[New and looking for coping tips]

Hello – New here. I’ve joined this group because  I don’t have anyone in my life that can relate to my experiences and I seek guidance from others whom have.  I feel as if I have to be told I was assaulted in order to come to terms. I know the answer,  but I find that I crave validation. Is needing validation common? Is not being able to come to terms me still rationalizing the bad behavior towards me? I’ve tried to move on and have a hard time being physically vulnerable with someone now. I don’t want to cuddle and I recoil to certain types of touching.  I used to love cuddling and now I feel almost claustrophobic.  I would love to hear some coping tips. I look forward to being a part of this supportive environment and hope to help others as I pull myself together.  Thank you for reading.