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  1. 3 hours ago, Reyzl said:


    has anyone else had trouble editing their signature? Every time I try to change mine I get a message telling me I haven't followed the guidelines. Sometimes it's saying it needs to be on fewer lines, and other times should to be without images, but I'm not adding images and even when I condense it into two lines it's not happy. I've tried on different browsers.

    I've had this problem for years, hence why my signature never changes! I'd hoped it would have gone away by now but it's still the same. The mods back then worked on it but in the end it defeated everyone! 

    Any techno wizards here who can work out what's going wrong? :pray:




    HI, @Reyzl - 

    If you let me know what you would like your signature to be, I will attempt to change it for you. :) I have changed a signature as recently as a few months ago, so it might be worth a try.   Please send me a PM and I'll see what I can do! :)  

    Hoping you're staying safe!

  2. Hi @Samonne -

    Erin, welcome to After Silence!!  I'm called Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators, and I'm here to let you know that you've found a truly good community.  I'm sorry to learn that circumstance has brought you here, but am hopeful that you will find a lot of support now that you've told us a little about yourself.  I am a survivor of 23 years, and remember all too well how hard it was to talk things out in person - especially in the beginning!  That's something I still have a hard time with, and I imagine many of us are also in that very same boat.  I hope that being here is helpful and that you are able to quickly build connections with other survivors who understand all of those things you struggle with.  There is genuine strength in numbers.  Thank you in advance for the mutual kindness and support that I'm sure you will be showing others in no time.  

    You should be hearing from a member of our Newbie Support Team very soon, with some information that will help you navigate the site.  Until then, if you have any questions, I'm just a holler away.  :)

    Again, welcome - I'm looking forward to getting to know you.  

    Wishing you all the best in your healing processes!


  3. Hi @Tobi45 -

    I am one of the site's moderators.  I thank you for reaching out with your question!!!

    How old is your client?  If she is sixteen or older, she may sign up for an account as a survivor, and join us; we do have a teen/young adult population here at After Silence.  As many of our members feel more anonymous by not revealing their ages, my recommendation would be for her to first introduce herself in the Welcome forums and browse through postings in the Teen and Young Adult forums that we do also offer.  I have been meaning to do some work in the Teen/Young Adult sections (for starters, to start up a discussion board, maybe?) and if your client does join, perhaps she could give me a heads' up through private message and we could try to connect her with some of our younger members.  Overall, there is an overwhelming amount of support here, and I think she'll fit in nicely with survivors of any age once she gets tha hang of utilizing the boards. :) 

    If, however, she is younger than sixteen, I'm afraid we would have to wait on accepting her as a member.  If you like, please send me a PM and I'll be happy to see if we can find some other resources that may work well for your client.  I'm so sorry to hear of what she's been through.  I wish her the absolute best in her healing journey.

    All the best,


  4. Welcome to After Silence, @thefuturemrsh - although I'm sorry to hear of the circumstances that have led you here, I'm hopeful that being here will inspire lots of comfort, healing and growth. :)  You are among many others who understand and you're not alone.

    All the best,

  5. 5 hours ago, onedayhero said:

    I have been exposed to what I'd like to call sexually inappropriate behaviour. Meaning people have talked about sex or behaved sexually in my presence when I was still quite young.

    @onedayhero - this may not seem like abuse because it wasn't of the physical sort, but in a way, it is.  You do not have to be inappropriately touched for something to qualify as being abuse or for a situation to be wrong on many levels.  I am a survivor of domestic violence, yet my ex-husband never 'hit' me.  Mental/emotional forms of abuse are JUST as damaging as the physical, if you ask me.  If you were a child and were exposed to inappropriate sexual behavior, the person(s) who did so were not taking into consideration your age or trying to shield you from unhealthy sexual behavior - instead they showed it to you, it IS likely that's caused an impact.  I'm sorry that's happened. :(  It COULD have a lot to do with your struggles involving sexuality and sex in general, but it also may not as truthfully, many individuals grapple with sexuality issues on a daily basis - whether they do or don't have abuse/sexual trauma in their background.

    You're welcome to look around here and see if anybody has any input or advice for you on this, but I do suggest maybe talking things through with a therapist or counselor who specializes in sexuality issues....he or she may be able to help you get to the root of things that way. :)  Remember though, we are all different - and we all cope differently.  There are some of us who have had different levels of exposure to inappropriate sexual behavior or violence and have dealt with it in different ways.  Only you can truly understand your own questions and answers, whatever they may be, and ultimately decide what is best for yourself.  

    Wishing you all the luck in the world.  :)

    Best wishes,

  6. @afterthestorm78 - welcome to After Silence!!!  I'm sad that you have reason to be here, but truly feel blessed to have you and your voice among us within our community.  You are not alone in coping with the past, present and future - many of us are in the same boat and there's truly strength in numbers. :)  

    Please feel free to let me know if you have any questions or concerns. :)

    All the best,


  7. Welcome, Peachy!  Although I'm sorry to hear of the circumstances that have led you to us, I'm hopeful that being here will bring you some peace, comfort and healing. 

