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Secondary Survivors
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  1. Ardatha, don’t apologize for the length, I really appreciate all the help, and from you others as well, thank you very much. I have several degrees in the sciences, so I’m used to problem solving and procedures, i.e. “I need to do this, then this, and then if I do that, everything will be alright.” But I’m really beginning to understand that this is not the case. I just wish there was more I could do than just generally being there for her. I don’t feel a great deal of anger towards what happened, things happen to everyone in their lives that they need to come to terms with. I don’t feel a
  2. I apologize for the confusion, I am a man and if "secondary survivor" means that I'm in a relationship with someone who was abused than that's what I am as well. If not sure where I would go to fix this information, but I noticed today that today it said "group: secondary survivors" next to my name. Perhaps it has worked itself out? I had just registered yesterday, perhaps it needed time to update. Thank you for your support, and I really appreciate your kind words, but I created an account here because she wasn’t doing such a good job in the guiding and letting me know what I can do for her
  3. Hello everyone, I’m new here. I myself was never abused but I recently entered a relationship with someone who was raped and abused a few years ago. I’m looking for guidance as to how to be sensitive to that and how to treat her right and in a way that shows her I love her. We had been going out for a while before she told me that she was victimized thusly, and during that time I did many things that I now know (by reading material on this site) to be damaging out of ignorance. These include pressuring her to trust me and to open up to me, and pressuring her about physically intimate situati
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