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  1. "A relationship full of control is really out of control."

    True story, friends.

    From social media this weekend:

  2. "Sometimes, when things appear to be falling apart, they may actually be falling into place."

    - Unknown.  But I believe it.  

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    2. LuthienTinuviel


      thank you. i hope this is an answer to my status even though i k now you wrote this for everyone. 

      hugs if ok and @free2fly hugs if ok

    3. Free2Fly


      Hugs are ok BLT :hug: thank u I appreciate them, having a crappy time right now.

    4. Capulet


      @LuthienTinuviel - hugs always welcome!  And I hope so, too...  

      It just seems that so many of us are struggling in so many different ways right now - this highly optimistic, yet powerful statement, I believe, is safe to hold onto as we all work at figuring out what's next for each of us.  :throb:  Hang in there, friend.

  3. :candle: I am missing someone today.  18 years in Heaven, although it feels like only yesterday we lost you - Grandma, please continue to watch over my family and all of those dear to my heart.  

  4. 🚨 PSA: After Silence is running VERY slowly tonight.  It's not your computers, don't fret! :)  

    1. Mave


      Thanks, Cap!

    2. 8888


      Good to know!

  5. To those of you celebrating Thanksgiving today with family and friends and loved ones - I wish you a blessed and wonderful day!  

    To those who have chosen to celebrate Thanksgiving alone or who struggle with holidays in general, I extend all of my unconditional love and support and want you all to know that even though I may not know you, I am  still thinking of you, too.  I truly hope that today, you do something special for yourselves, just because you deserve it.  You are worth it.  NOTHING changes that.  

    Happy Thanksgiving, I am thankful for this site and for all of you.

    - Cap

    1. Kmkz


      A wonderful and thoughtful message. I echo your sentiments back to you and everyone.

  6. A friendly reminder to those who post status updates regularly:

    These are NOT private.  These are PUBLIC.  Unregistered visitors to After Silence can view recent status updates.  Therefore, there must not be any profanity, identifying or triggering materials included within status updates.

    Any status updates deemed inappropriate for the public eye are subject to deletion.

    Thank you.

    - Capulet

  7. A little Friday message to those of you who may need to hear this:



    1. Free2Fly


      I guess I needed to hear that I guess... I don't know.

      safe hugs :hug: if ok?

  8. A little note of encouragement.  Happy Thursday, everybody!  :throb:


  9. A loving message for those of you who are struggling:

    "You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have."

    Hang in there.  


  10. A random Tuesday quote, something for us all to think about:

    "The only people who get upset over you setting boundaries are those who benefit from you having none."

    (Stolen from my local women's shelter page.)

    1. MeBeMary


      Yes! Good share, Capulet!

    2. Iheartcupcakes
  11. All right.  I need a hug.  Or two.  Or two hundred...

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    2. Eph320NY


      Well, then. Here are the hugs!:hug::hug:

    3. Capulet



      Back atcha, all of you!  

    4. Free2Fly


      Thanks cap :) , kinda needed one I'm a bit under the weather today. Hope all is okay with you?

  12. All treats, no tricks!  If candy's not your thing, then consider your bag filled with lots of love, support and well wishes from me to you - Happy and safe Halloween to all. :)44896261_975134109362256_7955678904335728640_n.jpg

  13. Another reason I love our community so much!  :throb:  Hoping everyone had a good weekend! 


  14. Attention newbies!  Tonight, January 14th, we will be hosting a newbie chat at 11pm EST/10pm Central.  All are welcome!  Bring all of your questions and concerns and let's chat. ❤️ 

  15. Be safe this Super Bowl Sunday, guys!  In my area, we got snow and ice today, we are still going to attempt going to a friend's, but may very well turn around and come back home if roads are bad. Hoping all of you stay safe! xo

    1. MeBeMary


      You stay safe, too, Capulet. My day is more at home with Puppy Bowl, instead. :breakdance:

    2. Capulet


      Ended up attempting to go to friends' house but turned around...roads were too icy to proceed.  So we came back home and made our own munchies.  Great game so far!

  16. Been a while since I did this...

    Have a nice weekend, all!


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    2. 8888


      Thank you and happy weekend!

    3. Mave


      Thank you, Cap! You too!

