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limbodante

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  1. Batman died :(

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    2. limbodante

      limbodante

      Safe hugs is always good. It's silly, mourning celebrities you don't know and never met, etc. But still. I love Batman, and it's because of adam West. I are le sad.

    3. LuthienTinuviel
    4. MermaidGirl91

      MermaidGirl91

      Lots of safe hugs.

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  2. I'm gonna take a break for a few days from After Silence, folks. I'm not sleeping too well and how much badness people have to go through is starting to get to me a bit, I wish I knew how to help but I can't think straight to form helpful responses. Doesn't normally bother me but lately I'm easily overwhelmed. *leaves a large pile of hugs and muffins to last you all in my absence* Take care everyone, love and light in the meantime. I think I'll aim for being back after the election when hopefully I'll be happy enough to share some positivity again.

    1. Painnbroken

      Painnbroken

      Take all the time you need hugs to you. Take care of yourself.  

    2. snmls

      snmls

      Glad you are taking some time out to take care of yourself.  I hope some self care will do you some good.  We'll be here when you're ready to come back.  *takes a hug and a muffin* :)

    3. oceonwaves

      oceonwaves

      Have a nice break , and some restful sleep . :up: crossed for election result. :)

  3. That moment when you realise giving someone the benefit of the doubt has backfired and you were right to be wary in the first place.

    1. Free2Fly

      Free2Fly

      Sorry that stuff backfired ,

       

      its normally the case stuff backfires when we trust our gut to make the right decision.

       

       

    2. limbodante

      limbodante

      Ain't that the truth. You'd think having been playing this game for over 30 years I'd have learned the rules by now lol

    3. Free2Fly

      Free2Fly

      lol Dante the rules change everyday so it's hard to keep track.

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  4. These sit ups seem to be working. My muscles are so big, I can't fasten my jeans. *eats crisps*

  5. Times like this I really miss chat. I don't wanna just sit on my own and stew over the world today. I'm not really up to saying too much either, but lurking among company would be nice right about now. Hugs to all, hope everyone's safe.

    1. Painnbroken

      Painnbroken

      Sitting with you if ok and hugs to you too if ok 

  6. There have been so many new members lately. Nice to meet you all. Really wish you didn't need to be here. I wonder what caused the influx?

  7. I'm so ill. Keeping anxiety in check but feeling like I'm dying. Fed up of being unwell. I don't foresee me being useful on the board for a while.

    1. limbodante

      limbodante

      Thanks fella, that's rather lovely of you ^_^ Feeling so fragile I can barely think straight so "hello" is likely all I can manage today.

    2. BraveOne

      BraveOne

      Dante I hope your feeling better I made a big pot of chicken noodle soup and some tea just for you sending it your way my friend ;)

    3. limbodante

      limbodante

      lol thanks. I'm afraid to eat anything :( Reminds me of when I became lactose intolerant after a massive dairy binge, I felt a lot like this, like I was gonna die, and I lost so much weight coz I was living on about two crackers a day coz I was scared to eat. I don't feel THAT bad, but the thought of eating anything makes me nervous. I only bought salad yesterday, I hope I'm better before it goes to waste. But thanks, chicken noodle soup sounds worth the gamble :)

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  8. Ahoy hoy, Em, welcome to the shindig. Sucks that you got an invite to this particular party but it's nice of you to show up Socially awkward? Hell, you'll fit right in, that's something you're guaranteed to have in common with just about all of us lol smalltalk is easy when nobody knows how to make it, you can comment on the curtains and we'll just be grateful someone's saying something :3
  9. The John Oliver Effect is a thing. Stuff he talks about on Last Week Tonight has tangible effects on the real world. I doubt I'll get any result from it but I just tweeted him asking him to talk about abuse survivors and awareness because he could really help out. Expecting nothing, but who knows?

    1. CurlyQueen

      CurlyQueen

      Thanks so much for doing that. I think it would be a great topic for him to talk about. I love John Oliver, he does great work. 

