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Merry Christmas!

Hello L3anne, I'm sad for whatever has brought you to after silence but I'm glad you found us. Though I wish nothing had happened that made it so you belong here I hope you will feel welcome and supported in all the ways an online support community can help on your journey to heal and cope with whatever has brought you here. Much strength to you

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Hello Found!!!! Good to see you again!!! Yes technical difficulty with the chat a long time now.

welcome to AS

I am so sorry to hear of your recent attack . I wish you had not had such a traumatic crime against you, but I'm glad you found AS (After Silence) as a resource that I hope can be a small part of the kind and compassionate support you deserve to heal from what brought you here. I am glad you are in therapy and are using arts and writing to help you cope. It's understandable that it is still a struggle sometimes to deal with this horrific crime, and again I hope that the people of AS can help you as you work to heal. Strength to you and welcome to AS

Welcome Rocker!!! I'm sorry you have reasons to be here but glad you found us and hope you will find it is a kind and supportive place to help you as you heal and recover from what has brought you. Activist Ally

Hello Xenon I'm glad you said hello and whenever you like at your own pace you can say more if you wish to or just observe. You're welcome here!!!

Hi Kmkz, Welcome to AS! I hope you will feel supported with kindness here and will realize your own strength and courage as well!!!

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Ah I'm very sorry about that @Solus I would think that the best thing to do now is to post in the help desk area (viewable only between you and moderators/admins) and express you are having difficulty with this issue I do think maybe your bogus date did save though as it says 1867??? You'd be 150 years old in that case and I'm willing to bet you aren't that ancient!!!

@Solus Also sorry this is so complicated but you go to the upper right where your name is, click the drop down then there is an area called settings and you choose "Account Settings" and then it will display a page where on the right it will say "Other Settings" and under that is "Edit Profile" and then you can either enter "not telling" or enter a random date and THEN you must go to the very bottom right of that page and click "Save" for it to take it. See if that works please?

@Solus It looks like it is still showing up on yours? You can try going to birthday and entering 01 01 01 or something like all 000000 or anything it will take that is not the actual date? Or you can enter "not telling" and see if that will work? Also, not sure if maybe there is a box that says "Save changes" on the settings page when you tell it you are not telling?

Hello @Solus and to anyone else with this question!!! Please try going to "settings" which is on the upper right hand of each page on AS (after silence) where your user name is listed and you can get a drop down box for settings. From settings on the right hand of the page it says "Other settings" and "edit profile". If you go to "edit profile" it will have "birthday" which I filled in as "not telling" and then it won't display for others. That said, once you set your birthday to "not telling" it will not display for other people. If you however look at your own profile it

Of course we remember you Beyond, sorry that you are not doing so well at the moment but welcome back!

Hello Miss L I hope you will feel safe and at home here and that you can reconnect with yourself with the support of people here. Activist Ally

Hi Koala, well, I'm sorry you suffered that attack so many years ago...but i'm glad you found our site so hopefully you can be able to talk about what happened and further your conviction that it was not your fault. It was not your fault. I hope being able to unburden this trauma will help you as you work towards living your life with freedom for the years ahead of you. And I hope that the people of AS (After Silence) will be a part of the support you deserve as you work on healing. with care, Activist Ally

Welcome to AS (After Silence) Unicorn I am part of the Newbie support team and will send you the answers to your questions but briefly you need 10 posts as Princesskay said to access chat and share my story. Well again welcome to AS, though I'm sad you went through all those things to bring you here, I am glad this site is here for you. Activist Ally

Welcome to After Silence i'm sorry that you went through all kinds of abuse to bring you here but glad you found AS (After Silence). i hope you'll find the people here to be supportive as you work to heal and deal with past truamas and that you'll meet friends here who understand. Activist Ally

A huge thank you to PatriciaG for putting this together! Helpful terminology: On After Silence (AS), we use a short form for common words that may not be familiar to you. Here are some of the most common ones used: AS = AfterSilence (the Forum) PM = Private Message TW = Trigger Warning C = Counselor T = Therapist DV=Domestic Violence SI = Self Injury IRL = In Real Life TBH=To Be Honest TY = Thank You TC = Take Care R or R*** = Rape SA=Sexual Assualt CSA=Childhood Sexual Assualt DID= Dissociative Ident

I want to express my gratitude for PatriciaG for putting this FAQ post together for us. Thank you so much PatriciaG! Getting to know the Newbie Support Team (NST). The NST staff members would like to introduce ourselves to you. @ActivistAlly is our Team Leader. @MeBeMary, @Finchy, @missfrier, @snmls, and @WannaMoveOn are all here to welcome you and answer any questions about this site. You can contact any of these NST staff members by hovering over the button of their name above. If viewing the main page, you may see them at the bottom of the page of online members. A

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