    4. waterlily13


      Thank you friend, you too! ❤️ 

  17. Came across this gem on my newsfeed on social media and wanted to share with everyone here.  It is imperative to be compassionate to yourself in times of difficulty. Self-care is a great way to do that to help yourself heal. It is giving yourself permission to pause, to love yourself, to be kind to yourself and remember that you are just human and you are doing your best.  :throb:   Sending you all love and safe hugs!!


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    2. Field8


      Thank you Cap. I forget all the time about self care.

    3. Iheartcupcakes


      This is excellent. Bathing in the ocean is definitely cleansing and spiritual for me. I make time for this every time I go home. 


    4. Hawkgirl


      Thank you Cap for this.  I didn’t realize self care was quite so multifaceted.  

  18. Continued good vibes needed, please, for our cat, who has lost all function of his hind legs and is unable to walk.  Still, he is a fighter and has been surprising us day after day with his strength and will to keep going.  Although his prognosis is not good, he is calling all the shots, and he's not finished, yet.  He is looking especially handsome today, so both he and his Mama are accepting hugs and positivity!  :throb:  


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    2. ActivistAlly
    3. snmls


      I'm sorry to hear this.  Such a beautiful cat.  Send hugs to the two of you.  :hug:

    4. 2Siamese
  19. Don't forget daylight savings!!! Clocks ahead one hour, tonight!  :throb:

  20. Feeling very unlike myself tonight.  No idea why.  Could use a friend.

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    2. Hoping8


      Hi!  Message me if you want—I’d like to get to know you better and I will be awake either way.  Hang in there!

    3. Capulet


      Hi @Kmkz, @Free2Fly, @MeBeMary, @Field8, @Hoping8 

      THANK YOU guys for your kind words and messages and for sitting with me last night.  

      I do NOT ask for help often. I'm not used to doing so.  In the past, I was taught and 'conditioned' to deal with my emotions and moods differently.  Whenever I feel these 'emotional overloads,' this (untrue) feeling of sharing being equivalent to showing weakness kicks in and I am usually quicker/more likely to suck it up and let it sit and fester instead.  But this is not happening anymore; part of my personal growth process is to (slowly) learn to allow others to be able to offer comfort, advice or support when needed.  More often than not, healing is a grueling uphill battle, and it's too easy to forget that there are others who are on that same hike.  Slowly, I am discovering the benefits of allowing others to stand behind me and give that encouraging push here and there - I WILL keep climbing and I WILL make it to the top of this hill, eventually.  

      I'd also like to shout out to a couple of others not listed here who also took the time out of their evening to reach out and talk to me.  You guys have NO idea how much it helped to know that you were there.  Thank you, too. :throb:

      I'm feeling a little less unsettled and more coherent today.  I did manage to sleep for a little while, too, so the headache has lessened although it's not completely gone, yet.  I'm going to respond to a couple of PMs, soak in the bath and will be back later. 



    4. Free2Fly


      :) glad I could be helpful

  21. For those of you who are also having mixed feelings seeing the Mother's Day posts on social media: I'm with you.  Wishing you a happy day if you're celebrating and holding your hand if you're not.  :throb:

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    2. snmls


      Thank you.  It is hard for me to see people post about relationships with their mothers on facebook when I have never had a good relationship with my mom.  

    3. heartofamethyst


      Thank you so much for posting this. I have such mixed feelings about this day. One because I do not have a great relationship with my mom and two because due to my abuse I may never have kids. 

    4. Field8


      Thank you Cap

  22. For when the going gets tough and the frustration begins to mount; for those times we wonder how continuing is possible....here's a random little message that is important for us all to remember, may these short, powerful words speak louder than the rest... ❤️  Have a great Sunday, everyone.


    1. MeBeMary


      💕 Thanks. 

  23. Friday wisdom.  TGIF, everybody!


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    2. Amsekhmet


      Thanks for giving me my smile for today! : )

    3. Capulet


      You got it, @Amsekhmet!!!!  I am raising my glass (of water) to this, today.  And smiling, too. :)  TGIF!

    4. 8888
  24. From one Mom to another - wishing those of you who are celebrating - Happy Mother's Day!!!   XOXO.  Will blog a little bit later. 

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