  10. Super minor thing, but it really bothers me how mum keeps telling me to grow my hair back. I shave my head partly because of male pattern baldness, and being bald is far more comfortable than having a bald spot, but a big part of it is because of buddhism, shaving the head represents releasing the ego. I wish she understood that it means something beyond mere aesthetics and comfort. I feel my beliefs are undermined when she insists I grow it back ><

    1. LuthienTinuviel

      LuthienTinuviel

      Do you feel comfortable telling her? 

    2. limbodante

      limbodante

      I have done more than once but she does go on :P She said fair enough this time so maybe it's finally stuck. Though she and my brother still don't understand why I don't want to kill spiders.

    3. LuthienTinuviel

      LuthienTinuviel

      I let a spider go last night. Hope I can be redeemed soon 

  11. Not sure where to put this and it feels self indulgent to start a thread. I just wanted to apologise for some of my posts lately, I've been self righteous and aggressive and said some unreasonable, stupid stuff. If any of that's beendirected at you, dear reader, I'm very sorry. I could offer possible reasons, but they just feel like excuses. I hope I've not upset anybody beyond who got in touch with me. I'm better than this.

    1. LuthienTinuviel

      LuthienTinuviel

      Like someone I know right be* 

    2. LuthienTinuviel
    3. Juniperberry1900

      Juniperberry1900

      Thank you Dante for posting this. Please be kind to yourself. 

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  12. I'm tired of my mind. It's time for Vulcan meditation.

  13. Annoyed. Timing sucks. I was referred to abuse-specific counselling a couple of months ago. This past couple of weeks I've had debilitating digestive issues that have made it impossible to plan stuff, my sleeping pattern is wrecked, I'm afraid to go anywhere... and they phoned me this morning to arrange when we can start ><

    1. Bluesclues

      Bluesclues

      Timing is almost always awful haha. At least for me. My DS has been out of wack these past couple of months as well but I'm fine. I'm sorry it's debilitating. Make an appointment then you'll have something to get up and you know have a plan for whatever day. If I don't make an appointment right then then I never make it. 

      Safe hugs. Sorry if I sounded pushy

    2. limbodante

      limbodante

      Thank you both. I finally phoned, and the admin had gone home, so I had to wait for someone to get in touch with the lady who called me so she could phone me back. I'm going in next Thursday for my "clinical assessment," which she assures me is "nothing to worry about," as if anything with "clinical" in the sentence is a pleasant experience :P

    3. MermaidGirl91

      MermaidGirl91

      Safe hugs Dante. Will be pocket riding if you want?

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  14. Who are you? Resilient to have survived this long. You don't survive abuse so long if you're not creative about how you cope. Creativity is what the world needs, problem solving. I can sense from your opening thread your warmth and friendliness. You're trusting and want to see the best in people, going by how soon you share your story. You have faith that you can get better, that suggests adaptability and an open mind. You're eloquent. You have a good vocabulary. You're focused to sit down and write this much. Something in your manner tells me you're a superb friend and wonderful person.
  15. Whenever you doubt you're strong, remember how long you've survived. I don't care how much you believe in your strength, your life itself is proof that you're strong.
  16. You must have left just before I registered. Hiya Kinda sorry to welcome you back, but pleased to meet you.
  17. Feeling awkward? Self conscious? Check this out. I've been out three times today, shopping twice and to meet my brother. I came home, went to the bathroom, and as I catch my reflection in the mirror, realise when I shaved my head and face this morning... I missed a sideburn :P

    1. Juniperberry1900

      Juniperberry1900

      Symmetry is over rated. Character is everything. You, my friend, have character! 

    2. limbodante

      limbodante

      Quite so ^.Q

    3. MermaidGirl91

      MermaidGirl91

      :rofl3: Oh Dante. Bet you still looked handsome with one sideburn though.

      Sometimes I am thankful I am a woman, worst I managed was to shave one leg and not the other, but no one noticed!

