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Capulet

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  1. Welcome, @Macbeth - I am sorry you have a reason for being here, but hope that you find we are a safe, supportive space.  I too am curious where "Apple Juice" came from but I am sure that will be revealed in due time.  We have all the patience in the world, and one thing I LOVE about this site is - we take it all at our own pace so that we stay comfortable.

    Again, welcome.  

    Best wishes,
    Capulet


  2. Hello @Noleavesonthetrees - 

    A hearty welcome to After Silence.   Although I am sorry to hear that you are recovering, I'm glad to hear you were referred here by someone kind - this is truly a lovely place to be and I am hopeful that you will find that there is an unwavering stream of support here.  

    Looking forward to getting to know you.

    All the best,

    Capulet

     


  3. Hi there, @IBelieveYou,

    Welcome to After Silence.  I echo Patricia and very much like your user name - it's something so, SO many of us yearn to hear.  Very powerful, validating words. :)

    I am hopeful that you will find the support you need here - I don't think I'm overly biased when I say we are a great bunch!  Thank you, too, for being here to return that support.  It truly takes a village! :)

    Again, welcome - looking forward to getting to know you.

    Best wishes,

    Capulet


  4. Hi @maxinemorri - Welcome to After Silence!!!

    I think it's perfectly natural to be nervous!  I was, too, when I joined this community over a decade ago. :)  Being able to connect and to communicate with people whom I could relate to was so comforting, especially when I wasn't able to do this before.  I'm always saying how sad I am to meet people under these circumstances, but do believe that it eventually doesn't matter where and how I've connected with someone else - it's just another person out there that understands me and doesn't judge me for any of it.  Truly is a wonderful feeling.

    Take your time to look around and don't worry about posting until you're feeling comfortable/ready to do so. :)  We've no expectations of you other than for you to take it all in at your own pace.  

    If there's anything you need help with, please feel free to give a shout or visit our Help Desk forum. 

    Happy to have you and looking forward to getting to know you.

    Best wishes,
    Capulet


  5. Awwww....!!!

    I am sending you safe hugs, if you are okay with the thought.  :hug:

    It can sometimes be truly overwhelming to feel as if you are FINALLY seen, and that you have been heard.  

    I think that many of us spend a lot of time hiding, and NOT wanting this extra attention or even feeling as if it's undeserved.  Please know that this isn't the case...you do deserve support.  

    It's understandable - that emotional burst when, for the first time, things are a little bit different.  It is okay to cry - you are safe here and you are among friends.  

    I am always here if you ever need or want to talk a little.  

    All the best,
    Cap


  6. Hi @kmdiamond17 - 

    Welcome to After Silence!!!  I am so sorry to learn of circumstances that have brought you here and to hear that you are struggling.  I can relate to the feelings of shame and disgust - you are not alone - so many others can relate to this - myself included.  But please know you are NOT disgusting.  You feel the way you do for a reason that was not your fault.  

    I am, however, glad to hear that you are liking what you see here on the site - this is a great place.  You are safe here to talk about anything you would like to discuss - without fear of being judged or laughed at.  That's just NOT tolerated here - we are here to support each other through our healing processes.  We really don't have any rules other than to treat one another with the respect and kindness we all deserve - other board posting rules and tips can be found in our Public FAQ's and Welcome FAQ's, so you can check those out when you get a chance.  Otherwise, I think you will be just fine! :)  

    Have you been contacted by a Newbie Support Staff member, yet?  If not, please let us know here and someone will be sending you a message shortly and will be able to answer any site-related questions you may have, if any. 

    I'm sorry you are having flashbacks lately. :(  I hope they subside soon and that when you experience them, you are taking gentle care of yourself and surrounding yourself with things that bring you comfort.  

    Again - welcome - happy to 'meet you' and am looking forward to getting to know you.

    Best wishes,
    Capulet


  7. @VintagePanda - welcome to After Silence!!!  I am sorry that traumatic circumstances have brought you here, but am glad to have you among us.  This truly is a fantastic community and there's an undying supply of support.  So many of us understand this type of trauma, but there are many differing realities we're all having to face - it IS a little bit easier when surrounded by those who can relate on some level.

