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  1. Hello and welcome. This is a great place, I am new too. I like it!
  2. Nicole, It was just a suggestion. I have been wrong before and will be wrong many times to come. I am sorry your mother is not very sensitive to what happened. I do understand to some extent though - for me, it happened ten (almost 11) years ago and I still feel very angry and very bitter about it. It's easier for me to "whatever" it and move onto more present things that I need to think about. I sometimes forget that anger is a big part of healing and I feel badly about it eventually. However, I am learning. My daughter once asked me "what happened?" My response was snapping, "I don't want to discuss it. Okay?" She dropped it and never asked again. That was a year and change ago. If she was to ask again, I will probably be much more receptive to it, and to her - and I've vowed to at least TRY to speak of things with her. She is an adolescent and she's going to hear about a lot of ugly things as she matures, and I would rather she ask me or her father any questions she may have about certain things. Attitude is something that can't be helped by anyone other than yourself - and usually it's something that you need to "modify" at your own pace. I still occasionally have a bad attitude. I am described as being grumpy sometimes, even a b*tch. Other times, I'm "sweet." :dunno: Another thought - (and please feel free to tell me to piss off, I would not take offense!) - perhaps you and your mother can go to counseling together. When you have two sides where communication isn't very effective, sometimes having a mediator in between may help - he/she can post the questions and give you both something to think about. It is common for a mother to forget to be a friend, and a lot can probably still be salvaged by way of your relationship if perhaps you two were to consider something like this. I am here if you wish to talk anytime, whether here or in private messages - I promise to keep my attitude in check. -C
  3. Hi Nicole, I am new here too. If it helps any, I am a parent - I don't even LIKE to think of even the POSSIBILITY of something like this happening to any of my children, no matter how unrealistic it may seem to say to myself that it won't. Perhaps your mother is the same way - she does not understand because she recognizes some of the signs in you and it makes things hard for her to cope with and so she "shuts down." It may not be the case, but it's a thought. Have you tried talking to her about some things? Maybe once the ice is broken, your mother can help you through some of it? Anyway, welcome and enjoy your stay here, everyone here has been so nice to me and I hope you gain the support you seek.
  4. Perhaps I will in time as I get to know some of you better. My writings reveal a lot of my inner self and I like to be sure I know who I am dealing with before I share. Thank you though, everyone, for the welcome.
  5. Hi Julia, I am new too, I only started posting yesterday.
  6. Well, I thank all of you for the warm welcome. I'm glad that this board was recommended to me. I'd love to get to know all of you.
  7. And I look forward to getting to know everyone here. It's been great so far.
  8. Thanks, Nicole, that is relieving to hear!
  9. My best friend gave me the link to this site and I signed up yesterday. A little about me - I'm 28 years old and my hubby and I have four kids (two were his from a previous marriage, and then we had two of our own) and one dog and three insane cats. We're all crammed under a teeny-tiny roof somewhere in the city of New York. For now I am a stay-home mom to a beautiful 1-year-old while the rest of the kids are in school...after three o'clock, things get REALLY interesting around here. I'm also a starving author, and writing seems to be my outlet for many things. (Easier than talking, ain't it?) Another thing that gets me through life is HUMOUR - and I'm often accused of being sarcastic. Please be advised that I never use it to be vicious, but more so to make people laugh. It's important to me that we all stop and remember to smile at the silliness life has to offer! I suppose there's more to me, but I like to remain a little bit of a mystery until I know some of you a bit better. Feel free to ask me anything that hasn't been clarified here. (Open book and all that!)
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