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Minerba

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  1. Hello Bekah26, how are you? I hope you are okay. I'm sorry about what brought you here. On the other hand, I am glad you found this place for support. It is normal to experience memories and flashbacks. I wonder how you cope with them? I just started experiencing many memories myself. I had a big trigger recently. I have been practising what my counsellor taught me, grounding myself: what I can see, what I can hear, what I can smell, what I can taste, what I can touch. I talk to myself and try to bring myself back to the here and now. Welcome. take care.
  2. Hello redadmirals, how are you? I hope you are okay. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. You are not alone. I think it is great that you want to connect and break isolation. Take care.
  3. Hello lilyhailey, how are you today? I hope you are okay. I'm sorry you experienced abuse. It was certainly not your fault. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. I'm sorry many people have not been supportive of you. This is a place where you can express yourself and be safe. You are not alone. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. I like meditating, yoga, walking, writing in my journal. I take magnesium for my anxiety. What do you think could be helpful for you? May you be well.
  4. Hello Beccawife32, how are you today? I hope you are fine. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. I hope you will find this group helpful. You are not alone. Take care.
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    Hello redmess, how are you? I hope you are okay. I'm sorry you experienced SA. It was not your fault. Good on you for supporting your family members through the Court process. I hope you will find justice. Have you read the book "Surviving the Legal System" by Carolyne Taylor? She is from Australia but the book is really good. I think you are right, healing is possible but we need to go slow at our own pace and have breaks. Take care.
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    Hello Connor, how are you today? I hope you are okay. I'm sorry you experienced abuse at the hands of your cousins. It was not your fault. I'm sorry your parents were not supportive. It is normal to feel angry. I hope you are safe and these cousins are out of the picture. This is the space where you can talk. Go at your own pace. Have you read the book "Victims no Longer" by Mike Lew. It is a good book written for male survivors. Take care.
  7. Hello Oak, how are you? I hope you are okay. I'm sorry you experienced sexual abuse. It was not your fault. It is normal to feel scared when we talk about the abuse for the first time. This is a safe space. You are being very brave. You are breaking the silence. You have the right to speak up. Go at your own pace. Take care.
  8. Hello Freyja Lee, how are you? I hope you are okay. I'm sorry you experience SA. It was not your fault. I'm glad you are connected to a group. I hope you will find this group helpful. Go at your own pace. I like jornaling. I find it helpful. Healing is possible. Take care.
  9. Hello arzngrl529, how are you? I'm sorry you are not feeling very well at present. I hope you are going to be okay. Welcome back. Take care.
  10. Hello Yanahere, how are you? I hope you are okay. Welcome to AS. You are not alone Take care.
  11. Hello Mimity, how are you? I'm sorry about what brought you to this group. It was not your fault. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. Abuse has a huge impact. I wonder if you have a counsellor to help you with the emotional pian and the images. I hope this group will be helpful for you. I do have a happy place in my mind and a real one in the forest. I have learnt to close my eyes and go to a beautiful happy place where I feel safe. It takes time to get the place you like. You can also draw it. Take care.
  12. Hello Deadbolts, how are you? I hope you are okay. Welcome to the group. I'm sorry you experienced abuse as a child. It was not your fault. You were very brave to tell your girlfriend. I hope this group will be helpful for you. Go at your own pace. Take care. Healing is possible.
  13. Hello soulless, how are you? I hope you are okay. I'm sorry you experienced abuse when you were younger. It was not your fault. I'm sorry you are still triggered. It happens to all of us. It sounds like you have found the way to deal with them: taking a deep breath; talking to yourself and saying it will pass. You also have so much to live for. We all walk our own journey. We all need to go at our own pace. We need to support each other. Thank you for sharing with us. Take care.
  14. Hello emergingawareness, how are you? I am sorry you experienced abuse when you were a child. It was not your fault. I am glad you are getting help with EMDR. I hope this group will be helpful for you. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. It is wise to do what you can to take care of yourself. All the best.
  15. Hello Sabrina757, how are you doing today? I'm sorry you have experienced abuse. It was not your fault. I think it is normal to have periods of thinking a lot about what happened to us. You were very brave to report the rape. It sounds like you did not get a good response. Just because you are drinking it does not men you deserve to be raped. There are so many misconceptions about women and rape. I don't think the legal system is very supportive of survivors. Does your husband knows what this man did to you? Is the ofender someone you have to see? I am concerned about your saf
  16. Hello Nbed80, how are you today? I hope you are okay. Welcome to this group. I hope it will be helpful for you. You can give it a go and see how you feel. Go at your own pace. I think it is normal to fear judge. Most of us feel that fear. You are not alone. Take care.
  17. Hello Leda, how are you? I hope you are okay. Welcome to the group. I'm sorry you experienced sexual violence. It was certainly not your fault. Reporting to the police was such a brave thing to do. It sounds like the case is going to Court. You have the right to speak up and seek justice. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling. You are not alone. It is a scary experience to go through a court procedure. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Use your skills such as writing to help yourself. I wonder how your cat helps you. I used to have a cat and it was so helpf
  18. Hello Poison, how are you? Welcome back. Take care.
  19. Hello curandoagora, how are you? I hope you are okay. Welcome to this group. You are not alone. Take care.
  20. Hello Sunshinecomfort, how are you? I hope you are fine. Welcome to this group. Take care.
  21. Hello Two of Us, welcome to this group. I'm sorry you and your daughter experienced abuse. It was not your fault. I think most of us go a through a period of denial. It is a way of protecting ourselves from overwhelming emotions I suppose. It sounds like you are ready to explore some of your issues. It also sounds like you are a good mother trying to support your daughter. I find that a good way to start supporting someone we love is asking, "how can I support you? What can I do?" I wish you both the best. Take care. Healing is possible.
  22. Hello feralcat, how are you today? Welcome to After Silence. I am so sorry you experienced abuse. It was not your fault. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling. I hope you will find in this group the support you deserve. I wonder if you have a support network? Family members? friends? Take care.
  23. Hello Heidij1, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. It sounds like you have supportive people with you! Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. Keep safe.
  24. Hello Brunetta, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who know about it and are supportive of you? pets? It is normal to feel the way you feel at present. Many survivors experience denial. It is a way of protecting ourselves. I wonder how you cope with triggers...what helps? I have made a list of my triggers and have written down ways of coping with specific trigg
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