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  1. Hi, @madeline. I saw your post in @pattyr;s story. I wanted to say that I can relate. I was sexually abuse by my female babysitter too. Always wished that my mother had paid more attention in selecting her or had come home unexpectedly to check on me, but she never did. Eventually, I told, and the babysitter was fired. But, it really traumatized me. I'm so sorry that your babysitter abused you instead of taking care of you. 

  2. I'm taking a break from AS for a while. But, I wish everyone the best on their healing journeys. 

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    2. Field8


      Take gentle care and you will be missed.

    3. lexip


      take care aftersilence!

    4. Iheartcupcakes


      I miss you already, but I understand. I am glad you are taking care of yourself, friend. 

  3. Hope that your mom was able to come over and that things have been a bit smoother than you thought. You must be excited that your husband is coming back soon!

    1. Field8


      No my mom was too sick to come over at all this week. Husband is now home and things I think can get better. Thank you for checking.

    2. aftersilence1


      I'm sorry that your mom was sick. But, I'm glad that your husband is home now and that things seem better. 

  4. Hi, Amy. Hope that your day is going okay. I came across this resource when I was looking for something else. And, I thought of you because of the discussions we've been having around issues related to the trial.



    1. Iheartcupcakes


      Hey! I am doing better. I went to the kids' grad party and I enjoyed it. People there were also at the graduation and no one treated me weirdly. I guess maybe they do understand, or at least they didn't notice as much as I thought.

      Thank you so much for that. I will check it out. 

    2. aftersilence1


      I'm glad you are doing better and had fun at the party. :) You deserve some fun. 

  5. How are you and your son doing, Panda? Did you decide whether to stay at your parents' house or go to your mother-in-law's? Hope that time is passing quickly and your husband gets home soon.


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    2. aftersilence1


      I'm sorry that yesterday was so rough. But, I'm glad that your friend was able to be there for you. You deserve to be comforted. I'm glad that your husband continues to be protective over you and your son and that he "gets" how much you are affected by all of this and is sensitive to your needs. I hope that today is not such a "whammy" for you in the memories department and perhaps you're able to spend time outside or with supportive friends. Counting down the days with you...:hug:

    3. panda0889


      Thank you so much. I think it's going to be a good day today. I'm going to meet with a girl friend of mine. She's amazing. I think she'll be able to help me take my mind off of everything. 

    4. aftersilence1


      I'm glad that you have her. Hope you have a good time together. 

  6. Thanks for reading and responding to my story. I was nervous posting it, and I appreciate your support.

    1. panda0889


      It's no problem. I think you're really brave for speaking about your story. I have a similar story so I think I know exactly how you feel. Hang in there. You do belong here. You're not alone.

    2. aftersilence1


      Thanks!😊 Hope you are having a healing day.

  7. Thanks for the info re: Help Desk, fallen star.

    1. fallenstar


      You're very welcome! :friends2:

  8. Very Happy Birthday to you!

  9. Thanks for "hearing me" re: gaslighting abuse. It's maddening, And, I think we all need to be reminded regularly that what happened isn't our fault. I have started to write down encouraging things people say to me re: my abuse so that I can re-read it when I'm struggling. I also wrote a letter to myself in my journal reminding myself that it's not my fault.