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  1. Thinking of you.... :hug:


    I hope life is treating you well. 

    You deserve the best. :bighug:


  2. Logging In To As

    Thank you for the advice John. And thank you SO MUCH for working so hard to help everyone have access to the boards!!! You mods and admins ROCK!!
  3. Logging In To As

    also having problems. sometimes i can log in, other times not. not sure what to make of it..... and when i try to post to a topic, while signed in, it won't post.... so i refresh the page, then it tells me i'm not logged in and need to log in to post! but then i can't log in! - i will put in my info, click log in, and then nothing! ... just... same page asking me to log in.... very confusing.... ------ edit: woot! it worked that time! yeesh.......
  4. Hey

    Welcome to AS. I am sorry for why you are here, but glad that you found us. I hope you find what you need, and continue to reach out. There are many people on here who are just like you and want to heal and others who have healed and want to help others. This is a safe place. And I am really glad you have found us.
  5. Intro *t*?

    Welcome to After Silence! I am sorry for the reason you are here but glad you have found us. We have a great thriving online support group here and you are always welcome Just know that you are not alone. We are all survivors here and know what it's like to feel alone and as if the world doesn't understand or have a clue...
  6. So I noticed that there is a thread on 'Sexual Assault: Different Types' for SA with out violence... Is it possible to have a thread on there for SA that included/involved violence? Talking to some members on here makes me feel like I'm in the minority of those who got hurt physically as part of the SA... And sometimes I feel like I'm also one of the minority who tried to fight back or resist physically and got hurt because of it... While all rapes are horrible and damaging, not all included physical violence. I would like for there to be a place where I don't feel so alone or the odd one out... Maybe I am just being silly... But lately I keep running into more and more members where the question of, 'was it rape?' is getting harder and harder to answer. I never had a doubt that I was attacked and raped, neither did my attacker. I had the marks and bruises on my skin and the threats of more pain he promised me if I didn't start to cooperate. I KNOW it was rape. It was violent. Can there be a place for those of us who were SA with/including physical violence?
  7. Im New

    Welcome angel23! I'm sorry for the reason you have to be here, but glad that you found us. As far as "properly" using the site, use it as you need it. Read other's stories. Read their posts about their life and issues, share some of your own, feel free to ask for advice/help, and know that you are not alone. You will find people here who understand and know exactly what you are going through, because we have gone through it ourselves. I hope you find this site as useful and helpful as I have. Welcome.
  8. 5 Words To Your Perpetrator

    I did this a long time ago when I first joined this site, 4 months ago... While the words I said then are still true, and how I still feel to a certain extent... Recently I have been feeling a lot of other things, and I'm just now realizing what some of the core roots of my problems in general are. And considering my very strong fears that have finally bubbled up to the surface after everything.... I think I have new words. "Please, stay away from me." Just thinking about him scares me so much....
  9. Has As Been Changed - Or Is Just Me?

    OOooooo-kay.... *THAT* was weird. i was just typing out a post when all of a sudden my "skin" (didn't even know we had those!!!) suddenly changed in mid-type to "spring fling!". That was not pleasant.... i like the concept of it, but WAY too many different colors. And the little boxes for everyone's post was so frigging big/long!!!! i could feel my whole head doing that egyptian back and forth thing trying to read the posts. Creatures of habit indeed. Fortunately I managed to find the skins and put it back on "lotus", which is the one I've been used to and using for the past 4 months... But it still seems off somehow??? A little different??? Am I crazy??
  10. Email Notifications

    This is a great idea! I hope it gets changed.
  11. A New Diary Forum?

    Thank you.
  12. A New Diary Forum?

    That's not a bad idea betty, but I don't feel yet like I'm "further along my healing journey" yet. And it could also possibly alienate others who are brand new and are still dealing with a lot of the trauma? Maybe I am just being selfish, but I really want a forum just for members to make their own public, about-me diaries. I just think it would make getting to know everyone SO much easier. Just my 2 cents.
  13. A New Diary Forum?

    I was thinking about it the other day, and thought it would be great to have a forum where each member could post a topic and it would be all about them, what's going on, how they are doing each day, what's new in their lives, etc. Kinda like a public online diary. It could either be set up to only allow the topic starter to add new posts/replies to their Diary Topic, or it could allow others to reply as well. Either way really, I could see the benefit of both. But essentially it would be an easy way to let the whole board get to know someone. And it would be really easy for the member/topic poster to edit out any information they no longer want shared with the public. There's just so many forums on this site to share specific pieces of information about each individual, but no place to share it all in one location. I find myself wondering about a particular person, and sifting through hundreds of past posts by them to try to understand them better, or I find myself wanting to share certain details in a diary-like topic, as a way to let people know what's new with me or what's going on now in my life, but there's really no place for me to post this, and I don't deem the info that I want to share as important enough to make a whole new topic(like how I took a great picture of my dogs with the cat the other day, or that I took an important step in "getting out and having fun" again). I almost considered using my first post in the welcome page like this, but decided against it. Another added benefit of each person being able to have their own 'diary' would be a chance to see how their own thought processes have evolved, to see how far they have come, as a reminder of where they use to be in the past, and how things have gotten better. It's so easy to dismiss small things/steps as progress, but even the littlest thing, step by step, helps us move forward in our healing. I'm not sure if I'm making a very good argument for a new "Diary Forum" or not. But I know that I would like one, and maybe some other people on here would like one too. It could go under the Body and Mind section.
  14. Chat Room

    Oh awesome! YAY! I do feel so much better. Thank you all. I was worried it was a permanent change. lol.
  15. Chat Room

    I also just sent a message to the chat admin. Didn't even think of doing that, thank you karen.