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  1. Hi @summer2009 and welcome to After Silence!

    @write track is right - the Share Your Story will unlock after you've acquired 10 postings.  Until then, please do take your time to look around and become acquainted with the site as best as you can.  Yes, I understand completely the typing and erasing your story - I've done the same thing.  Sometimes I just need to be a little bit more ready.  One of the things I like the most about this community is that you're never under any pressure to share - our only 'rule' as far as that goes is, 'only when you're ready!'  It can be pretty overwhelming to take in all the postings you've seen so far, so there's no rush. :) 

    You'll soon receive a private message from a member of our Newbie Support Team to officially welcome you to the site and pass along some helpful links and information.  Until then, if you have any questions, feel free to drop me a line.  

    Take good care and congratulations on taking this huge leap toward healing.

    Best wishes,


  2. Hi @Speechless!  Welcome to After Silence.  I like your chosen username - it's very appropriate, for some of us feel exactly that from time to time. 

    I'm called Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators.  You'll soon hear from a member of the Newbie Support Team and will receive a PM containing some helpful links and information.  Until then, feel free to give me a shout if you need any assistance. :) 

    Congratulations to you on taking steps to emerge from the parts of your life that you've kept hidden.  That's an amazing and tremendous first step.  I'm hopeful that being here among others who understand will bring you peace, comfort and healing.  Please take your time looking around and jump in whenever you're comfortable!

    Best wishes,

  3. Hi there, @Figs!

    Welcome to After Silence!!  I'm called Cap and am one of the site's moderators.  I'm sorry to learn of what's brought you here, but hope you've found a place where you can more comfortably converse about the traumas you've endured.  We are a supportive community and truly come together from all walks of life. ❤️ 

    We do have a DID Support Board where you may be able to gain some feedback on how to develop a cooperative relationship with your alters.  Note though, only you're allowed to post on the boards.  If you'd like to share how some of your alters are feeling, that's okay to do, but alters are not allowed to post.  It's just much easier to follow and for others to support you this way. :)  Any questions on that, please feel free to drop me a line.

    I am currently interning at the Gender and Sexuality Center at my university, and LOVE that you've shared your pronouns.  I appreciate your doing so!  Mine are she/her/hers.  It's wonderful to meet you and I look forward to getting to know you.

    Best wishes to you,

  4. Welcome to After Silence, @Dee12!  I love that cross-out of the word 'victim.'  Congratulations on recognizing yourself as a survivor - that's an incredibly difficult first step to take toward the rest of your healing journey.  

    I can definitely relate to trauma impacting many of my life's choices.  It has taken a lot of time and patience but eventually I hope you will see that the choices you've made were likely the ones that would provide you the most protection from harm.  No need to ever be ashamed of that.  :)

    Anyway - I am sending lots of healing vibes your way.  Please don't hesitate to give me a shout if you need help with anything. :) 

    Best wishes,


  5. Welcome to After Silence, @Minty!  I'm called Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators.

    Sadly, I can relate to much of what you have said, right down to the narcissistic (ex) husband who never saw himself as contributing to our problems and didn't feel therapy was warranted, and that healing consisted of putting things in the past and 'moving on.'  We might have been married to the same man! 

    All joking aside, I'm glad you found us and do sincerely hope that being here will bring you peace, comfort and healing.  You are definitely not alone.  

    Please feel free to let me know if you need any help. :)  

    Sending you strength and positivity on your healing process. 

    Best wishes,


  6. @write track - welcome to After Silence!  Though the increasing number of people who feel the need to join us is saddening, it's always a comfort to know that I'll never be alone and that I have thousands of allies as I proceed on my healing journey.  I hope that being here brings you that same comfort and lots of peace.

