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sonnet

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  1. yea, i don't really see the point of it either...and also, it seems kinda patronizing....like, I am 30 years old, I don't want a reward chart for good behavior. I have seen it on other forums, i just don't "get it"
  2. thanx vera ahhh its nice being back to the same old same old again lol
  3. yep, its different....erm....anyone know any way to uncentre it?
  4. welcome to AS im sorry ur strugglin so much with all of this...but glad u decided to come back to support boards. just take ur time here...anything ya dont understand feel free to post and ask, im sure eveyone will be really happy to help ya learn to navigate the site... its daunting for lots of people in the begining
  5. heyyyy..welcome to AS ps, i loved your tittle too lol
  6. i agree, it would be helpful to have an area of the boards dedicated to this. sadly, it a crime that has affected many of our members here, and i think it would really help to have a dedicated place for people who may otherwise be too frightened to speak out, to begin the long process of trying to come to terms with this kind of cruelty. im not sure what an apporprite name for it would be. I dont like the terms child porn either, it makes me feel sick to hear the media refer to it in this way. i dont know..sorry, cant think of a simple term for it that really reflects what it is.
  7. is this just really for survivors of childhood sexual abuse which has been perprtrated or covered up by the catholic church i take it? sorry, jsut tryin to understand exacly what this is meant to be about and what catagory of people it fits for
  8. sounds good in theory...however, in practice, im not sure how it would really work. what i mean by that are...well.."simply life" style topics...those could be things like "i got a new kitten today"..or "my son said his first words" or....im going on a road trip to visit my cousin out of state"..sounds all very innocent..and of course, they Are all innocent topics, and im sure would make for some lovely, light hearted convos....however.... not if small helpless animals trigger somthing awful for you.... or not if you lost a baby thro some tragic circumstance... certainly...talking about being stuck in a car, driving up to see your counsin could trigger things for people who have been victims of incest from these relatives... what i mean to say is not that there is no such thing as a light hearted topic....and its certianly not that i belive that survivors should only talk about horror and abuse.... i just mean, that, to dedicate a room for 'gentle' topics could be very difficult...how do we decide what is a gentle topic after all. I do understand that people who are in a simply life chat, could, if triggered by the convo, choose to leave and come back later on...however, is that really what is going to happen? id think not always, and could see both chat rooms slowly becoming carbon copies of eachother. just my tuppence on this xxx
  9. does there eally need to be a whole institute to support this...surly its up to the individual patients to speak up if they are not comfortable with a medical procedure, or feel they havent had a procedure fully explained. Ive not really got too much of an issue with doctors 'seeing' my body while in hopsital...i mean, if your ill and needing care and intervention, then, way i see it, its really no time to be clinging onto modesty..doctors and nurses are not really 'looking' at your body anyways...they are acting as professionals, whos job it is to care for people in times of sickness. just my thots anyways xxx
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    hiya saffy im talkin to ya in chat as i rite this! heheh hope the ice skating its lotsa fun brill to meetcha xx
  11. im so sorry, not only for the pain you suffered at the hands of your abuser, but also for the hurt and betray you have everyt rigtht to feel now, towards those who turned thir backs on you and ignored all that was happening. pleae know you will b listened to here, always xx
  12. hiya Kes, your in the right place hon : )just wanted to say hi, and check in with ya today..hope your doing ok? thinking of ya xx jax
  13. i agree with all sed in this thread. there is No place for intolerance in our society, whther that be racism, homophobia, Xenophobia, or sexism. its is unjust, outdated and is not now, nor has it ever been needed as part of a healthy community or indeed society. Sexism is illegal everywhere else ( im not denying it still happens, as do all other illegal activitives, however, it is Agaist the Law) society recognises this as a crime agaisnt our human rights. therfore, i feel strongly that it should be activly stamped out wherever it arises.
  14. is this an american thing? im in scotland...dont think we have these comercials here at all...on any issue. never ever have.
