Everything posted by Socratort
Hello everyone. I'm new here and wanted to say hello.. Many years ago, I joined the community of secondary survivors. In turn, that led me to be able to act as a voice survivors as part of what I do. I now find that I'm a secondary survivor once again on a personal level. I'm hoping I can contribute to, and draw strength from, this community.
Thanks again for all the replies. I don't think I was 100 percent clear. First, my background. I was a secondary survivor a long time ago for a decade. That person is no longer part of my life. She was the love of my life, but we parted ways many years ago. Currently, a good friend has confided in me that she is a survivor. Second, is I agree not making mistakes is critical. But the ratio of what not to do versus what to do seems to be about 100 to 1. A better way to put it would have been to see more of what to do, but not at the expense of what not to do. I did start a thread in the secondary survivors forum on this topic, with the hope that it would do exactly what the comments to me intended; to help those who support the people in our lives whom we care about. Your comments are greatly appreciated.
Thanks for the warm welcomes. The one thing I've found over the years is if there was ever a place where angels could be on earth, its among the community of survivors. The amount of kindness and compassion I've seen among survivors defies description. The simple act of reaching out to someone else, even simply to say to simply say hello and you are not alone, can make such a difference. I'm still learning about this group and getting a feel for how it operates, so I may not jump that often, at least not at first. What I am hoping to contribute here though, is to help build a better understanding between survivors and secondary survivors, coming from the secondary point of view. There's lots of information for secondary survivors, but the bulk of it seems to focus on what not to do and less as to what to do. To me, it should be the other way around.