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  1. Older member, but I'm back :)

    Welcome back! Nice to meet you:).
  2. Every once in a while that moron gets it right.

  3. New here, hoping that this can help me feel less isolated

    Welcome and I'm sorry for your suffering. I hope it helps you to be here.
  4. End run:

    A running play in American football in which the player carrying the ball attempts to avoid being tackled by evading the defending players from the opposing team. An attempt to avoid a difficult situation by transcending it without confronting it directly.


    I did it!!!!

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    2. stagnes


      Tall man singing in low voice to the tune of Go Compare:

      IIII Diiiiiidddd IIIItt

      :party: :breakdance::yahoo::dance:

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  5. I'm happy to be here for you and am sorry for your struggle. It's ok to have needs - we all do. Pls take gentle care during this difficult time.

  6. 60 yr old surviver csa

    Welcome and I'm very sorry for your loss. It's very good that you reached ou for support. You are not alone.
  7. Sorry, edit, it's not safe for me to write in the public forum. I am being monitored.
  8. Sorry, edit, it's not safe for me to write in the public forum. I am being monitored.
  9. A combination of irritating paperwork and bad satnav directions have conspired to put a nasty bunch of people directly in my path, spoiling an otherwise good day. I hope that things get better.

    1. MeBeMary


      Sorry things haven't gone well today. :(  Wishing for a quick turn around and better thing are ahead for today.  :hug: if ok and helps. 

    2. stagnes


      Thank you!

  10. Trying to be thrown off the trail by members of the tribe. lol. It's never happening. 

  11. Nope, I have thought about it multiple times every day for the last ten years. It's brain damage and it's permanent.
  12. Everything happens for a reason

    When others don't protect when they should we have to protect ourselves. Just by surviving that kind of trauma you have proven yourself many times over, you can rest and take comfort. You weren't given comfort or safety as a child but you can find a little bit of both now, all on your own terms. I admire you for surviving and wish you well. Please be very kind to yourself. You have nothing to prove.
  13. Everything happens for a reason

    if ok. I can relate to what you wrote; all of it and actually everything does happen for a reason unfortunately - even if that reason is so outrageously unacceptable that it can be considered a crime, which is the part that no one ever mentions or tends to act on nearly enough IMO. Being abused is not your shame, it is not your embarrassment; if people show you pity instead of empathy or can't be told the truth, those are their failings, not yours. We don't need to cease to exist because someone chose to abuse us, but it can be helpful to go away and heal until we can make our way back into the world with enough self protective armour. Sometimes that means a permanent change in where we live and who we allow into our lives and that's ok. I hope that you are able to get some help and support. You haven't done anything wrong.
  14. I live in a place where they shame and silence victims and protect perpetrators.  No woman is safe if her perpetrator is powerful! She will be put on trial for his crimes.

    1. Annie7


      sadly, yes. you are put on trial for his crimes. silenced. stigmatized, even. maybe you don't make enough cash to live in a non-triggering environment. you are always a woman first, and women are not yet allowed to be fully human , free from violence and degradation. together though, with other survivors, both men and women, we can do a lot to overcome this culture of abuse. 

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