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Everything posted by somerandomguy1985

  1. Welcome ari, I think you will find what you are looking for here. A lot of people here understand and it's a very supporting community. Somebody will always be ready to offer you their support and understanding no matter what you're feeling or going through. -Guy
  2. Hi Felicity. AS is a really helpful place. It's a laid back atmosphere, and everybody is here because they want to heal and they want to help each other. This is a place where no matter how different what was done to you makes you feel, there is always another person here who can really truly understand and offer you their support. I hope you find this place to be as helpful as I have. Please feel free to read and share as little or as much as you're ready to. Welcome to our community.
  3. You're not alone. I know it's hell. But if you take care of yourself and take the steps you need to heal then you can reach a point where what you went through doesn't control you anymore. It never goes away completely but it becomes less and less relevant to your daily life to the point where it doesn't feel like that heavy a burden. There are a lot of male members on this forum and most of them have pretty horrible stories. As dismally as our culture fails female victims it doesn't even make an attempt to support male victims, and I know that makes it even more difficult to get past the
  4. Hi Grace7, Welcome to AS. This is a great community of people who understand and try to help each other. I think you will find it to be a safe place and a place of support. I'm sorry for the reasons that have brought you here, but I'm glad you found us. Take Care, Guy
  5. Hello and welcome. I think you'll find this is a really supportive community. In the outside world nobody will ever fully understand the feelings that a person must live through after abuse, but everyone here "gets it". It can be really powerful and profound to talk about the things you're going through and to read from someone else that they completely understand and to know that they really truly do. This has been a really wonderful community to me and I hope you'll find this place to be as helpful as I have. Take care, --Guy
  6. Went home early before the snow got really bad and then took a nap and improvised a nice spicy goulash over pasta.
  7. You're wrong about me ************* You don't know real strength I'm stronger than you are. You could not break me
  8. Spiced some apple cider and heated it on the stove. Hot spiced cider omnomnom
  9. almostgone, I'm sorry that life has gotten so tough recently. Please keep posting here. People on this site get what you're going through. At one time all of us were questioning how we were going to get through it. I will echo some of the other responses in telling you that a therapist can be crucially important for you during this time. It's not about getting a diagnosis or getting medicated, although one or both of those things may ultimately happen; it's about having a place where you can just vent all the issues that are causing you pain and distress and hearing a response that valida
  10. Got a physical exam which means I don't have to get the crappy default insurance plan from my employer with an absurdly high deductible. And they didn't even handle my bits and pieces and tell me to cough so that makes this the least invasive physical I have ever had in my life. I can't believe I'm saying this but I'm actually glad I switched my primary care over to this place despite the suckiness of their receptionists. Plus I got half the day off from work and my employer pays me anyway, so I am happy and apparently relatively healthy which is good to know.
  11. shamelessly raided all the strawberries out of the cafeteria fruit salad
  12. kicked my friends out of the house so I can have some quiet time to myself for one night
  13. And thank you for being a part of our community.
  14. I went through a phase where I had blocked out so much that I wouldn't allow myself to remember. Aside from that, I do think about it probably most days but it doesn't consume me like it used to.
  15. Welcome to the AS family. I hope you find this place to be welcoming and helpful to you. There are a lot of great people on this site. It's okay if you need a little time to get comfortable with this place before you begin to share a lot of details of your own story, but I will tell you from experience that if and when you are ready to share, you will not be judged or blamed. Once you've made your first 10 posts a lot of things in the site will become accessible, so don't be alarmed if you can't get into chat for instance. Take care, Guy
  16. Hi sswalker88, Welcome to AS. There are lots of really great, supportive people on this site. I hope you find your way around okay and find this place to be as helpful as I have. As for getting started with this site, I'd encourage you to read others' stories and when you find something that resonates with you, feel free to share your support or kind words for that person. I think that's pretty much what everybody does, and it makes for a very nice little online community. It can take a bit of time to drum up the courage to share parts of your own story, so take your time with that and go
  17. Hi Lilly, Welcome to AS. You're one of many folks from this part of the world on the site - that's one of the most interesting things about this place. We've got aussies, kiwis, english, scots, japanese, germans, irish, americans, canadians, french, plus about half a dozen more nationalities I've run into but since forgotten. Despite their different backgrounds you'll hear very similar stories. I get a real community vibe from this site, even if it does have some issues (like chat going down from time to time) I like this place a lot and I hope you do too. Take Care, Guy
  18. Hi Griet, Welcome to AS. I find this to be a very safe, helpful and supportive place and I think you will too. Feel free to share whatever, whenever with no judgement or fear. Everyone here just wants to help each other heal, and it's a beautiful thing (or at least I think so). Take Care, Guy
  19. Welcome Marie, This is a very helpful and welcoming place, and it's open to you to share whatever you would like or to draw strength from what others have written. Also keep an eye on the chat room - it's currently out of commission but when it comes back online it's a great resource. Take Care, Guy
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