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  1. Hi @summer2009 and welcome to After Silence! @write track is right - the Share Your Story will unlock after you've acquired 10 postings. Until then, please do take your time to look around and become acquainted with the site as best as you can. Yes, I understand completely the typing and erasing your story - I've done the same thing. Sometimes I just need to be a little bit more ready. One of the things I like the most about this community is that you're never under any pressure to share - our only 'rule' as far as that goes is, 'only when you're ready!' It can be pretty overwhelming
  2. Hi @Speechless! Welcome to After Silence. I like your chosen username - it's very appropriate, for some of us feel exactly that from time to time. I'm called Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators. You'll soon hear from a member of the Newbie Support Team and will receive a PM containing some helpful links and information. Until then, feel free to give me a shout if you need any assistance. Congratulations to you on taking steps to emerge from the parts of your life that you've kept hidden. That's an amazing and tremendous first step. I'm hopeful that being here among othe
  3. Hi there, @Figs! Welcome to After Silence!! I'm called Cap and am one of the site's moderators. I'm sorry to learn of what's brought you here, but hope you've found a place where you can more comfortably converse about the traumas you've endured. We are a supportive community and truly come together from all walks of life. ❤️ We do have a DID Support Board where you may be able to gain some feedback on how to develop a cooperative relationship with your alters. Note though, only you're allowed to post on the boards. If you'd like to share how some of your alters are feeling, th
  4. Welcome to After Silence, @Dee12! I love that cross-out of the word 'victim.' Congratulations on recognizing yourself as a survivor - that's an incredibly difficult first step to take toward the rest of your healing journey. I can definitely relate to trauma impacting many of my life's choices. It has taken a lot of time and patience but eventually I hope you will see that the choices you've made were likely the ones that would provide you the most protection from harm. No need to ever be ashamed of that. Anyway - I am sending lots of healing vibes your way. Please don't hes
  5. Welcome to After Silence, @Minty! I'm called Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators. Sadly, I can relate to much of what you have said, right down to the narcissistic (ex) husband who never saw himself as contributing to our problems and didn't feel therapy was warranted, and that healing consisted of putting things in the past and 'moving on.' We might have been married to the same man! All joking aside, I'm glad you found us and do sincerely hope that being here will bring you peace, comfort and healing. You are definitely not alone. Please feel free to let me know if
  6. @write track - welcome to After Silence! Though the increasing number of people who feel the need to join us is saddening, it's always a comfort to know that I'll never be alone and that I have thousands of allies as I proceed on my healing journey. I hope that being here brings you that same comfort and lots of peace. Please let me know if ever you need help with anything. All the best, Capulet
  7. Checking in with everyone.  How are y'all doing tonight? ❤️ 

    1. mini.finch


      Not the worst, not the best. Struggling with intrusive thoughts...but I'm about to head off to bed now and just hope I can sleep them away. Thank you for checking in with everyone. I hope you're doing well. ❤️ 

    2. Capulet


      ❤️ Can't complain, @mini.finch, thank you!  Hoping you were able to get some rest last night and that today is a little bit better. :hug:

    3. mini.finch


      That's great @Capulet! ❤️ Thank you. I got some rest, but I admit it wasn't the most restful with some unpleasant dreams. But I'm doing what I can. Thank you again. :hug:

  8. We did - we got more snow in two days than we did in the last two years! LOL. I ended up paying the plow dude - it was a toss up between being out $100 for a flat driveway or spending hours on end shoveling it up! Definitely worth it when we get this much snow. For smaller storms, I have my son that will do (almost) anything for replenishment of his Ramen noodles! 😄 Anyway - take gentle care and holler if you need anything. - Cap
  9. Hello, @Spruce2583 - we are neighbors - I'm in Pennsylvania! I'm called Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators, so if you ever have any questions, feel free to reach out. Welcome to After Silence. I'm sorry to learn that you're feeling stuck in your current relationship. I hope that being here and gaining support is helpful toward your healing process. Good for you on taking a huge leap toward getting yourself onto a path to wellness by joining the site. It's a very brave and courageous thing to do!! Ask anything you like!! 😉 We all have to start somewhere when it co
  10. Welcome, @Mermaid_hair! Welcome to After Silence. I'm sorry to learn of the circumstances that have led you to us, but hope that by being here, you'll feel equal amounts of peace, comfort and healing. The weekly writing exercises @Poppy_ mentioned can be found in the Healing Through Creativity forums. All of the 30+ topics are still open to submit to if you're feeling inclined to write! 😉 I don't do music, but love to write - so this was a nice way to involve our community in some group healing activities. Take your time looking around and please let me know if you ever have a
  11. Hi, @Jazzyjojo and welcome to After Silence!!! I'm sorry to hear of the traumatic events that have led you to us, but do hope you'll get plenty of feedback and support from our members. Many understand where you are coming from and this community is amazing. (I'm not biased, I promise! 😉) So, I feel that your co-worker's behavior is very disturbing. Based on what you've shared about him, I'm getting predatory/stalkery vibes - even if he is not acting on this behavior, there are many red flags out there that I'm glad you're not ignoring. Given your career as a social worker, I imagi
  12. My wish for you all: everything here, and more - especially peace, comfort and healing.  Happy New Year to my AS family!! ❤️ 


    1. MeBeMary


      Happy New Year, Cap! Here's to a wonderful new year for all! :throb:

    2. Hope321


      Happy New Year!

