to reply. I made space in my inbox but it's still happening. Any ideas?? Thanks Reyzl
  15. I get that too. Always have done since AS reappeared after the crash. Can't seem to opt for the full, non-mobile version of the site on my phone either. Reyzl
  16. Hey Ann, I think that's because you can only post pics on certain boards. This one doesn't have the facility so you won't find a 'browse' button on it. Go to another board ~ probably the Healing through Creativity one if you're posting pics. Open a new topic. Scroll down and you should see at the bottom left under the text box the browse button. Then follow the instructions from there that Silentnomore gave you. Good luck! Reyzl
  17. Thanks for that Vera ! River, I appreciate you raising this as many of us feel frustrated not being allowed to let rip when we need to without *'s making us look coy about it!! There's a hilarious thread somewhere way back in the venting section about just this topic if you do a search for it. Lol, if you think *'s are bad, you should have been on a forum I used to use ~ that one was programmed to replace swear words with nonsense phrases, so for eg. the word "b*tch" would appear in your post as "Pregnant dog" (wtf?? That isn't even the definition of the word, lol!!), any rude word for mal
  18. Or just click on search at the top of the main screen and type in your name and it will show all the posts (your threads and those you've replied to) in a list. That's the one I like best as it shows you all the threads in a normal format. Reyzl x
  19. Thanks for your response Becky. I'm glad it's being looked into. I didn't really mean to suggest anyone here is actually abusing me. Just that it FEELS that way. This situation replicates so much stuff around the abuse (not just for me, I shouldn't think) ~ being silenced, having no control, people with 'power' making decisions for you ... it's just hugely triggering I guess. Thanks for your kind words though Reyzl
  20. Sorry to start a new thread, I just don't want to have any part of this discussion 'behind closed doors' in pm's to moderators. This whole situation already feels immensely triggering to me, like I've been silenced. If on top of that I have to have all of this, what feels like, abusive situation go on in 'secret', well, you can imagine how that might feel. I wasn't even alerted that this would happen to my story. I appreciate your response Dodo and that it is being looked into. I just want to say I hope this rule will be reconsidered. New members getting a good hearing has been taken care of
  21. Thanks Ame and Nem. I feel sick about this . I don't have the words to say how this has made me feel. 'Unsafe' I suppose is the main one. This used to feel like a safe place.
  22. Wow, I'm trying to stay calm here. Yes, I can find my new post at the bottom of all the Reyzl flotsum and jetsam that has been swept up into one post. But I don't want to find it there! I want to find it where I posted it. PLEASE unmerge it. I can't bear this. This is new. It's not just more of "Reyzl's crap" ~ it's my actual story, it's progress. It's how I can finally tell my story, not in bits and pieces but a whole narrative. I've never done that before. I'm horrified. I'm feeling like I never want to come back here. I don't want my brand new post be to hidden in years worth of posts bac
  23. Umm, this is weird ~ my story from the 'Share your Story' section has disappeared. I'm sure it was one or two stories after Downtrodden's story. I'm sure I'm not dreaming I posted it!! Any ideas anyone?? Thanks Reyzl
  24. Lol, hun, I think you're just having a 'senior moment' !! I do that all the time with sites like this ~ just suddenly forget how to do something I'd been doing for ages. The pics thing is still the same. It's underneath the white box where you type (but it seems that not all the boards on AS have this feature). There's a little box on the bottom right of the screen that says 'browse' which lets you select something from your documents, then you hit 'upload'. Your attachments will appear in a box in the same place and if you go into that box and click on the green symbol (possibly a tick, I f
  25. There's usually a delay of about two or three days before the new pic shows up, when you change it. In the meantime your old pic becomes all distorted and weird looking. Forum gremlins!
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