WingedDragon

You were NEVER a mother :nonono: :nonono:

Well very shy and quiet person, Welcome to AS. I am glad you found your way to this place of acceptance and healing and support. Do whatever you need to at your own pace and keep coming back, it helps. I am Dragon, btw. Hugs, if they are okay and again, Welcome.

The neglect is such a big part of a life of trauma. It ranges from emotional to medical to daily needs like food and clothing. That does not even touch on the way it changes our lives. I think it would be a good idea to have a place for that specifically. I know it would be someplace I would post and read.

Hi Scout Welcome to AS and I hope that you keep coming. Helen was a truly amazing individual wasn't she? I like the quote, it is fitting. I hope to "see" more of you and share what you feel comfortable with and know that without needing to be understood, although you will find that is a big part of the beauty of this place, you are accepted. Hugs to you if they are okay and I am glad you found the door to the road for your journey to a healing place. I am sorry that anyone ever hurt you. It was wrong and they should not have. Hugs and blessed be Dragon

Hi Nikki I hope you find the support and acceptance here that you cannot find in other places. Please know that you are not alone and you are most welcome. This is a place where there is no need for a mask or a false face. You are on a new path, a path to healing. I hope that your journey is one that brings a true smile to your face. Dragon

I should welcome more often. Welcome to AS and I am so glad you are here. It is a most wonderful and supportive place to learn and heal and express feelings that are not always understood outside of our little cyber community. Hugs, if they are okay Dragon

I wanted to welcome you to AS and say that I am glad that you chose this place over isolation. We are all so isolated in life already. I was born in Texas, some place called Monahans? Hugs if they are okay Dragon

:butterfly: Hi Ambie I remember you very well. I wanted to hug you the first time we met, but if you go around hugging people, they sometimes hit you, lol. I will hug you the next time I see you. You are such a beautiful young woman and, yes, I did see behind your eyes. I waited a few days to come back to the store as I didn't want to frighten you. I am speechless really, and that is not my norm. I can only say that if everything that I ever experienced in my childhood and youth helped you, it was all worth it! I am more than happy that you found the site and that you have made connectio

Hi Audry I am glad you found the site. I have found it to be most helpful and hope that you do as well. I understood most of what you posted in way of diagnosis, but the last two I did not know? GAD and PCOS? I am sorry you were hurt and glad to hear you have support from your spouse. As for being isolated, I can remember when my kids were little, it was difficult. A suggestion, if it's okay, is to make some play dates with other Mom's. They can come over to your place and socialize while the little ones play. So, hello and welcome to AS. I am glad you are here. Hugs, if they are okay D

My thoughts exactly with the "not just five words" statement. =) Five words just doesn't do it for me. I have to agree. I would really feel that an outlet specifically for the purpose of writing to our abuser/abusers could offer a different type of healing. I have a lot I'd like to say. Dragon

Too many abusers, so I just picked a few. You were never my mother. You never destroyed my spirit. You are not my stepfather. I was only a child! That was not real love. I did not want to. I had trusted you! I survived it after all.

My brother, on the abuse I experienced that he only remembers bits and pieces of..... "It would be better if you stopped dwelling on the past and looked to the future" or "keep your chin up, you are stronger than you think" "Why do you think about it all the time? Focus on something else" "It was a long time ago and you should be better by now" " I only expect you to do your best, that's all" "I helped you last year because I felt so guilty about what happened when we were kids" He was rescued and I wasn't. His "help" came at the cost of any crumb of pride I might have scraped off the flo

Hi Rose that is a really awesome idea. I feel it has made trust that much more difficult and has created a great deal of my distorted thinking. I would like a thread for that too. Hugs Dragon

I'll admit that I am not a big fan of country music. Some of it I like and most not. I do like John Denver, rip. and remember singing his songs and playing guitar with my sister Tina. I had to put a roast in the slow cooker so that it would not go to waste and so I was cooking on the stove and all that stuff. I have a small clock alarm and cd player in the kitchen and the cd was a hits cd by John D. I was singing, as usual and decided to sing to my Inner Child. She likes music, even if she doesn't come out much to sing it. There are songs that can be seen as romantic and if you take the roma

Hello Lil One I am Dragon, the good kind. I have silver sparkles in my wings and the tips shine like diamonds. I am sorry you are sad today. I know that Angel will take very good care of you. I'll hug her and she can hug you and hen maybe I can hug you too. Would that be alright Ninnie? I want you to know that your are safe and there is nothing to hurt you today. It is a safe day. You are safe Ninnie. Can you hug Angel? She needs a big hug, just like you. You are such a brave little girl and it's okay to peek out and see us, to see me and to see Angel. She would like to see you and to help

Hello Lil One I am Dragon, the good kind. I have silver sparkles in my wings and the tips shine like diamonds. I am sorry you are sad today. I know that Angel will take very good care of you. I'll hug her and she can hug you and hen maybe I can hug you too. Would that be alright Ninnie? I want you to know that your are safe and there is nothing to hurt you today. It is a safe day. You are safe Ninnie. Can you hug Angel? She needs a big hug, just like you. You are such a brave little girl and it's okay to peek out and see us, to see me and to see Angel. She would like to see you and to help

????????? Destiny, are you sure she is gone, dead? She may just be buried so deeply within you that you cannot see or find her. I hope you keep searching. I tried this new things that someone else spoke of , in a different context, about feeling her inner child. I bought a few very youthful coloring books, like the ones we would give to a 2-5 year old. I sat and started to color with my "left" and, rather than my right. I am right handed. It was a very interesting experience and I plan to so this more. I felt young and found myself concentrating to stay in the lines and even biting

Good morning and welcome. I believe there are many different venues here and hope you find the support you are looking for. Welcome! Dragon

Thank you so much for the hello. I really needed one tonight. Dream sweet dreams Tamm Dragon

Thank you for the welcome. It helps.

I am at a loss for words. I can only say that you show great courage in your continued walk through life and to keep moving forward. I can only hope that "he" will be unable to violate anyone else. I know that is not very realistic and of little or no comfort. I hope you can find a way to be alright within yourself.

Thanks Anna. It's nice to be welcomed and I hope the day brings something good your way.

Hello, I am new to this site. I have been working on "recovery" for over half of my life and am still working on it. I am a single Mom with three teenage children and one is married and has had her first child. I am 47, obviously female, lol. I have a great deal to share and am looking for some much needed support and understanding. I have found that there is a very limited amount of understanding where I live and am hoping that this site will have what I am looking for. I am a college graduate, but at present, am not able to work. I don't know what else to add and so I'll just say thank yo