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Kalalau

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  1. What Is It About Forced Sex...

    melsv - I once was told that when I wasn't ready to hear it. It made me so angry because it felt like another person trying to silence me (they told me not to tell people openly because abusers and perps will zone in on you) but I get it now. It's very unfortunate. Nothing fair about it all. briarrosa - I hate that it happened to you too and that the aftermath is so painful. It's so hard to heal and rebuild your life after whats happened but know you are doing your best and that is more than good enough. It's a huge trauma and ait takes a lot of time to heal these wounds well enough to make healthier choices and to desensitize the flashbacks and triggers. Go easy on yourself... you are trying and that means a lot. It means that you are strong and wise... you know what it takes to get through this... it just takes longer than we'd like. Sending both of you respect and endurance.
  2. What Is It About Forced Sex...

    Thank you flowergirl
  3. What Is It About Forced Sex...

    Thank you GermanSherpherd and all of you who respond with your wisdom. You are appreciated.
  4. Name Change But Still Kat Like....

    Another change. I am now Kalalau.
  5. Hi I New To The Site

    Welcome adragonfly. It's nice to meet you. I look forward to seeing you around the board. Take care.
  6. I'm A New Member!

    Welcome to AS... hopefully you can find some solace here.
  7. Hello Again

    Hi Phoggy
  8. Hello Again

    Thanks y'all.
  9. What Is It About Forced Sex...

    Thank you for the lovely responses. We are often so hard on ourselves. It's hard not to be at times... we can be wired that way. However, it's nice to remember basic reasoning for why we'd feel certain ways. When we do, sometimes we make space to feel compassion for ourselves or the situation. It's easy to offer that to others but seems to be a riddle when we need to apply it to ourselves. Anyways, thank you for the nice words.
  10. Hello Again

    Hello AS World I am no stranger to AS but I have been offline for quite some time now. My laptop is now functioning and I wanted to come on to say hi to those of you I've connected with previously, as well as, any newbies. Hope all is well. KKS
  11. Kathleen's Story Could Almost Be My Story

    Pilates I love pilates... wish I were addicted to it though. First of all, welcome to AS. This place has been a huge role in my online experience. I truly hope you can find a little bit of peace here... or just the ability to exhale once in a while. I am touched by your feedback about my story. I definitely feel for you... your words reach me. It's insane to wake up to a world where co-workers rape you, people betray you or let you down - some make rape ok or right - and then there is the judicial process. If you ever want to talk, I am here. I wish you rest and peace of mind in the weeks to come. Remember, when you are in those meetings with DAs and detectives, etc. or around people that hurt your heart, close your eyes and remember your purpose, your voice, your intetnion, your cause, your heart. Some people just aren't right in this world... some people are backwards. It is sad and disheartening, but what can you do? You, however, will have the right answers at each step... and it is best you listen to yourself. You will know what to do. Tune the world out as much as you can and look within. It gets overwhelming and hectic, but you can do this. There is no judgment here... (or anywhere that would matter) this is your life and only you know what is best. I hope you are being kind to you, as this world can be cruel. A really great book is "Recovering From Rape" by Linda E. Ledray, R.N., PH. D. It was my bible during that time. Anyways, sending you some love and support... and a big, fat welcome. Much love, Kathleen
  12. Returning After Sabbatical

    ((((((((((((((((((Athena))))))))))))))))))) Proud of you. Love you.
  13. What Is It About Forced Sex...

    i love your name, footy lol
  14. What Is It About Forced Sex...

    (((((((((((((((((Gumby))))))))))))) You are just great. I appreciate you so much.
  15. What Is It About Forced Sex...

    Love you too, AmyLyn. ;) ((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))
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