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8888

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  1. Welcome @Charlie.1 to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  2. Welcome @Cristina R to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  3. Welcome @MyraG to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

    P.S.- Your dogs are adorable and I am also a member of the lgbtq+ community.  

  4. Welcome @A Long Time Ago to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  It's understandable to be nervous to post online but since we have anonymous usernames we are protected.  That stinks the site only has male and female options.  There are others here who are non-binary as well, so you are not alone in that.  @snmls offers a good suggestion about listing your preferred pronouns.  Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  5. Welcome @EvilRegal to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  6. Welcome to After Silence.  I’m so sorry to hear this happened to you.  Some rape crisis centers have programs specifically for people who have been recently assaulted.  We have a list of resources or if you are in the US you can contact RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) for a referral.  I will link those two resources down below:

    http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.php?/forum/102-public-resources/

    https://www.rainn.org/

    Also, please remember to be kind to yourself during this difficult time.  As far as whether or not you contact your rapist, I recommend you do what will keep you the safest.  If contacting him will put you in danger, it is simply not worth it.  You deserve safety.  Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  7. Welcome @Lucy1603 to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  For me I am currently doing video counseling sessions with a counseling center near me that normally offers in-person counseling, as they are offering it now due to the pandemic.  I know a lot of places are currently offering telephone sessions as well.  If you are in the US you can search for therapists here:

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

    Some counseling centers seem to be offering it for the long term as well, I'm not sure if you are not wanting to go to an office because of the pandemic or for other reasons.  

    Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  8. Welcome @Pepper515 to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here and that your parents didn't believe you.  I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  9. Welcome @tmac to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  I'm sorry to hear you are having issues with your mother as well.  Regarding the therapist, I want you to know that if you find a decent therapist there is a lot more they should be able to do.  I went to trauma therapy for a while and it was much more than just imaging giving my abuser a piece of my mind, it was also about reprocessing memories so they don't hurt me as much, finding healthier ways to cope with the affects of abuse, and many other things.  Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  10. Welcome @Unsurewhat2do to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Unfortunately I don't have any advice to offer on this manner as my abuser died when I was six years old so my situation is a little different.  However, I want you to know I support you in whatever you decide.  Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  11. Welcome @IAMKIRA to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  I recommend you call a domestic violence hotline.  I'm not sure where you live but I will leave a link below that has listings in multiple countries.  

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_domestic_violence_hotlines

    Also, I think there may be a shelter that is willing to take your son as well.  Some shelters allow children plus he is 16 anyway so he is not a young child so that may make it easier.  Yes, it is still rape even if it is your husband.  Marriage doesn't equal consent plus drunk people can't legally consent.  He took advantage of you.  

    Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  12. Welcome @CAB1997 to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  13. Welcome @LakeSunset to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  14. Welcome @Calliope to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  15. Welcome @iluvac to  After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  16. Welcome @tiffanylynn55 to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  17. Welcome @Sj85 to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  18. Welcome @Kaley to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  I too have felt more isolated during quarantine as have many others.  Therapy has really helped me.  Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  19. Welcome @Mitchi to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  It's understandable to be nervous posting here.  Counseling has really helped me.  For some people it is difficult to make eye contact in counseling so yes, it's normal.  Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  20. Welcome @Movingforward20 to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  I know what you mean about triggers suddenly pulling you back and I hate it.  I'm glad you found a book that was helpful for you.  Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  21. Welcome @Ultraviola to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.

    As far as disclosing on social media, that is up to you but I wouldn't recommend it.  On social media anyone can see it, including potential employers.  

    Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  22. Welcome @pnut to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  I'm sorry to hear you feel confused from therapy.  Sometimes certain therapists aren't a good fit for certain people so if you continue to feel uneasy perhaps you want to look for a new therapist.  Take your time exploring here and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

  23. Welcome @TheLionQueen to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

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