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  1. Big hello from Heidi

    Hello Heidij1, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. It sounds like you have supportive people with you! Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. Keep safe.
  2. Newbie!

    Hello Brunetta, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who know about it and are supportive of you? pets? It is normal to feel the way you feel at present. Many survivors experience denial. It is a way of protecting ourselves. I wonder how you cope with triggers...what helps? I have made a list of my triggers and have written down ways of coping with specific triggers. It helps most of the time. Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. Remember that you deserve to live a good life. May you be well. Here is a safe place I have in my mind...
  3. Removing Isolation

    Hello Rose2010, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who know about it and are supportive of you? a counsellor? pets? Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. You are being very brave to be here. Take care.
  4. Hi, I'm new here

    Hello MessInADress, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who know about it and are supportive of you? a counsellor? pets? Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. You are being very brave to be here and break the silence. May you be well and safe.
  5. newbie

    Hello Randi84, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry you experienced abuse. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is a lot of information you can read. I'm sorry you are not getting much support from family members. It sounds like you can connect with them at other levels. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. Some people find helpful to talk about it, others prefer not to tell what happened to them but want to talk about the effects. It is up to you what you want to do. I think there are different ways of telling our stories: talking to supportive people, writing about it, painting, drawing...It depends on what we find more helpful. Remember that you choose what you want to share with us and when. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Stay connected. May you be well.
  6. Hi

    Hello Cryolite, how are you today? I'm sorry about what happened to you. It was not your fault. It was not fair. Are you safe? Is the perpetrator someone you know? It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. Take your time to decide what you want to do. Reporting to the police is not easy and it is your right. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who know about it and are supportive? Stay connected to the grou.
  7. First time here

    Hello resilientgirl, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry you experienced abuse. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is a lot of information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who are supportive of you? a counsellor? pets? It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. I wonder what helps when you feel lost?
  8. Hello

    Hello Reiina, how are you today? I'm sorry you are having a difficult time. What helps? Emotions can be very unpleasant and intense sometimes. They pass. In the mean time, how can you take care of yourself? There is an approach I found very helpful: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. It teaches me how to sit with emotions knowing that they don't stay for ever. There is a lot of information on the net. Have a look and see what you think. Lately I have been colouring and it helps. Do you colour?
  9. Hello

    Hello lanalang2001, welcome. You are not alone. I'm so sorry you experienced abuse. It was not your fault. It was not fair. As I said before, this group on-line is a good source of support. There is a lot of useful information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who know and are supportive of you? a counsellor? pets? Remember that it is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. I wonder what helps? You are very brave to be here. You are breaking the silence! You say it is helpful to write about it. Do you have a journal? You can also express yourself painting and drawing. Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. Look after yourself. May you be well.
  10. Saying hello

    Hello thistooshallpass4, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry you experienced abuse. It was not your fault. It was not fair. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. I hear that your family doesn't know. I wonder if you have friends who know and are supportive of you? It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. It is hard to accept, however, you were able to write it here. You are very brave. Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. What do you do to look after yourself? May you be well.
  11. saying hello

    Hello NativeinWisconsin, how are you today? I'm sorry you experienced abuse. It was not your fault. It was not fair. I am glad you are accessing support (counselling, group, lawyer, police). I hope the Criminal Justice System really will deliver justice. It must be very hard to go to trial. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. I will be thinking of you. All the best.
  12. Intro

    Hello Rosies10, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who are supportive of you? a counsellor? pets? Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. Take care of yourself. Thank you for being here and sharing. You are very brave. May you be well.
  13. New Here

    Hello Hadrians, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry you experienced abuse. It was not your fault. It was not fair. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. Have you read the book "Victims no Longer" by Mike Lew? It is a good book for male survivors. You can find it on-line or in public libraries. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who know about it and are supportive of you? A counsellor? Pets? It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. Many survivor experience nightmares, flashbacks, unwanted memories. I wonder what strategies you have to cope with them? When I have nightmares, I write them down but I change the end and then I rip the paper off. I suppose you know the "flashback protocol": look around and find 5 things you can see, 5 things you can hear, 5 things you can smell, 5 things you can touch, something you can taste. This brings you to the here and now. Acknowledge you are having a flashback and say "I am ----years- old now, I live in (city). I have been doing a lot of colouring for adults lately. It helps with anxiety and being more present. Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Take care. May you be well.
  14. Getting Started

    Hello Laced, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry about what brought you here. It was not your fault. It was not fair. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. How is your support system? Do you have family members and/or friends who are supportive of you? Pets? I'm glad you are seeing a counsellor. It is normal to feel the way you are feeling at present. Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. May you be well.
  15. Hi, I'm New.

    Hello Gabie, welcome. You are not alone. I'm sorry you experienced abuse. It was not your fault. It was not fair. This group on-line is a good source of support. There is also a lot of information you can read. How is your support network? Do you have family members and/or friends who are supportive of you? A counsellor? Pets? Healing is a journey and takes time. Healing is possible. Go at your own pace. It is okay to take care of yourself. May you be well.
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