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    didnt realise ya had gone in the first place! lol, i really should pay more attention!! *note to self, take heed in future!* anyways...welcome back hon, im glad your here and..have a smurf, cos im giving em to everyone today lol
  16. hi there *waves* it is really overwhelming speaking out for the first time huh? i rember being where you are now...wanting to reach out for support, but at the same time being so afraid and unsure of myself. your not alone in these feelings hon. i can tell you that, from my own experinces....reaching out for support, talking about all of this, learning how to process it all...over time, it definbalyhas got so much easier. its a slow process, so dont rush yourself...trust and confidence will come..just go easy..little bit at a time. there certinly is never any pressure here..Never. This is your journey..you go at it at your own pace. You will meet understanding and support here. This is a safe place to express yourself, but..in your own time hon. You already too kthe biggest step...you joined..you said hi.. seems small? its not...its huge. by joining up your saying 'i want to get thru this' that takes courage so..as you were already advised above..just take your time, start with the ligher topics if thats eaiser for you, go at this how ever feels best for you. Oh..and...Welcome to after silence...looking forward to gettin to know ya more ooh...anddd.....here, have a wee pengy, just cos hes adorable.-->
  17. heyaaa, welcome to here, i hope ya start to feel settled her soon. just remeber,m take ur time, there aint ever no pressure here, jsut go as easy as ya like, and know u will be heard and supported here when u can begin to talk. ohh...and ur driving test, good luck for next time!!! xxxxx
  18. heya hon, welcome to here...have sum flowers!
  19. hi. welcome to here..i hope ya find this place to be warm and supportive for you..um, im not sure what ya meant by your post title, lol, maybe im just silly! but, regardless...welcoem to here and lookinf forward to gettin to know ya
  20. i was a memebr of the board wolfie refers too also...it was crazy!!! rach..the board you were at sounds very similar to th one wolfie and I both found ourselves on. It was soooooooooooooo frustrating!! they has a ban on red type also....and it got to the point i was soooo pissed off with it that i would end up tying in as dark pink as i possibly could, just to be a brat about it..attesting to the suposedly offended ppl that 'my font is PINK!!! pink is a fluffy clolor!!!' I never quite understood the whole 'red font being a trigger for SRA thing'...i was rutally abused...red font never came into it!! yea..ok....i saw words in blood....words in blood are nothing like red font..words in blood are not BRIGHT RED!!!! We were not allowed to mention the words like rape or abuse etc..yet the chat room we used...the words rape were in HUGE letters at the top of the room..you coundlt miss it! We had to put spoliers on practially everything..which i think, really just drew more atention to the word..cos, ya would notice all these stars breaking up a word, and your mind would autonaticly go to that word and figure it out...plus...just cos a word has a * on it..does this actually DO anything....i mean..... ok...here...kitten...ki*ten..... im bettin ppl read these words the same in their heads..so..i dont get what the *'s actually do...that being said...i have usedthem before myself..jsut cos i find certain words too un-bearable to type out...however, when they are used on almost every little word..it jsut gets silly. anyways...im glad i left that board ( the one wolfie refers to)...it just got silly....seemed less like a healing survivor community and more like a pandering to dramatics centre! Im glad im now at AS...this place is a breathe of fresh air...its good to be part of a community of people who really are all working together in an empowering and supportive manner...and also, great to be part of a comunity were you can have adult discussions...and where you can disagree with others and know that just cos you dont necesarily agree with thing,s you are still respected and your opnioned listened to. oh...and Defo good to be in a comminuty that doesnt make dramatics outta the Horrors of Red Font!'
  21. i usedto do that..but then after thinking about it..it jst seemed kinda sily...kinda...well..to be honest, my think was .... 'ok..share your story..well, it aint gonna be a story bout sunshine, buttefflies and fairys..not on this board! so....why put in a warning..surly ppl r not gonna be shocked to learn that my story is somewhat harrowing...so...seems like i sed..a moot point to warn.
  22. does this mean we need trigger warnings in places like share your story..or the forum for different types of sexual assult..i never put them in those posts anymore..cos well..it seemd to me to be kinda obvoius that post in those areas were gonna contain difficult subject matter..so..potentially anyhing in there could be trigering anyways...my thinking was then..if your reading those boards..ya must assume its gonna have some hard to read stuff before ya even open the post..so a TW would be a moot point or am i wrong?
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