    Wishing you all the best - and again - welcome!!  Looking forward to getting to know you.

    Best wishes,
    Capulet


  8. Hello @Peacefuldaydream - 

    I wanted to welcome you to After Silence.  I too am a survivor of psychological/mental/verbal and emotional abuse by my ex-husband.  Believe it or not, it took me YEARS after our divorce (it was back in 2009!) to realize that this was a form of domestic violence.  I'd always categorized domestic violence as being of the physical kind, but have come to understand that the silent form of DV is potentially much, MUCH worse.  Physical injuries heal, but the psychological ones last a very long time.  Adding to what I already know I have survived (rape, possibly CSA), this was an overwhelming new thought to have to process.  

    So, I understand where you are coming from.  I'm so sorry this has brought you here but am hopeful that you will find that the people here are truly supportive, wonderful and kind.

    Please don't hesitate to look around all of our forums, and do take your time in getting your story out.  There's no rush at all.  You need to keep yourself feeling safe.  When you are ready, we will be here to listen.  

    Again, welcome.  Looking forward to getting to know you.

    Best wishes,
    Capulet


  9. Hi, @Moorel,

    Welcome to After Silence.  I'm sorry to hear of the circumstances that have brought you here, but am glad that you have found this community.  Many have been referred to us by therapists for the same reasons - online support is an excellent resource to have if it can be used safely.  We are glad to have you!

    I think that peer support is extremely important.  It is something that took me a LONG time to utilize, and much of your post, I feel like I could have written, myself.  I  feel SO very validated here, though.  There are still moments where I feel awkward posting - but even if I choose to refrain from posting, there is always such comfort in reading others' accounts - not knowing that they've been through similar but that I'm not alone and my feelings aren't 'crazy' or 'wrong.'  I feel that I learn SO much about myself every day - and to gain this knowledge is to eventually heal the mind. :) 

    Anyway, I welcome you again - looking forward to walking this journey with you! 

    Best wishes,
    Capulet


  10. Hello @Gemma23 - 

    Hi, and welcome to After Silence!!!  I am sorry to learn of the circumstances under which you've arrived, but I want you to know that although you are nervous and anxious, you've still taken such a tremendous step toward healing by joining our community and by introducing yourself as a survivor.  Good for you!!  This is no small feat - it's a huge step and you should be proud of yourself for having taken it. :)  

    Please feel free to 'ramble' as much as you like.  We are all here to do the same thing and to support each other.  

    Again, welcome, and if there's ever anything I can do to help, please feel free to give a shout.  Until then, please take your time familiarizing yourself with our many forums.  I hope that being here provides a level of peace and comfort and brings forth eventual healing!

    All the best,

    Capulet


  11. Hello, @Amsekhmet - and welcome to After Silence!!!

    I'm so glad you've been able to connect with some folks here and that you are finding that there is great benefit to belonging to a community filled with so many others who can relate.  I have found After Silence to be one of my biggest lifelines - and this site is indeed a second home to me! :)

    My experience was also in 1996 - and although I was not drugged, I definitely can relate to not having a whole lot of support at the time - the loneliness, the feeling that no one understood.  I was a total wreck!  Thank god for this place - I've met so many wonderful friends here - and my significant other, too!

    I also extend the invitation to reach out to me if you ever need to talk.  There's no limit on the amount of support you'll find here - we're happy to have you among us and I thank you in advance for your kindness and support, too.  It means the world to me and to many others, to hear this.

    Wishing you all the best on your healing processes!

    - Capulet


  12. Hi @Kenzi - welcome to After Silence.  The folks here are absolutely fantastic and truly are a supportive bunch.  Many have only shared with a select few and even for me, some of the closest people to me do not know of the trauma I've experienced.  It is very hard to find a place where you can feel safe to discuss the effects of trauma, and I'm hopeful that being here will show you that you are by no means alone and that you've got company on this healing journey.  

    Wishing you all the best - looking forward to getting to know you.

