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Hi Freedomflys, It is not easy to trust, and no one will take offense if it's hard for you to imagine that! You don't have to fully trust us to be here and be supported either, you can take as much time as you need. I am sorry for what you've been through and that every day is a struggle. Isolation is something many of us can understand, even here. There are no easy answers to how to move forward, but sometimes it can help to know that others 'get it' and you can be heard and validated, and you can share as little or as much as you choose. It's about your choice now. I hope you can fi

Hi Kyla, welcome to AS, although I'm sorry for what brings you here. It can feel isolating when we don't have anyone to talk to, and yet talking is not easy either. Please feel free to just be here knowing you are not alone in your feelings and experiences, even if you choose not to share. There is no pressure to talk, but we are ready to listen if you do. I hope that reading other peoples posts will help you , it can be a validating thing. I wish you all the best on your healing path, g

Hi Janine, welcome to AS, although I'm sorry for the trauma you've endured. You've found a supportive place, and please know that you are a strong woman, and after what you've been through the feelings you have are quite normal reactions. Please try to be gentle with yourself and take the time and support you need to heal. I wish you the best in your recovery.

Hi Tank Girl, welcome to AS! I'm glad you feel you are in the healing process, it's good to have people to talk to who understand. I know what you mean about feeling it is a long road and you wish things would get back to normal! I can relate to your anxieties, and those things sure can take a while to work through. Sometimes different types of therapies can help with that too, and the peer support here will hopefully at least help you feel less alone with it.

Hello and welcome to AS! I hope you will find this a place where you can discuss anything you need to and be heard and supported. I am glad you've found therapy helpful and I know what you mean about remnants. It is good to have a place where people can hear whatever you want to share and will 'get it' !

Hi, and welcome to AS! It is a supportive place, I'm glad you've been having a look around, please feel free to take your time to find your way round and post as much or as little as you like. I'm sorry about the trauma that led you to find us but glad you are here.

Welcome to AS, although I agree, it's not exciting to need to be here. I am sorry for why you are here but I hope that you will find this a supportive community where you can be heard and validated. If you have any questions about navigating the site or how things work around here please feel free to pm myself or any member of the Newbie Support Team.

Hi Nicole88, welcome to AS! You have found a supportive community here and I wish you the best in your healing. If you have any questions about navigating the site feel free to pm myself or any other member of the Newbie Support Team if you need to. I would suggest taking your time, having a look around the different forums, likely you will see posts that you can relate to and may want to respond to, or feel free to post your own thoughts, questions, or requests for support.

Welcome back! Sometimes a break is needed, we are glad to see you whenever you choose to be here, and I understand that it can be overwhelming or triggering just to be here sometimes, even though it's also very supportive. I am sorry you are having a tough time lately, and I hope that being here can help a little bit.

Hello @Invisible1, Welcome to AS! I am sorry for the trauma that brought you here. I am glad your perpetrators can no longer hurt you but you are right, it takes a long time before the memories leave us in peace. I am glad you have started therapy, and I hope you will find that it is worth fighting for yourself! I also keep on going for my husband and children sometimes, and in the past that was sometimes all that has kept me going, after a few years, I feel I can live for myself again. I hope that you will be patient with the time it takes to heal, as you say, this started at such a yo

Hi, and welcome to AS! I am so glad to hear you feel that you finally believe healing is possible. I understand what it takes to feel that way. I hope you will find this a supportive place to continue on your healing path, g

Hi and welcome to AS! You have found a supportive place to start to find your voice, it can take time but you are already taking the brave steps to start posting and saying hello here! Best wishes on your healing journey. g

Hi and welcome to AS! I know what you mean about feeling like it's 'too much' for your friends. It's not too much, and I am sure you aren't annoying but I understand wanting another outlet, and sometimes I've found it more helpful to talk to peers who understand and have been through it too, even though our experiences are different a lot of our feelings are the same. The forum is here for you to explore, look around, post replies to other members or post your own topics for discussion, questions you have, asking for support, talking about your experiences. Feel free to take your time and p

Hi @fleur de lis, Welcome to AS! I hope that you will find the support and connection you are seeking. I understand being nervous - it can be daunting to reach out and to express these experiences and feelings we struggle with. It can feel good to connect with others but it can also feel more 'real'. You are not alone, please take your time and find your way around, you can share as much or as little as you want to.

