Not to mention, what, are you supposed to feel grateful for being harrassed? Honestly, some people's logic just boggles the mind.
I used to wake my boyfriend up pretty much nightly with nightmares. We have a sort of ritual, where he'll calm me down and we'll do breathing exercises, and then some word association until we found something happier for me to think about before I go back to sleep. Then we started meditating before bed altogether, and now I only have a nightmare about once a week or so.
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