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  1. Hell Memememe,

    I thank you for your thoughts and they make a lot of sense, I was not 100% that the younger kids didn't need to know right now BUT definitely the oldest because things as you know have been very stressful at times with arguments and a lot of unhappy faces at times....we are trying real hard to keep a good attitude but it does catch up to you eventually and it all has to come out.

    My wife has mentioned it to her counselor and has given us some ideas but really wanted some input from members that have gone through it...and I thank you.

    Another concern is now my wife wants to let her mother know what happened because it is eating her alive not telling her and trying to act like everything is okay, I am really afraid of this happening because her mother may go and tell her sister (wifes Aunt) who will then tell her husband (evil man) of whom will just deny it and will know that my wife has started to remember what happened and try to get every one on his side, this will probably destroy my wife if it happens in that fashion. Any thoughts?

    Thanks again for your words and I pray you find peace.


  2. I am a husband of an amazing wife who after approximately 30yrs has come out that she was sexually abused by her so called Uncle of whom is still living in our town probably loving his life while we deal with the emotional

    pain and relationship changes for the rest of our lives.

    We have with held this information from most family members on her side due to the affects it may have as it goes down the line, it was my wifes aunts husband that had committed this horrible act to her when she was roughly

    10yrs old and unfortunately it was more than once, he threatened her of course therefore she told no one.

    It has come to the point now that she cannot hold it in from her mother (if you want to call her that) anymore and feels she needs to tell her, BUT we feel we need to tell our 3 children first and they are ages 9 (daughter), 12 (son) and 16 (son), how in gods name do you tell your amazing kids that are on a great path in life that someone had so brutally taken advantage of their loving mother at such a young age? We

    are so worried that this news may change the path that they are on at some point.

    Please any comments welcome and we appreciate them in advance.

    We truly hope that everyone can find peace in love and life and our thoughts are with you all.


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