    Please let me know if ever you need help with anything. :) 

    All the best,


  7. 50 minutes ago, Spruce2583 said:

    Hi Neighbor!! I hope you survived the snow storm! Havent had this much snow in years and I got spoiled lol

    We did - we got more snow in two days than we did in the last two years!  LOL.  I ended up paying the plow dude - it was a toss up between being out $100 for a flat driveway or spending hours on end shoveling it up!  Definitely worth it when we get this much snow.  For smaller storms, I have my son that will do (almost) anything for replenishment of his Ramen noodles! 😄 

    Anyway - take gentle care and holler if you need anything. :)

    - Cap

  8. Hello, @Spruce2583 - we are neighbors - I'm in Pennsylvania!  I'm called Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators, so if you ever have any questions, feel free to reach out.  

    Welcome to After Silence.  I'm sorry to learn that you're feeling stuck in your current relationship.  I hope that being here and gaining support is helpful toward your healing process.  Good for you on taking a huge leap toward getting yourself onto a path to wellness by joining the site.  It's a very brave and courageous thing to do!!    

    18 minutes ago, Spruce2583 said:

    Also, what is an online community like? Do I respond to other posts? Am I too new for that? Sorry for all the obnoxious Qs, never even owned a MySpace before ahaha 

    Ask anything you like!! 😉  We all have to start somewhere when it comes to online communities. 

    You're never too new to respond to posts.  Take it all in at your own pace.  You can say as much or as little as you like, there's never any pressure to share any more than what's comfortable.  We're an awesome group of survivors who are supporting one another and we're happy to have you.

    You'll soon get a Private Message from a member of our Newbie Support Team, and she will provide you with some helpful links to read - site navigating tips, guidelines, safety tips, and more.  Feel free to browse at your leisure.  

    Don't feel bad about being a mental health professional and not being able to see some of the red flags.  Many, many people can relate to this and struggle with the question of 'why didn't I see these before?'  *raises hand*  

    I think it's kinda like being in the very first row at the movie theaters....vision is limited when you are too close, and it's harder to see what's  in the background.  Don't be so hard on yourself on this. ❤️  We fully understand!

    Anyways - welcome again. :)

    Best wishes,

  9. Welcome, @Mermaid_hair!  Welcome to After Silence.  I'm sorry to learn of the circumstances that have led you to us, but hope that by being here, you'll feel equal amounts of peace, comfort and healing.  

    The weekly writing exercises @Poppy_ mentioned can be found in the Healing Through Creativity forums.  All of the 30+ topics are still open to submit to if you're feeling inclined to write! 😉  I don't do music, but love to write - so this was a nice way to involve our community in some group healing activities. 

    Take your time looking around and please let me know if you ever have any questions. :) 

    Best wishes,

  10. Hi, @Jazzyjojo and welcome to After Silence!!!  I'm sorry to hear of the traumatic events that have led you to us, but do hope you'll get plenty of feedback and support from our members.  Many understand where you are coming from and this community is amazing.  (I'm not biased, I promise! 😉)  

    So, I feel that your co-worker's behavior is very disturbing.  Based on what you've shared about him, I'm getting predatory/stalkery vibes - even if he is not acting on this behavior, there are many red flags out there that I'm glad you're not ignoring.  Given your career as a social worker, I imagine those red flags are a bit too difficult to dismiss.  This is clearly a case of sexual harassment, and although you don't want to get him in trouble, it's still unacceptable behavior and I'm hoping you'll protect yourself by letting HR know about it.   

    I know it's a hard choice to consider making....but know that regardless of what you choose, you have support and validation, here.  Please try to keep yourself safe.  That's most important! :) 

    By the way, I'll have my social work degree in May!  

    Again - welcome.

    Best wishes,

  11. Hello, @XwitchhuntX - 

    Welcome to After Silence!  I'm called Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators.  I'm sorry that terrible circumstances have led you here - but do feel glad you have found us.  We're a safe place and are filled with many others who are in the same boat and who completely understand your current struggles. You're definitely not alone, here.  Many, including myself, have struggled with relationships and can understand how tough it can be to find some balance.

