Hell Memememe, I thank you for your thoughts and they make a lot of sense, I was not 100% that the younger kids didn't need to know right now BUT definitely the oldest because things as you know have been very stressful at times with arguments and a lot of unhappy faces at times....we are trying real hard to keep a good attitude but it does catch up to you eventually and it all has to come out. My wife has mentioned it to her counselor and has given us some ideas but really wanted some input from members that have gone through it...and I thank you. Another concern is now my wife wants to let h