    My best wishes,

  8. Welcome, @Bambs, to After Silence. :)  I think being here is an excellent way to prepare for getting into some difficult things - it's always SO much easier to talk about things within a community where many others are in the same boat - I am also wishing you lots of luck with the transition into therapy - that's another very positive step in your healing process. :)

    Take all the time you need to look around before sharing - if that is best for you.  We don't require that you share anything if you're not quite comfortable doing so, yet.  Whenever you're ready to jump in, we'll be here! :)

    Best wishes,

  9. Welcome, @PrettyPeony to After Silence, I'm glad you've joined our community.  This truly is a safe place, and I'm hopeful that you will find that we certainly are a fantastic online community where support is unwavering and the people are kind and can relate in many ways.  

    You are right about there being a story-sharing forum that unlocks after you've had 10 posts.  This is for your protection as well as for the protection of others, as we would like for the content in that forum to not be seen by those who might not want to stick around, etc.  There is some very heavily triggering posts in that space, too, so it's best to get to know AS a little bit more before venturing into there. :)  And one of the things I like the most about AS is - you can say as much or as little as you like - you're not obligated to say anything you're not comfortable with.  

    Please take your time to look around.  :)  If you have any questions or concerns, I'm just a shout away.

    All the best, and again - welcome.

    - Capulet

  10. Hi @rj1130 - welcome to AS!  I'm sorry to hear you are a new/recent survivor and that those are the circumstances that have led you here, but I'm truly glad you are here and think you will truly find that you're among many others who truly understand your fear.  

    No worries about the details - you've posted a very good introduction, it helps us to get to know you a little bit.  When you've reached 10 total postings, a more private, Story-sharing forum will automatically unlock, and you're welcome to share more detailed content if that's what you'd like to do.  One of the best things about this site is - you're welcome to share as much or as little as you want - there's no pressure whatsoever. :)  Just relax, take your time, and seek comfort in the safe, healing tone the site very much encompasses.

    Again, welcome - wishing you all the best on your healing journey!

    - Capulet 


  11. Hello @Rere1000H - welcome to After Silence.  I'm so sorry for the circumstances that have led you here, but hope you will find an abundance of support, here!! :)  You are definitely not alone.

    My name is Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators - you'll soon be hearing from one of our Newbie Support Team members but for now, I thought I'd introduce myself and tackle your question!

    The 'Share Your Story' forum is automatically unlocked once you have reached a post count of 10.  This is for your protection, as well as for the protection of others who want to keep their stories a little more protected from lurkers or members who join with no intention of posting.  Also, the content you'll find in that forum is of a more sensitive nature, and we do want our members to become familiar with reading and posting, and issuing trigger warnings where needed.  

    Raising your post count is VERY easy. :)  You can visit our Humor and Silliness boards and participate in the games we have there, you can respond to others' postings.  Your 10 posts do not necessarily have to be boards you create yourself. You should be able to unlock Share Your Story relatively quick.

    I hope this helps!  If you have any questions, I'm just a holler away.

    Wishing you all the best in your healing process!

    Best wishes,

  12. Hi, @Mel_Bellel!  Welcome to After Silence.  Although I am sorry to hear that a long history of abuse has led you to our community, I'm glad you are here, and I do hope that you will fit in well among us.  You're not alone, here.

    I also promised to do good things for myself this year.  I think it's an excellent goal for 2020!  Happy Belated New Year to you, and I wish you all the best!

    Best wishes,

  13. Welcome to AS, Sky!  :) 

    I'm glad you found this site by chance. :)  I am hopeful that by now, it feels less like an accidental find and more like a sign that perhaps this is meant to be a part of your healing process.

    Looking forward to getting to know you!

    Best wishes,

  14. The Woven Collective

    They offer free advocacy for "survivors of violence, their friends and families," and are a group of folks whose mission is to support people of all identities and backgrounds.

    They also offer therapy with experienced trauma therapists. The folks who founded Woven Collective worked together at another local sexual assault support center before founding this organization to better serve the community.

    Contact them through their websitehttps://www.wovenvt.org/advocacy

  15. Hi @Julia99 - welcome to After Silence.  I'm so sorry to learn of the trauma at the hands of your mom's boyfriend, that has brought you here.  None of that was your fault - all of it is 100% completely his fault.

    You will find that you are not alone and there are many others who understand what you're going through!  

    Please take all the time you need to look around and feel free to give a shout if there's ever anything you need help with.

    Best wishes,

  16. Welcome to AS, @Audra.  I'm so sorry to learn of the trauma that has led you here.  This is truly a safe place and you will find lots of support, here.

    You should be hearing from a member of our Newbie Support Team soon.  Until then, if you have any questions, I'm always just a holler away.

    Best wishes to you,

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