SilentBird

(((((missfrier))))

Hope you feel better.

I completely understand. I hope you have has some luck in "not let(ing) them get to you".

Sorry, I didn't see your replies until now.
Thank you for noticing me and supporting me.

Glad you had a good time and the power is back on.

I am sorry for your loss.
If you still plan on speaking, I am sure you will do great. Just remember, it's okay to be nervous. It's okay to cry. It's okay to smile.

You will do great...

When this is over with, I hope you will be able to get some sleep.

On a side note, do some Canadians also refer to Thanksgiving as "Turkey Day"?

No. Getting better and wanting to do the work to heal is a very good thing. Not "weird" at all.

If okay..

I understand what you mean about getting the negative out so that there's room for the positive. I hope this forum will help you accomplish that goal.

Thank you everyone.

I think it's because it represents life. The underdog wins. The champ is defeated and then overcomes his fears and wins again. Later he is too old to fight but still has fight left in him. It's about life.

There's an old movie from before I was born. It's called "Pretty Woman". In that movie Julia Roberts plays a prostitute. There's a famous scene in the movie where she is complimented and then she says "the bad things are easier to believe".

If we are told we are stupid, ugly, unworthy, etc, we will start to believe that's the truth. Eventually we are tricked into thinking that we KNOW those things are true. The same thing happens when we tell ourselves we are stupid, ugly or unworthy. Sometimes we get so used to being lonely or get so used to a repetitive cycle of being a "bum magnet", that we forget that we are WORTHY of more. When we start to doubt we are worthy of happiness, love and companionship, we wonder stuff like will anyone "ever truly love me".

We are our own worst enemies. Not as much because we are mean to ourselves, but because we don't challenge the negative beliefs that others send our way. When we don't challenge those negative feelings, the question of things like, will anyone "ever truly love me", become oppressive. It all becomes a self-destructive cycle empowered by doubt, fear and circumstance.

I suspect, like many, many other people, you have difficulty believing or feeling other people will ever truly love you, because somewhere along the lines, circumstance and negative influence has caused you to view yourself as less worthy than you really are. I also suspect to a degree, some of the love you have for yourself has also been damaged.

I want you to know, you are worthy. You are valuable. You are lovable. You are deserving of true love from others and from YOURSELF. Never forget that.

 

I am glad you have found that reliable source of support. I'm sure we all appreciate you as well.

Thank you two.

I am glad you are feeling good and are experiencing progress toward healing.

I am glad that faith in a deity comforts you.

I completely understand.

I wish you could too. I don't have any good advice on how to find that sleep. I am going through the same thing. I am sorry you are struggling with this. We all deserve a break. 

I hope it is too. 

I understand the feeling. I think part of the reason(with me) is because the very things that seemed important before, suddenly seem much less important. As a result, my interests aren't the same as they used to be and the change in interest has countered the continuing interests of my friends. So yeah, that tends to make me feel a bit disconnected from them. But I have always sort of felt disconnected from the world.

I wish I had some good advice, but I don't. Just know that you are supported, heard and understood.

I hope it works out really well and helps you heal. I am proud of you.

Happy B-Day to you.

Good, so now we know for sure that works. Glad I could help.

I think you see it but no one else does. I can't see yours. I changed mine the way I told you and I still see it, but I don't think you can. Go here and see if you see my bday under my name. 

Go to your profile.
Click on "edit profile" located top right of cover photo.
You will see your bday,

Change the month, day and year to the "blank space" option that's above the month, day and change the year to "not telling".