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  1. Hello soulless, how are you? I hope you are okay. I'm sorry you experienced abuse when you were younger. It was not your fault. I'm sorry you are still triggered. It happens to all of us. It sounds like you have found the way to deal with them: taking a deep breath; talking to yourself and saying it will pass. You also have so much to live for. We all walk our own journey. We all need to go at our own pace. We need to support each other. Thank you for sharing with us. Take care.
  2. News

    Hello emergingawareness, how are you? I am sorry you experienced abuse when you were a child. It was not your fault. I am glad you are getting help with EMDR. I hope this group will be helpful for you. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. It is wise to do what you can to take care of yourself. All the best.
  3. Hey guys

    Hello Sabrina757, how are you doing today? I'm sorry you have experienced abuse. It was not your fault. I think it is normal to have periods of thinking a lot about what happened to us. You were very brave to report the rape. It sounds like you did not get a good response. Just because you are drinking it does not men you deserve to be raped. There are so many misconceptions about women and rape. I don't think the legal system is very supportive of survivors. Does your husband knows what this man did to you? Is the ofender someone you have to see? I am concerned about your safety. Take care.
  4. Sitting on the fence

    Hello Nbed80, how are you today? I hope you are okay. Welcome to this group. I hope it will be helpful for you. You can give it a go and see how you feel. Go at your own pace. I think it is normal to fear judge. Most of us feel that fear. You are not alone. Take care.
  5. Hi, I'm new here

    Hello Leda, how are you? I hope you are okay. Welcome to the group. I'm sorry you experienced sexual violence. It was certainly not your fault. Reporting to the police was such a brave thing to do. It sounds like the case is going to Court. You have the right to speak up and seek justice. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling. You are not alone. It is a scary experience to go through a court procedure. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Use your skills such as writing to help yourself. I wonder how your cat helps you. I used to have a cat and it was so helpful. He gave me company and knew when I was upset. Touching him was very grounding. Take care. I hope everything will turn up fine and you will find justice.
  6. It's been a while but now I'm back

    Hello Poison, how are you? Welcome back. Take care.
  7. Newbie

    Hello curandoagora, how are you? I hope you are okay. Welcome to this group. You are not alone. Take care.
  8. New friends

    Hello Sunshinecomfort, how are you? I hope you are fine. Welcome to this group. Take care.
  9. Here for myself and my daughter

    Hello Two of Us, welcome to this group. I'm sorry you and your daughter experienced abuse. It was not your fault. I think most of us go a through a period of denial. It is a way of protecting ourselves from overwhelming emotions I suppose. It sounds like you are ready to explore some of your issues. It also sounds like you are a good mother trying to support your daughter. I find that a good way to start supporting someone we love is asking, "how can I support you? What can I do?" I wish you both the best. Take care. Healing is possible.
  10. Hello

    Hello feralcat, how are you today? Welcome to After Silence. I am so sorry you experienced abuse. It was not your fault. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling. I hope you will find in this group the support you deserve. I wonder if you have a support network? Family members? friends? Take care.
  11. Big hello from Heidi

    Hello Heidij1, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. It sounds like you have supportive people with you! Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. Keep safe.
  12. Newbie!

    Hello Brunetta, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who know about it and are supportive of you? pets? It is normal to feel the way you feel at present. Many survivors experience denial. It is a way of protecting ourselves. I wonder how you cope with triggers...what helps? I have made a list of my triggers and have written down ways of coping with specific triggers. It helps most of the time. Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. Remember that you deserve to live a good life. May you be well. Here is a safe place I have in my mind...
  13. Removing Isolation

    Hello Rose2010, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who know about it and are supportive of you? a counsellor? pets? Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. You are being very brave to be here. Take care.
  14. Hi, I'm new here

    Hello MessInADress, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who know about it and are supportive of you? a counsellor? pets? Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. You are being very brave to be here and break the silence. May you be well and safe.
  15. newbie

    Hello Randi84, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry you experienced abuse. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is a lot of information you can read. I'm sorry you are not getting much support from family members. It sounds like you can connect with them at other levels. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. Some people find helpful to talk about it, others prefer not to tell what happened to them but want to talk about the effects. It is up to you what you want to do. I think there are different ways of telling our stories: talking to supportive people, writing about it, painting, drawing...It depends on what we find more helpful. Remember that you choose what you want to share with us and when. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Stay connected. May you be well.
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