Hello Redness, welcome to AS, (fellow Canadian here:) I am sorry for what you went through, but glad you found this site. It really does help to find a community that understands what you've been through, where you can speak your truth. This a place where you will not be judged. I think there are quite a few threads here about coping strategies on the path to healing too, so please have a look around and feel free to share as much or as little as you like and feel ready to.

Hi, and welcome to AS Kanny! I'm glad you found this place, but sorry for the trauma you went through. You asked about mentioning anything trauma related, and yes of course you are welcome to share as much or as little as you want, although you might want to share more in other parts of the forum, as this 'Welcome' forum is public and may come up in internet searches, while the other forums are seen by members only. But feel free to have a look around and take your time. I think you will find other threads and members here who will relate to you and what you are going through.

Hi @Youngbellbird, and welcome to our AS community! I'm sorry for the trauma that brought you here, but you've found a supportive place where others 'get it' and won't judge you. I'm sorry that people you are trying to talk to are not responding in a way that is helpful or supportive. I totally relate to the feeling that others think you are going to melt down all of a sudden if you talk about it! It can definitely be very isolating. I hope you will feel less alone here!

Hi @Lily S Welcome to AS! I am sorry for the trauma that led you here, but glad you found our community and took the first step to reach out. It is a supportive place where you will meet people who understand what you are coping with. I wish you the best in your healing, g

Hello Sakuralzumi, and welcome to AS! I am sorry for the trauma that brings you here. I am not sure there really is a 'normal' - but confusion and difficulty coping are certainly very common responses to SA. And 9 months, is not a long time. Many of us are still coming to terms with events long past- not to discourage you, but rather to say, please don't beat yourself up if you're not 'over it' . Healing is not a linear process, different things come up at different times, and although we all have our own struggles I think you will find there are also a lot of similarities. Being here he

Hello Meggers, and welcome to AS! It can be very difficult for many of us to express our trauma to anyone, you are not alone with that. This is a supportive and validating place to share a little, a lot, whatever you are comfortable with, at your own pace. I hope that the validation here will help you with self blame. It is very common for survivors to blame ourselves, but that too, can serve a protective function sometimes. We do what we can to survive! Please have a look around and I hope you will feel less alone, that there are others here who like you, didn't talk about what happ

Hello, and welcome to AS! I am sorry the last few years have been difficult for you, but I'm glad you found this community. It is a place where you will be believed and supported as you share whatever you are ready to share, in your own time. You are not alone!

Hi @kala1024 Welcome to AS! I’m sorry for the trauma that brings you here, but you’ve found a supportive place. I can understand the feelings you describe, wondering if things will ever get better . It sounds like you are doing a lot of work on your healing and I’m sorry you are still feeling discouraged and alone . This place helped me a lot with feelings of isolation and I hope it will also help you. Take your time to look around and feel free to post as much or as little as you like, as you feel ready.

Hello and welcome to AS! We are glad you found are supportive community. I also hope reading and posting here will help with your confusion. Chances are if you found this place, it's because you belong here. I think you will find people here will listen and validate your experiences, but take your time, have a look around, sometimes reading posts is a good way to see that others share your experiences or feelings. I wish you the best as you heal, g

Hi @ariadne, and welcome to AS, although I'm sorry for the trauma that brought you here. I am glad you have escaped the abusive relationship but I understand how the after effects can be so challenging, coming to terms with and recovering from what happened. You are not alone here!

Yes! It is really important in these times, that we find people who will listen with a caring, non judgmental and validating ear. You are welcome here and we support you! You are not alone with it. And sometimes it helps me to see, that even though many people still defend Kavanaugh, there are millions of voices defending Ford as well, believing her. That gives me hope. I am sorry that those around you are not supportive though, that really hurts, and must feel very isolating.