    All the best,
    Capulet


  13. Hi, @faeryblossoms - welcome to After Silence!

    I love to write, too.  It's always been my biggest outlet.  I hope you'll check out our Healing through Creativity forum when you get an opportunity - you can share some of your art and some of your writing there, if you would like. :)

    It's nice to 'meet' you, although I am sorry that you found us as a result of traumatic circumstances - but am hopeful that being here is another several leaps in the healing direction.  I wish you well in this journey - and hope that you find this is a great place to be and there's never a shortage of support.

    All the best,
    Capulet


  14. Hello @Zazka and welcome to After Silence!  I am in agreement with Mary, you've found an incredibly supportive community and I hope that being here among those who understand will bring you peace, comfort and eventual healing.  

    Take gentle care, looking forward to getting to know you.

    Best wishes,
    Capulet


  15. Welcome, @Warriorgirl1 to After Silence. :)  

    I'm sure you'll be finding your way around like a pro in no time at all. :)  Aren't our members amazing!?  

    Anyway, we're all here to help and I cannot think of anything to add to what has already been suggested, so I'll just be supplying my official welcome into our community.  I'm sorry to learn of the circumstances that have brought you to us, but am hopeful that you'll find that you're among many others who understand this journey.  It can be quite comforting to know you're not alone in this.

    Wishing you all the best!
    Capulet


  16. Hi @KeLLe - welcome to After Silence!!!  I am slow to get in my official welcome, but you know what they say - better late than never. :)  I'm so sorry that trauma has led you here, but I am glad you've found a safe place.  The folks here are fantastic.  

    I hope that being here brings you peace, comfort and healing - I know that wedding planning can be SO stressful (congratulations to you and your to-be!) and that stressors are famous for bringing up things we don't necessarily want to deal with.  But you're definitely not alone here. :)

    Looking forward to getting to know you - again - welcome! :)

    Best wishes,
    Capulet

     


  17. Hi @PhoenixRoxanne - welcome to After Silence!!!  I am sorry to hear of the circumstances under which you've found this amazing site, but am hoping that being here will provide you some peace, comfort and healing.  

    I had no idea we were listed in a book - that's very interesting to know.  Maybe I'll see if my local library has it!  We truly are a good bunch and this site is truly dedicated to providing a safe place for all of our cherished members.

    It does take a village - so, thank you for all the support you'll be providing to others.  I am sending you all of my best wishes as you embark upon your healing journey.  Looking forward to getting to know you.

    Best,
    Capulet


  18. Hello @ExactStudio - welcome to After Silence!!!  I hope you will find that you have found a wonderful community filled with amazingly supportive folks.  I am sorry to learn that your trauma was fairly recent but am glad to hear you are dedicated toward healing and that you've had some support from the people around you.  That is a HUGE step and I'm glad you've taken it.  It looks like you're on the right track. :)

    Take good care, and again - welcome!  

    - Capulet


  19. Hello Len!  

    Welcome to After Silence. :)  It's nice to 'meet' you, although I am sorry you were led here under tough circumstances.  I do hope though, that you will find you are not alone!

    Best wishes to you on your healing path.

    - Capulet


  20. Hi, @GinaH -

    Welcome to After Silence.  I am so sorry to hear of your recent breakdown.  Sometimes things truly become overwhelming and I don't think anyone is completely immune to that spiral you mentioned.  I hope you are proud of yourself for recognizing your needs and for taking the steps to find support.  That's never an easy thing to do - good for you for taking this leap! :)  

    I am sad to hear that you've experienced trauma in your past but am hopeful that you'll find an abundance of support here.  Our members are very understanding people and I am sure you will find that you are never alone here.   Please take all the time you need exploring the boards and whenever you are ready, we are all here for you.

    Best wishes,
    Capulet


  21. @Citizenerased - Welcome to After Silence.  I'm so sorry to hear you are currently struggling but it is my sincerest hope that being here will help bring you some comfort.  

    Looking forward to getting to know you through your posts.  Thank you for taking the time to introduce yourself - I hope you recognize what a huge, brave step that was! :) 

    Best wishes,
    Capulet


  22. @asleep - hello and welcome to After Silence!  So happy to 'meet' you although I am sorry to hear that you have been affected by trauma.  As others have said already, this is a great site, filled with lots of supportive and kind souls. :)  It is my hope that you will find that you're not alone and that many are walking this very same path.  

    Best wishes to you, 
    Capulet

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