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  18. Within Temptation, golly effing gosh it's been ages since I last listened to them! To the youtubemobile! I've heightened my vocal range considerably by singing along to Steam Powered Giraffe and Poets of the Fall lol. SPG's Way Into Your Heart and Speed of Light, and Poets of the Fall's Cradled in Love and Daze. Great songs, much fun to belt out in the shower xD You say you're an open book but I still feel like it's prying, so you don't have to answer, but I'm interested in your experiences transitioning (do I read correctly that you're on HRT to become more masculine?) I have a frie
  19. So many questions about things you've said that interest me, but I don't wanna interrogate you, I daresay we'll get to know each other in time. I also like to sing, I'm told I'm good at it but I think they say that to get me to stop "practising" xD What do you enjoy singing? I've recently discovered Disney musicals and summarily butcher them without exception, singing in entirely the wrong tune and rhythm, but I prefer my way Welcome to the site, I hope you havea productive time here.
  20. High alert last night. Sometime in the night the toilet seat randomly closed by itself and woke me up. A few seconds later the lid fell as well. One noise is an accident, two has me reaching for the stick next to my bed and creeping down the hall :P Felt pretty foolish brandishing a club to my toilet. Laugh at me and cheer yourself up for a moment lol

    1. Ayla3

      Ayla3

      That made me smile :) which isn't easy to do these days, so thanks lol. I'm about to be alone for a few days and nights and am freaking out about it so this kind of helped somehow...and reminded me to get my bat out of my closet for the coming nights. 

    2. Annie7

      Annie7

      nah it's a ghost with a bowel issue lol 

    3. limbodante

      limbodante

      lol ghost with a bowel issue xD Perfectly possible! The window wasn't open, there would have been no breeze or anything, I dunno why it happened.

      I'm glad it got you a smile, Ayla, message anytime if you need company, and keep that bat within arm's reach :)

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  21. "Well, I still have my health

    At least that's what they tell me

    If wellness is this, what in hell's name is sickness? " - Amanda Palmer - runs in the Family

    1. Annie7
    2. oceonwaves

      oceonwaves

      :hug:  doctors look but thy don't alway's see.

  22. Sometimes, the good guys win. And on those days, I'm really, really happy :)

  23. Im dehydrated, sleep deprived and unwell, but today i gathered my stones and went to a buddhist center in the city, something I've been wanting to do for many years now :) lovely foods and they have a library so i took out some books about the organisation, calming the mind, and one on forgiveness. I'll report back on my findings :)

    1. limbodante

      limbodante

      It seems a big part of it was anxiety. I caught the train back rather than the bus because there was a toilet option, but I didn't need it, and the fewer stops between me and home, the more relaxed and less unwell I felt. Of course, I downed a bottle of mountain dew on the train which may have helped. I feel ok now, just a bit woozy from today's exertion. Walked 8000 steps. May recover a bit then go walk over the meadow like I would if I had the dog, that should tip me over the 10000 steps target.

    2. MermaidGirl91

      MermaidGirl91

      Hi Dante. Sending safe hugs. Take care of yourself

    3. Juniperberry1900

      Juniperberry1900

      hydrate Dante. hope you find some inspiring thoughts in the books!  safe hugs

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  24. When you speak, it is silent. When you're silent, it speaks.

    Note to self: shut up from time to time :P

  25. I wonder about me and video games. In real life I'm easy going, compassionate, empathic to the point of my own suffering. I give people the benefit of the doubt, I assume the best in people, I'm sad when people hurt. Then I play a video game like Total War and I become ruthless, destroy their every unit so there's nobody alive to counterattack. I'm wondering which version is the real me. Give a man a mask and he'll show you his true self. Is the way I treat virtual opponents, where there's no consequence, who I am underneath this sagelike facade? Or is that only the purging of my lower self so I can BE this lovely chap I try to be? Ponderingments.

    1. Free2Fly

      Free2Fly

      Man was designed to have two sides of the coin, one dark and evil & one good light as the sun.

    2. Ian37

      Ian37

      I don't think that your aggressive actions during a video game suggest that you're not a sympathetic soul away from them. Maybe, this is a way that you can get some of your frustration out in a creative manner. It is not as if you are really hurting anyone. We all probably have bad and good within us. That does not mean we will act on the bad. We're all just trying to process what has happened to us the best way possible. I believe that your true self is the one you show away from a screen.

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