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  1. sarah47

    Feeling Down

    Hi Kmiller, I know exactly how you feel, writing about it will really does help. Also Therapy takes a while, it gets worse before it gets better. Make sure that is the right therapist for you though, I have been through a few different ones and finally found one I liked about a year ago. My experience with therapy, just what I have found, was that my therapist waited until I was completely comfortable and trusted her before we got into the memories. At first, we just dealt with the random triggers and negative thoughts. Its great that your boyfriend is so open to hearing about your thoughts and feelings though he sounds like a great guy! I know most people are against them but I am also on medication to help with my nightmares, flash backs, and mood swings. Not for everyone but may be something you could look into? Just for the time being until you can figure out your feelings. Again I am just speaking from my experience. But I hope everything goes well with you, your seeking help and you have a good support system (your boyfriend) so you can do this.
  2. sarah47

    Decisions Made

    Good Luck with everything!! Your story is very close to mine and I really admire your courage. I hope that everything works out. You really should report him to the police. Also I cut my father out of my life, it wasn't easy either but I am a lot happier because of it.
  3. sarah47

    Refusing to be sad

    I refuse to be sad even though everything isn’t going as planned I refuse to be sad even when my life feels like its slipping out of my hands I refuse to be sad when I am feeling mad I refuse to be sad for what he has done to me I refuse to be sad even though I want to give up and die I refuse to be sad even when I am feeling completely alone I refuse to be sad even when I feel rejected I refuse to be sad that I am not happy with my own body I refuse to be sad I look in the mirror and see an empty soul I refuse to be sad simply because I just don't want too The problem is though I am feeling sad. Devastated. Annoyed with feeling this way. I am also angry. I am hurt and feeling rejected. I feel alone in my feelings. I feel irritated with myself and frustrated I can’t let my feelings go through me. I feel everything even though I don’t want to. I. FEEL. I feel even though I was taught not too. Just the word feel makes me angry. I feel shame. I feel shame for feeling my feelings, for having to hide my past, for feeling ashamed for what happen to me even though it wasn’t my fault. I feel like I could have changed my life with three little, powerful, life changing words. DAD RAPED ME. I want to scream. I want everyone to know. I want everyone to know what kind of scum he really is. I want to point and laugh at him and his dirty ways. I want to see him hurt the same way I feel hurt. I want him to feel ashamed for what he has done to me. I want those other men to cry, no to wimper with sadness over what they made a little girl feel. That terrifyingly, overwhelmingly disturbed and violated feeling. I want them to feel it. EVERY. FEELING. I want them to feel it ten fold. I want to show how strong how am. How I never let them win. How I would be raped and brutalized then wake up the next morning still in tact. Still fighting for my life. They didn’t win. My feelings are because of them and yet they didn’t win. They tried to break me. They broke my body but not my soul. They touched every part of me but I kept myself hidden from them. They don’t know the fire I felt inside. The unmistakable feeling of hatred and angry. The knowledge that someday they will get what they deserve.
  4. sarah47

    The Beginning

    Thank you so much for your comment and I am so sorry to hear about your experience glad you're able to stop put a stop to it
  5. sarah47

    The Beginning

    To start I should explain what made me want to open up and write this blog. I am in college, business major and decided to take a class called Family Stress and Coping. As you can imagine it is very different from my business classes. My therapist agreed it could be beneficial and it felt right to take a class that might actually help in my private life. It started off okay, but now the teacher wants us to right a case study about our family. The professor went through the whole class allowing everyone to tell a stressor in their life, most were about their families, it was extremely triggering. The other students were excited to share their traumas, they opened up easily. Their problems seemed so normal and I wished they were mine. I went home crying my eyes out feeling that my experiences will always be worse than everyone else's and will always keep me isolated. So now I want to open up and explain my experience and get some feedback I guess, yeah this is pretty triggering but with my therapist encouragement I feel ready. I was four years old when it started. My father would come into my room every night and rape me. He took advantage of the fact that he could control every aspect of my life. At the time my mother had a full time job and my father did not have a job, so she was always gone giving him open access. He had opportunity and means to rape and torment me every chance he got. He totally and completely over powered me. This went on for about 5-6 years not quiet sure on the time line. In most of my memories though I am fighting back, running and screaming, I am always fighting, that makes me proud. Thats the first part of my trauma. The second is that my father was not only a rapist but also a drug addict, and as I said he did not have a job so he needed a way to pay for his drugs. So he used the only thing at his dispel, me. At night when my mom would go to sleep he would take me from my room and use me to feed his drug habit. I think its called commercial trafficking or something like that. I look it as group raping. There was many men that abused me and this is all before I reached the 4th grade. My mother had no idea what was happening though I think she was in denial. The bruising on my body and the way I acted as a child pointed to something going on. It all ended when my father exposed himself to my older cousin one night when we were having a sleep over and she told on him. I will always love her for that. She was strong enough to tell on that monster. My mother divorced him and we moved out of our house. This was the summer before I was in the 5th grade. My family questioned me and even sent me to a therapist but as scared as I was I did not say anything. I always hid it, I was afraid he would come back for me and kill me, like he always threatened. I've been for lack of a better word, broken ever since. I have been through it all eating disorder, depression, anxiety, drinking, and suicidal attempts. Anything to lessen the pain of my past. I still get flashback, nightmares, and have a lot of triggers. They get in the way of my everyday life. For example, riding in the passenger or the back of a car triggers me. The feeling that I have no idea where I am going scares me and reminds me of the car ride to whatever house my dad would take me to at night. Another is touch or someone being close to me. The most hurtful, I think, is not being able to go into a house I have never been in before. I can push through it and walk in but I feel extremely uncomfortable. It affects me, I can't focus on conversations, I worry I am in their private area that I shouldn't be there that I am not safe. I have successfully hidden my true myself from my friends and family for years, but this year has been different. After another suicidal attempt, I told my friends everything, though I am still trying to be more open about my feelings with them. I also told my mom, though she doesn't know much, just the bare minimum, I opened up more in this blog then what my mother knows. I am actually currently writing all my memories in a book and hopefully one day I want to show my friends and family. I think it will feel good them knowing everything. It will give them a chance to know me better because though my past is bad it is still part of me. Well, this is my story. I am starting to look at my past as being IN THE PAST. I don't want it to define me anymore. I want to be able to have someone touch or be close to me and not freak out. I want to be able to open up to my friends and tell them my feelings even if its something simple. I want to date and have successful relationships. I want to not have my depression, even with medication, to be so over powering I can't get out of bed. I want my past to feel normal, to feel like nothing. I don't want my father and all my other abusers to win.
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