    You'll soon hear from a member of our Newbie Support Team.  Until then, I am just a holler away if you have any questions.  This is a big site, but I'm sure you'll be an expert in no time! :) 

    Best wishes to you in your healing process and congratulations on taking this next step within your journey.

    Best wishes,

    P.S. - no worries about the duplicate post - I've taken care of that. 😉  Thank you for introducing yourself!  It is nice to 'meet' you.

  12. I have an iPhone, as well - and I tried this:

    Once the website loads, click the “aA” icon available in the top corner positioned before the address bar. It opens the website view menu. From the available options, choose the “Request Desktop Website” option.

    It didn't work for me.  :(  It's worth a try, though.  Additionally, you could download Chrome for iPhone to see if the result is the same?

    I'm sorry.  Know that we're working on trying to find a solution to the mobile access.  As soon as I find one, I'll be sure to post it! 



  13. This information was given to me by a member who wishes to remain anonymous.  I could not test this as I do not have an Android mobile device - I became a convert much earlier this year and swapped mine in for an iPhone 11!  

    Anyway - here is something that you can try to see if it brings up your notifications and mailbox:

    Android phones:  Chrome and Firefox have 3 vertical dots in the upper right, tap the dots and select 'request desktop site' to check the box and it's the same process to go back to the mobile version, select 'request desktop site' to remove check. Other browsers will have the menu icon either at the top or on the bottom of the screen as 3 dots or 3 horizontal lines, look for the 'request desktop site' option.

    Kindly let me know if this works for you.  iPhone users - I'm sorry - still looking for a solution to this but if this could benefit those of you who have Androids, I'll take it. :)  

    Much love to you all,

  14. I mostly use either my desktop or laptop to access, but occasionally, I will use my mobile when I'm on the go and have a few minutes to spare for a quick check-in.  

    I cannot see notifications or access my inbox, either.  I checked on my mobile while I was still in bed this morning, and the only way I can get into my inbox is to follow the pop-up notification if one appears.  It will only take me to the most recent message, and will allow me to respond but then I cannot see anything beyond that until I log into my desktop or laptop and can see all of the notifications/messages.

    I know this is a problem and will be bringing this up to @Rose when I speak with her, next.  I'm not sure how long it will take for us to implement a fix but please be patient and assured that this is one of our top priorities. ❤️ 

    Thank you to those who have taken the time to let us know about this issue!  Please continue to 'play around' with the site and let us know what your key areas of concern are.

    Huggles to all,

  15. Hi, everyone! 

    Per my recent post in the site's News and Updates forum, I am putting forward this space for you all to tell us about your experiences with the site since we've upgraded our software.

    According to @Rose, the site may present differently depending on your browser.  Please do tell us what browser you are using and if are able to use multiple browsers, which browser displays the site best for you.  Additionally I am seeing there are mailbox (PMs) issues and some notification issues for some of you.  We'd like to spend a little time gathering information from you all on whatever issues you are experiencing so that we can look into a solution.

    We value and truly need your feedback, so please do let us know what's working for you, and what's not - and please do include the name of the browser(s) you use and any differences between browsers.

    I will try to give notice if we need to go offline again in order to perform additional upgrades/fixes.  Normally we will try to give you all some notice if we know the site will be down, but this, unfortunately cannot always be helped.  

    For your reference, please take down the following email address: aftersilence.moderators@gmail.com - this is where the moderators can be reached to answer questions if the site/Help Desk is unavailable.

    Thank you all for your patience!!  

    Big hugs to you all,

    - Cap

  16. Welcome, @SlynZ to After Silence!!!  

    Although I'm sorry for the circumstances that have led you here, I'm glad you've found us and I do hope that being here brings you connection, peace and healing.  

    You are not alone, here - many are in the same boat and you'll find an overwhelming amount of support within this community.  

    Take your time looking around and jump in, anytime.

    Best wishes,

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