  13. Welcome to After Silence!! I'm sorry for the circumstances that have led you to us, but am glad you're here. There is strength in numbers and I'm hoping that being here will bring you peace, comfort and healing. Best wishes, Capulet
  14. I am truly thankful for this community and for all of those wonderful connections I have made here.  Though this year has been nothing short of chaotic, I am truly glad that AS has remained a safe place. I know that this year’s holiday season is going to be a bit bittersweet with the looming pandemic but my wish for all of you is that you will remember to take good care of yourselves amid the craziness.  You are worth it!!

    Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate.  If not, have a hug anyway, for I’m grateful for all of you.  🦃🤗

    1. MeBeMary


      Happy Thanksgiving, Cap. I am with you, so glad for AS. Such a safe retreat.

      Enjoy your day and stay safe and healthy. :hug: 

    2. redadmirals


      Happy Thanksgiving to you Cap!! I am so grateful to have connected with you, truly wish you the best.

    3. BrightSide


      Thank you, Safe hugs back if you would like Cap? :hug: 💛 B

  15. I did smile at the thought of you and your wonderful husband, G, cherishing the time spent together making dinner. You make something as simple as meal prep sound like something straight out of a fairy tale. The wine, the music, the chatting, the sharing of kitchen duties, it all sounds so nice. (Not at all like dinner prep at my house which is often nothing short of chaotic....there's me (wo)manning the kitchen as best as I can, three cats who jump on the counters to investigate the 'smells,' a dog who is one day going to burn his nose, a son and daughter who will come in and 'help
  16. Hello, @XwitchhuntX - Welcome to After Silence! I'm called Cap and I'm one of the site's moderators. I'm sorry that terrible circumstances have led you here - but do feel glad you have found us. We're a safe place and are filled with many others who are in the same boat and who completely understand your current struggles. You're definitely not alone, here. Many, including myself, have struggled with relationships and can understand how tough it can be to find some balance. You'll soon hear from a member of our Newbie Support Team. Until then, I am just a holler away if you hav
  17. Capulet

    I Got Help

    Hey, Poppy - just want you to know that I am proud of you for taking the initiative to get yourself the help you needed to pull yourself out of that terrible, dark place that you were finding yourself trapped in. There is nothing scarier than that feeling of not wanting to be alive anymore. It's scary for you, and it's scary for the people who care about you. I know it does not often feel that way, but there are many who are in your corner. I'm truly glad you're seeing that your life is, while turbulent right now, is still worth living. I know you for a while, now, and know that you still
  18. Excellent news. In case anyone missed the post in News & Updates this morning, here are the detailed instructions. Big hugs to everyone. - Cap
  19. ❤️ @Tee06 - yes, you got us, we've been tinkering. I'm going to call it a night, but will post further information on our progress first thing tomorrow morning!
  20. I have an iPhone, as well - and I tried this: Once the website loads, click the “aA” icon available in the top corner positioned before the address bar. It opens the website view menu. From the available options, choose the “Request Desktop Website” option. It didn't work for me. It's worth a try, though. Additionally, you could download Chrome for iPhone to see if the result is the same? I'm sorry. Know that we're working on trying to find a solution to the mobile access. As soon as I find one, I'll be sure to post it! ❤️ Cap
  21. @MzKeys75 - Do you have Android or an iPhone? There is a work-around (though I know it's a temporary solution for now - it's still a possible solution) for the Android. I posted about it in this dropbox forum.
  22. I just used an old Android (Galaxy S9) and my WiFi to test this. It works. I see the same view I see on a a computer. Obviously, I did not log in, but do have the option to sign in, and believe that once I do, I will see notifications and my mailbox, in the upper right corner. Droid users - give this a shot?
  23. Dealing the random hugs, take as many as you want...my supply is unlimited. ❤️ 

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    2. ActivistAlly
    3. copper_lips


      Please and thank you!

    4. Capulet


      @matts, @ActivistAlly, and @copper_lips - giving each of you more of these squishy hugs. :)  Hoping all of you are having a good day. 

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